What happened to your last relationship?I guess you broke up and it wasn't fun.No matter how strong you thought you were,it probably hurt like hell and you dealt with it(or are still dealing with it).You rely on the healing power of Time or the company of both friends and family.In preparing for the next relationship,being objective will take you far.You have to use your better judgement if you long for the feeling of satisfaction and fulfilment.


1.Let us face it.Being in a relationship takes a lot of energy.It will do you good to take some of that energy and direct it inwards.You are put on this earth to make someone happy hence the importance of a relationship but you have to know what you are bringing to the table.Let's be honest,humans are selfish by nature,we don't want to deal with other people's issues.Working on yourself while in a new relationship is depriving the other person of joy and placing an unnecessary burden on them.They might suck it up and try to be understanding but it is hard to stay involved with someone who has not resolved their issues.

2.Never sell yourself short of what you are worth.Be true to yourself and don't try to conform to what men say they want because they don't know what they want,most of the time.A man knows if you are his 'type' within a week.It is obvious he is looking for something better if its been longer than a month and he hasn't asked you to be his.

Understand that not every man is a player.Some men chose to be single for as long as possible because of the instinctive feeling in their guts.Sometimes,it is the fear of commitment but most men are not impressed enough to give up their options.A man meets a girl and hope she is the total package but somewhere between the first phone call and the first time he sees her naked,he realizes she isn't what he thought she was at first.

At this point,let me hint you on what the passive sabotage breakup is.It is what guys do when thet stop caring and hope you are smart enough to get the point and break up with them so they don't have to say it.'Taking a break' is an excuse for selfish guys to go sleep with other people and come back anytime they want.It is simply eating your cake and have it.

3.Learning to be alone is the only way you will ever know yourself.Who are you outside of someone's girlfriend?What do you enjoy doing that does not revolve around sex or hanging out with a guy?Take some time and focus on other important things.Everyone longs to be loved but don't let your desire to be loved overwhelm and blind you to important issues.Many are looking for a quick fix to plug the holes in their lives so they jump from one relationship to the other without taking time to enjoy the freedom of being single.Don't think having a boyfriend will make you happy and give you the validation that you are a catch.Regardless,if you can find someone who want to be with you or not,you should have the confidence that you are valuable.Know your position,many ladies can't tell if they are really single or not because they didn't end a relationship and they are busy granting audience to several guys at the same time.

There will be times you feel awkward because you don't have the comfort of being with a partner but you are only as bored as your personality.If you are a fun person,you are going to find entertainment in any crowd.Heed my words,you won't be single for ever,so enjoy it while it last.