The issue of privacy has been a long time issue.Should guys/babes be allowed total access to all their partners have?Text messages,e-mails,Facebook password,Bank account balance,etc.So,do you think there should be privacy in relationships or, as far as there's love and seriousness,should there be total openess?

Privacy please

no

it depends

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To learn my partner's passwords, PIN, access codes, etc ?!!!
I am not even sure I can remember all of my passwords. God help!
When it comes to privacy question, two pople should make an agreement beforehand, otherwise misunderstanding could ruin the r/s.

@ibkaye: Hope u don't read 'his' textmessages?Cos u seem to xtra want privacy.And hey! Hope u don't have nothing to hide?

@fiona0007: All those pin codes etc r goin to d xtreme.But for common stuffs like textmessages,facebook password or e-mail passwords,do u mind?

I trust everybody except the devil in them

ebila:

@fiona0007: All those pin codes etc r goin to d xtreme.But for common stuffs like textmessages,facebook password or e-mail passwords,do u mind?

Yes, I do mind if he is not married to me.
I for one, won't ask his fb password or email password. Relationships are built on trust. When I want to see what he's got in his inbox, I will ask him to show me. If he refused, I should know something is not right. But there should be no room for just plain misunderstanding, I will get the bottom it first.
he can do the same to me. Ask me when he wants to see my personal mails.
But text messages may be another matter, they are too easy to check out and not password protected. Maybe not a big deal.

To a large extent privacy shouldn't if both partners trust,understand öne another.

If there is nothing to hide. I should be able to read text messages. They usually reveal a lot.

i dont read other people's stuff so no one should read mine
privacy is quite important in my opinion

Without privacy ones eventually loses his/herself in a relationsip,(personal identity) . . . . .

I so much value personal space, . . . .

I think there should be some level of privacy. Like neither person should be snooping through text messages or soiling into e-mails in secret, but at the same time neither party should have anything to hide. Like it shouldn't be a big deal if you leave your e-mail up and I glance at your inbox before I log you out. You shouldn't be diving across the room to log out because I glanced at your e-mail for a second as I tried to log out. Or you shouldn't be worried if I want to use your phone, and wanting to erase "check something" on your phone before I can use it.

But the whole sharing passwords and pin code thing, I think its a bit too much unless it's a joint account of some sort. If you trust me why do you want to log into my e-mail or facebook when I'm not there?

Tatase:

I think there should be some level of privacy. Like neither person should be snooping through text messages or soiling into e-mails in secret, but at the same time neither party should have anything to hide. Like it shouldn't be a big deal if you leave your e-mail up and I glance at your inbox before I log you out. You shouldn't be diving across the room to log out because I glanced at your e-mail for a second as I tried to log out. Or you shouldn't be worried if I want to use your phone, and wanting to erase "check something" on your phone before I can use it.

But the whole sharing passwords and pin code thing, I think its a bit too much unless it's a joint account of some sort. If you trust me why do you want to log into my e-mail or facebook when I'm not there?

I like this.Talk about maturity! Nice one Tatase!

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privacy should be allowed out of respect and trust, but you should not HIDE anything.
its a thin line especially when you live together.
My partner and I have privacy, but at the same time, if i e-mail or FB account was open when he went online, i would not be worried about what he will see etc, cos i have nothing to hide and vice versa
so i can leave my phone in same room as him and go out or even ask him to answer my call when i am out of reach - but it doesnt mean he should go sneaking up behind me checking my msgs etc,

Luxoire,can i borrow u from him for awhile?LOL

what exactly is privacy?

ebila:

Luxoire,can i borrow u from him for awhile?LOL

i donty think he will say yes to that - but you can ask when i make him mad!! lol - i didnt always used to be this way, it took alot of learning to get to this stage and the mutual trust pays off

Ben20001:

what exactly is privacy?

Privacy. What if you find out something you'd rather not know
That'll be an eye opener.