Vinshu:


Your post script is nullified with your initial statement. So because women provoke men that is an excuse for domestic violence? What are you saying?

nkemdi89:

Yes it mostly for those perverts who are into fetishism, although it's not normal because it can be attributed to a psychological disorder.

kaziblake:
I totally disagree with no 3...A woman who goes out to work in order to feed you and the kids while you stay home doing nothing have every right to insult and even deny you sex.

Mecheww

Real men don't beat their wives

Olabestonic001:



You're very right about those types of domestic.
Only that most men actually goes through the other 3 apart from the first one. Sometime, its the foolish reaction to the last three one that causes men to express the first one. But, sincerely, without GOD being given the onus of one's marital life, I sense more marital issues in the next generation. Not the ways some folks comments here.

MondeLuv:
OP if your dad beats your mother always, how would you feel?

Festivalofholi:
A lot of peeps commenting did not read d article. Op is not in anyway supporting domestic violence, instead d article is to help women to know how to curb domestic violence. U ladies shuld be thanking d op.

Wealthgang:
People who usually rant "never lay hands on a woman no matter what" are those who end up doing it. Its not just by ranting it, u have to understand d real principle behind that statement. I know this from experience.

So why should u generally not lay hands on a woman? Simple! Cos women are generally perceived as weaker (physically) than men, hence are defenseless.
In order words, d real quip should be "never lay hands on a defenseless person (male or female)" instead of "never lay hands on a woman". The latter is by no means a moral absolute.

Saying that it is never justifiable under any circumstance whatsoever, to "lay hands on a woman" is d stupidest thing anyone can say.
As a martial arts student, I wouldn't fight with a lady (non-martial arts) any more than I wouldn't fight a 12yr-old boy or a disabled person. They're defenseless.

In d case where a lady is not defenseless n tries anything physical with u, by all means defend urself.
If d lady is defenseless but provokes u, by all means control urself no matter what.
If she's defenseless but still attacks u, by all means give her a dirty slap. It shud end dere, punches n kicks n headbutts not allowed.

I remember an incident that happnd in UBA bank uniport (which is usually crowded). A girl was shouting n cursing in d bank over her 5k which was wrongly deducted n d staff were trying 2 calm her down. Then a boy sitting elsewhere told her 2 calm down, that d money was just 5k na and would be refunded. This didn't go well with d gal cos b4 we knew it, she walked up to 2 boy & slapped him hard. As if that wasn't enough, she took off her slippers n slapped d boy again with it, to d dismay of evry1. She wanted 2 hit him again b4 a guy drew her away. D customers inside d bank were so angry n some were prompting d boy 2 give d gal a dirty slap n were swearing d gal would have died if it was them. The boy didn't react but just walkd outside.

What happnd afta, I dnt know.

If u were in his shoes, what wud u do?
If it was me, I won't hesitate 2 slap her back n front. Y have d guts 2 slap me in public? "Never lay hands on a woman" my ass. Wud also do same if it was a guy.
Some women don't hesitate 2 slap n attack men because they have that mentality an absolute law is guiding dem n they kw how 2 cry a river when a finger touches them. Bullshit!

As for wife-beating, men who do dat are goats n I wonder how women still go ahead 2 marry such men. One big cause of it is poverty n blockheadedness. U hardly c wealthy/enlightnd pple pummeling their wives.
Where I blame women 4 it is y they allow themselvs 2 be beaten continuously all in d name of luv or i-want-to-save-my-marriage

ucheHapers:
Jesus, did people actually read the article. It's obvious people are in a haste to comment without reading even the first sentence. No wonder it's written

"They have eyes but cannot see"

Doubleagent008:
Amen thank you for the prayer. we all need it.
like I have stated, I'm in no support of it. thanks for presenting those statistics. then I think definition of terms would come in handy here so that we aren't lumping different things together as one.
domestic Violence on one side hitting a woman on another.
I as a man I would eternally be ashamed should I hit my wife ( my personal principle) - this I believe is what qualifies as domestic Abuse right? I won't hit my wife. I made vows to love and protect my LADY( first step to prevent myself from such shame would be to get myself a LADY). that is a promise I have to keep beating her up at any provocation invalidates those vows. Keeping to your word is the principle of a man. please get me right. I have not supported domestic violence ( he is your wife - your pride and trouble you signed the contract deal with it). but what I am talking about is the erroneous belief that every woman can do as she please even to the state of being physical with a man and get away with it ( simply because she is a woman). the first rule is protect yourself first. you don't go rubbing petrol on your body and hoping that the fire would be nice and considerate enough not to burn you. A woman should behave like a Lady. my reference here is to the instance the guy I quoted gave as regards the situation in the banking hall... what the lady did was uncalled for. Kudos to the guy that he exercise restraint. Bravo!! but for a guy who didn't I won't join the band wagon that will shout " send him to the gallows" because the said woman or girl could have behaved as a lady and talk to the guy about her displeasure at his remarks...
Like someone said, Dead men don't explain ( something like that).
I have got a mom and I love her and it would kill me to see someone physically abuse my mother outside. But as have also not heard of it that my mother put herself in a risky situation of unladylike behavior. that's all I am saying.

kaziblake:
I ....A woman who goes out to work in order to feed you and the kids while you stay home doing nothing have every right to insult and even deny you sex.

Mecheww

Real men don't beat their wives

kaziblake:
I totally disagree with no 3...A woman who goes out to work in order to feed you and the kids while you stay home doing nothing have every right to insult and even deny you sex.

Mecheww

Real men don't beat their wives

sabiguy:


So what about a man who goes out to work in order to feed you and the kids while you stay home doing nothing also have every right to insult, deny u sex and beat the crap out of you right??

You are a good example of r e t a r d e d n e s s and imbecility. The man wey go marry u don suffer. I rebuke your kind of Lady in my life. Amen

Suigeneris93:
My dear, the op's topic already says it all and now we're on it...so if your wife cheats on you it will be legit for you to raise your hands on her and probably kill her in the process abi

tmtech:
Fake azz men everywhere.. If ur female boss at work insults u, r u gonna knock her out.. Dey wud rather go home nd take it out on their wives... Fake azzes... No excuse for domestic violence.. If u r tired den pull out... Battering ur wife may not be a serious offence in naija buh murder is definite a capital one.............

Wealthgang:
People who usually rant "never lay hands on a woman no matter what" are those who end up doing it. Its not just by ranting it, u have to understand d real principle behind that statement. I know this from experience.

So why should u generally not lay hands on a woman? Simple! Cos women are generally perceived as weaker (physically) than men, hence are defenseless.
In order words, d real quip should be "never lay hands on a defenseless person (male or female)" instead of "never lay hands on a woman". The latter is by no means a moral absolute.

Saying that it is never justifiable under any circumstance whatsoever, to "lay hands on a woman" is d stupidest thing anyone can say.
As a martial arts student, I wouldn't fight with a lady (non-martial arts) any more than I wouldn't fight a 12yr-old boy or a disabled person. They're defenseless.

In d case where a lady is not defenseless n tries anything physical with u, by all means defend urself.
If d lady is defenseless but provokes u, by all means control urself no matter what.
If she's defenseless but still attacks u, by all means give her a dirty slap. It shud end dere, punches n kicks n headbutts not allowed.

I remember an incident that happnd in UBA bank uniport (which is usually crowded). A girl was shouting n cursing in d bank over her 5k which was wrongly deducted n d staff were trying 2 calm her down. Then a boy sitting elsewhere told her 2 calm down, that d money was just 5k na and would be refunded. This didn't go well with d gal cos b4 we knew it, she walked up to 2 boy & slapped him hard. As if that wasn't enough, she took off her slippers n slapped d boy again with it, to d dismay of evry1. She wanted 2 hit him again b4 a guy drew her away. D customers inside d bank were so angry n some were prompting d boy 2 give d gal a dirty slap n were swearing d gal would have died if it was them. The boy didn't react but just walkd outside.

What happnd afta, I dnt know.

If u were in his shoes, what wud u do?
If it was me, I won't hesitate 2 slap her back n front. Y have d guts 2 slap me in public? "Never lay hands on a woman" my ass. Wud also do same if it was a guy.
Some women don't hesitate 2 slap n attack men because they have that mentality an absolute law is guiding dem n they kw how 2 cry a river when a finger touches them. Bullshit!

As for wife-beating, men who do dat are goats n I wonder how women still go ahead 2 marry such men. One big cause of it is poverty n blockheadedness. U hardly c wealthy/enlightnd pple pummeling their wives.
Where I blame women 4 it is y they allow themselvs 2 be beaten continuously all in d name of luv or i-want-to-save-my-marriage

kevinberry:
Every body is calming the all knowing on the internet..

Domestic violence is mostly the result of verbal abuse,you all can insult the op from now till tomorrow it won't change anything,we have been more vocal against violence towards women,what about verbal abuse towards men..until we give the same attention we give to domestic violence towards women to verbal. Abuse towards men,nothing will change,we will just keep on going in circles,repeating same mistakes,a woman insult another lady,which result in both of them exchanging blows,every one keeps quiet the sme thing happen but this time to a man the man attacked her everyone start calling him a beast...

Two things I won't take from a lady,verbally abusing me and physical assault,in my world you griping my shirt alone is an assault either male or female...

Equity over equality

Vinshu:
Your misogyny is pathetic . Real men don't lay hands on women.

AnakinSkywalker:

Simply put, only point 1 is valid.

All men must be men and show maturity with women. Being a man goes beyond having a "P.enis".

No woman born of another man or woman can ever make me lay a finger on any WOMAN unless out of self defense for my life or for the life of a loved one.

Men should learn and grow beyond the childish acts of women.

dare2differ:
I know but you can only blame their brothers, fathers and mothers

cowgirl9090:
I don't see reasons why a wife shouldn't ask her husband to help out in the kitchen or in domestic chores except she is an housewife but if she also works the husband don't need to be told he should help out .

dare2differ:
You'll need to be a woman to understand the pains married women go through. Don't tell me I don't know what i am saying. What on earth would make a man attack his wife's disabled painful leg? You sincerely do not want to listen to that excuse. I know a woman who restricts her husband whenever he is going out because she knows that his going out means wasting the limited resources they hav. What about a woman who lost her left ear? What about the one that had acid thrown on her...and so many more.

What I understand is...we are all humans, we face pressures and I am going to disagree with you if you tell me that your reality is more serious than mine. It isn't. What is not wrong is wrong. No further explanation.

The reason I am not going to agree with your 'fact' is because I can also argue that for every time a woman initiated abuse usually verbal, it is a man's fault. It could be due to certain actions of his etc. However I am not going to go into that argument with you because it is exactly what I am trying to avoid...the blame argument. I don't subscribe to it because it never ends and it does not solve anything. It has never helped to straighten perpetrators.


BTW I have nothing against the man's action. What if the woman continued her madness after the little force? It won't be the best to raise kids in such environment. Personally, I think the limit should be the second time if the first one was not severe. However I was hoping you would think otherwise based on your earlier submissions.

kevinberry:
Every body is calming the all knowing on the internet..

Domestic violence is mostly the result of verbal abuse,you all can insult the op from now till tomorrow it won't change anything,we have been more vocal against violence towards women,what about verbal abuse towards men..until we give the same attention we give to domestic violence towards women to verbal. Abuse towards men,nothing will change,we will just keep on going in circles,repeating same mistakes,a woman insult another lady,which result in both of them exchanging blows,every one keeps quiet the sme thing happen but this time to a man the man attacked her everyone start calling him a beast...

Two things I won't take from a lady,verbally abusing me and physical assault,in my world you griping my shirt alone is an assault either male or female...

Equity over equality

bezimo:
Assault against a woman is never right and must never be tolerated, but it seems some women invite such animalistic behaviour on themselves.

I heard someone say, A man that beats his wife is a fool, but the wife is the bigger fool because according to him, you know your husband is angry yet you continue to insult or talk back at him.Then he becomes provokes and losses control and comportement.Then Assualt beginning with slap follows untill the wife is battered then she keeps quiet.
Later the cycle is repeated.

Strahovski1:


His first paragraph has been void with his 6 useless facts. Why is he giving shameless men reasons to beat their women? He is promoting domestic violence.