If life were a movie, you would live happily ever after once
you got married. Unfortunately life isn’t so and there may
come a juncture in your marriage when you find yourself
involved in an extra-marital affair. The worst part of having
an affair is knowing that you are being unfair to three parties
at a time – your spouse, your lover and yourself.

It is this eventual realization, no matter how exciting the
affair, that compels one to try to end an affair before any
more damage is done. If you too find yourself caught up in
such a situation and have the feeling of perpetually walking
on eggshells, take matters into your hand. Make a clean
break with your lover and end your affair before your spouse
and your family is devastated at your infidelity.


(1) Take a firm decision.
You can begin to end your extra-marital affair only if you are
completely convinced of the correctness of the decision.
Understand that what you have been doing is not only
devastating to your marriage and your spouse but is
inordinately unfair to your lover as well. On one hand you are
breaking the bond of trust with your spouse and on the other
you are creating a mirage of hope. So take the decision to
end your affair and stick to it.

(2) Consider how to end the affair.
The most honest way to end an extra-marital affair would
undoubtedly be to meet your lover and let him/her know of
your decision. However such a meeting could get messy and
confrontational. Moreover once you meet your lover, you
might be tempted to give in and back away from making a
clean break. So consider other impersonal ways of breaking
up for instance by email, phone or a letter. You may be
accused of being low and unfeeling but recognize that at
this time being honest is a bigger priority than being gallant
and generous.

(3) Sooner the better.
If you sincerely want to avoid your spouse finding out about
your affair, decide to break up immediately with your amour.
The more you dither, the greater are the chances of your
affair being exposed. Recognize the signs of the start of an
affair and nip it in the bud. If you have just spending more
time with a co-worker or a pal from school than usual,
refuse to meet him or her the next time. Or if you are
frequenting a particular shop or restaurant in the hope of
meeting somebody, decide to go to another place. Even if
your affair has been going on for some time now and your
spouse has not yet found out, thank your stars for the luck
but don’t push it.

(4) Make it clear.
While breaking up with your lover, make it clear that this is
the end and you will not be seeing each other hand. If you
are doing it in a letter or email, keep the content concise and
to the point. You might want to be compassionate and
understanding of your lover’s pain but this may be
construed as your willingness to let the affair continue. So
don’t let there be any ambiguity about your decision or
hopes about continuing to be friends. This might happen in a
perfect world where two adult people from opposite sexes
do not give way to emotional or sexual weaknesses. But in a
real world, such a thing is impractical and difficult. So be
emphatic in your decision that this marks the end of all
forms of personal relationship between you and your lover.

(5) Cut off all contact.
This is the most definitive step in ending an extra-marital
affair and may mark the difference between an unaware and
a livid spouse. End all forms of contact with your lover,
whether in real life or by electronic means. You should not
only stop meeting your lover but also stop communicating
with him or her by phone, text message, email or posts on
social networking sites. If it is impossible to avoid your lover
completely, like when he or she happens to be a co-worker,
see if you can get a transfer to another office or at least
another department. If that too seems impossible, restrict
your communication to strictly professional matters.
Remember the less you see of each other, the easier it will
be to break off an affair before your spouse comes to know
about it.

(6) If necessary, take help.
It is a good idea to seek the help of a counselor or a
therapist when you are trying to sort out the mess in your
personal life. Professional counselors can offer an objective
view on your problems and can come up with effective
means of resolving them. While friends and close family
members can also offer support, they are unlikely to have a
completely impartial perspective and worse may be tempted
to reveal your infidelity to your spouse. Counselors and
therapists on the other hand make it a matter of their
professional principles to maintain the privacy of their clients
so that your spouse is unlikely to know about your affair
from them.

(7) Focus on your marriage.
If you are trying to end your extra-marital affair before your
spouse finds out about it, it is presumably because you care
about your marriage. So turn your attention to your marital
relationship and see if there are issues which left you
dissatisfied and eventually tempted you into an affair. Talk to
your spouse and try to re-connect with him or her. Consider
which areas in your marriage need to be worked at and do
so before it is too late – again!

Ending an affair is not easy – no matter for how long it has
been going on. However taking the right steps while going
through it, is likely to make the breakup cleaner and more
decisive – something that is essential if you wish to put the
affair behind you before your spouse gets wiser.

http://www.futurescopes.com/affairs-and-infidelity/857/how-end-extramarital-affair-your-spouse-comes-know

I hate men who cheats.

omoyemirally:
I hate men who cheats.

Well I think it's due to selfishness and the lack of spirit of contentment.

But does it mean that those men cheating on their wives, they don't love their wives wholeheartedly?

Get a sexy house boy and quit your job so you can be home full time to spend it with your lover, by the time your husband comes back home from work, you will be happy and satisfied. When you are done with the houseboy, frame him for stealing and have the police remove him from the premises before your husband gets home. Then get a new one