Dear Bunmi,

I got married two years ago when I hadnt completely fallen out of love with my ex-girlfriend. I met my wife on the rebound after my ex left me for another man. But the relationship didnt work out and shes started ex-mailing me. My wife is kind, gentle and good company but I now realize that my ex is the love of my life. My marriage is currently childless. What should I do?

Smart,

by e-mail.

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Dear Smart,

Before you do anything rash, like throwing away your marriage, stop and think about your real feelings for your ex. Its easy to look back at a past relationship with rose-tinted glasses, but she was the one who chose to finish with you and must have had her reason, which may well still exist. I would try to make your marriage work, if I were you. Dont rush back to your ex without being sure shes not also settling for you on the rebound. What happens if what she considers a better option shows up again?

Bunmi

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Marriage is a better for worse thing...immediately you delve into it, there's no going back...so, my advice, stay glued to your wife and love her for better and for worse

Oh boy it looks like you are in a long thing ,all you need first is patience

Some people don't seem to have pride at all. The ex left him for another man, giving him a TKO to the ego & yet he's still entertaining them getting back together. What a fool!

Working on hw ur marriage will be wit children rather than thinking of your ex.....bt be an ingrate to ur wife cos she's trying to make d marriage...wat worthwhile worth doing well

what a stupid man.

@OP, if i talk my own u go close dis thread.

Concentrate on your marriage. What made her an EX should keep her an EX.

Dnt break ur home cos of ur EX,she as nothin to offer try nd make ur marriage work nd ignore ur EX........

an Ex is X, just as in algebra maths they re always constant and hard to find.
if she left b4 she ll leave again.remain with ur wife my guy.there is nothing like a woman who
is good company to u.if i were u i ll X my ex

I will always remember this quote from gone girl.


"Everyone told us and told us and told us marriage is hard work"

Marriage nowadays seems like boyfrnd and girlfrnd relationship...


A marriage without Christ is a dead marriage.

foolish man.....

Before you do anything rash, like throwing away your marriage, stop and think about your real feelings for your ex. Its easy to look back at a past relationship with rose-tinted glasses, but she was the one who chose to finish with you and must have had her reason, which may well still exist. I would try to make your marriage work, if I were you. Dont rush back to your ex without being sure shes not also settling for you on the rebound. What happens if what she considers a better option shows up again?

Cutehector:
Marriage nowadays seems like boyfrnd and girlfrnd relationship...


A marriage without Christ is a dead marriage.

But people were married before Christ na. Would you say that all the marriages our ancestors had were also dead?

lebesgue:


But people were married before Christ na. Would you say that all the marriages our ancestors had were also dead?

Christ is God. And God was, is and will be... hence the marriages lasted especially the righteous ones..

Before you do anything rash, like throwing away your marriage, stop and think about your real feelings for your ex. Its easy to look back at a past relationship with rose-tinted glasses, but she was the one who chose to finish with you and must have had her reason, which may well still exist. I would try to make your marriage work, if I were you. Dont rush back to your ex without being sure shes not also settling for you on the rebound. What happens if what she considers a better option shows up again?

Stil havin feelings for one lousy & useless 'hole' dat jilted u for anoda man whom she felt is beta of u?
But i wanna ask a simple qstn: Bros, why u stupid like ds?