luccicouture:
[size=18pt]infact that was part of the reason i married early,to avoid relying on men for money.[/size]

raumdeuter:


I wish someone would explain this part in bold to me kimoni, mindfulness and bukatyne

TheArchangel:
She is an opportunist who ran away cos of poverty to be married to a supposedly buoyant guy and it seems nemesis is catching up with her.
.

raumdeuter:


I wish someone would explain this part in bold to me kimoni, mindfulness and bukatyne

missmalachi:
Op in as much as ur story is touching, u still hv chunk of d blame to receive.

The first step to solving a problem is accepting u hv one.ur hubby isn't the issue here,u are.
For crying out loud what exactly is ur fear?if he ws taking good care of u but beat u we will unstd dat uvare staying cos of the financial benefit. Pls what exactly is ur reason for staying?
Gone at d days when society frown at divorce women now ppl are enlightened that its better to be a single mum that a dead one.
Pls explain to u mum n get d hell out of that bondage called marriage.
How d hell does ppl stay n cope in an abusive marriage?
Pls get ur self esteem back cos u need it.

Who even gave u such poverty orientation that has made u lost ur self esteem.?

nnamdibig:


Good S3X may be the reason for her stay. They guy may be extremely good in bed.

raumdeuter:


I wish someone would explain this part in bold

raumdeuter:


I wish someone would explain this part in bold to me kimoni, mindfulness and bukatyne

zaynie:
Sorry.
Enkaydewdrop, I was banned in the Health Section by ASB while trying to reply Joysa .
I sent you a pm already.
Keep calm.

luccicouture:

without hesitation my mum will ask me to return, but that will be a burden on her + my child

MizMyColi:
Is it by force to stay in the marriage?

Kimoni:


you don chop ban as you no gree remit money

TheArchangel:
She is an opportunist who ran away cos of poverty to be married to a supposedly buoyant guy and it seems nemesis is catching up with her.

I have a feeling she will be Ronke'ed soon if she refused not to haul axs from that house.

Marriage is not a meal ticket.
@Luccicouture, you left your academics to marry a man with money believing all the jumbo nonsense he infused in your brain. Sorry, the chicken has come home to roost maybe my guy realised the sole reason why you married him and decided to punch it outta you.

bukatyne:


Back to my classification :

She believes a man's duty is to provide so she married earlier as her parents could no longer meet her financial needs. It is a quite common concept for parents to marry out their daughters when they can no longer cater for her as it is seen as the husband's duty to take over where they stopped and prevent the girl from 'messing' about with men for money.

No matter the bias against women who aren't financially stable, a woman depending on her husband solely is not same as a woman entering into several amorous relationships with men for money.


To be quite honest, she is in this mess because her husband 'changed/she didn't really know him'. Several men train their wives to the university and set them up in businesses. She is even willing to try her hands on several things yet he stops her. I suspect her husband doesn't want her to be financially stable, he wants absolute dependency on him. (a sign of an abuser)

@TheArchangel:

I believe you are unnecessarily harsh to the OP

She married a man she believed she could build her life with else she would have gone with richer suitors.

Also, she had carryovers due to not meeting the required attendance criteria and her husband did not let her re-take them which was not a problem because she wanted to focus on business.

She did several businesses which her husband was not in support of and wrecked till he told her his intention for her is to stay at home.

Ishilove:

TheArchangel is harsh because she rushed to comment without even understanding the 'koko' oro.

Ishilove:

Did you read her posts at all??

Where on earth did you see in her narration that the man is rich? Obviously you skimmed through without understanding what she posted.

She married him with the full knowledge that he is NOT financially buoyant.

Read her narration again...this time SLOWLY

egopersonified:
I felt you were crying while writing this post, when you started referring to your husband as 'you' instead of 'he' in your write up, I started crying too. If you can't leave now, why not look for a way to ensure you go to your parents from the hospital after childbirth instead of your mum coming over? You would have that three months window to make your decision.

Training our girls solely for the purpose of marriage should be discouraged, there is more to life than being a good wife and mother.

Well written, though I will advice the lady to please RUN for her life. Marriage is not by force. Indian hemp? Damn!

Kimoni:


Her father was rich but didn't care for his plenty family so naturally, she developed some sort of phobia for rich blokes thinking she'll end up as wife Nos 1 amongst many others and he wouldn't even take care of his family just like her father didn't.

So she preferred to marry a struggling guy, pull resources togther with him and be jointly responsible in caring for their small nuclear family. Hence she married early, as a struggling individual cum student and also married another struggling individual. But still, things didn't work as planned. If wishes were horses...

zaynie:
I was banned in the Health Section by ASB while trying to reply Joysa .