Dear Bunmi,

Recently, my boyfriend and I were discussing what would really turn us on. For years Ive had this fantasy of a rough sex with a really macho man. Ive had one or two meaningful relationships, but the men Id met were not really macho. Least of all, my current boyfriend whos somehow weedy! Now he wants us to act out my fantasy, but his physique wont turn me on in that way. How can I put him off!

Dejoke,

by e-mail.

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Dear Dejoke,

Fantasy isnt reality. So you dont need your boyfriend to be a genuinely strong man to act out your sexy dreams. Simply close your eyes and pretend. You never know he may be more powerful than he looks! But if youre really sure this wont work, explain to him that although you like to fantasise when youre alone, you dont need or want to act it out. That will let you off the hook and spare your feelings.

Bunmi



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