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Re: What To Do When Your Lecturer Harasses You (Female Students) by Nobody: 2:33pm On Jun 23, 2016
hexy40:
Simple steps;
1)act as if you are intrested.
2) When he starts making advances, be a step ahead of him, if possible be the one to go and lock the office door.
3)while at it explain to him, gently and in a sexy voice that your doctor said that if you use protection, you will not contaminate your partner with H.I.V. grin grin





Note: Rumor might spread that u have AIDS

CHAI!!! YOU BAD OH!!! Lolfull!
Re: What To Do When Your Lecturer Harasses You (Female Students) by peezeygwiny(m): 2:34pm On Jun 23, 2016
1bkaye:
Very useful thread
Easy na grin...sum1 is fasting here
Re: What To Do When Your Lecturer Harasses You (Female Students) by Nobody: 2:38pm On Jun 23, 2016
Nice one anyway,But not all girls will do dat,tank God for my case, I av graduated,n I dated my top lecturer for the whole year in school till now,ntin bad has happen,and very soon am getting married to some1 nice.
Re: What To Do When Your Lecturer Harasses You (Female Students) by Nobody: 2:39pm On Jun 23, 2016
God go catch you, na person like am you dey report to.
Re: What To Do When Your Lecturer Harasses You (Female Students) by Nobody: 2:47pm On Jun 23, 2016
You harass him back grin

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Re: What To Do When Your Lecturer Harasses You (Female Students) by Nobody: 2:52pm On Jun 23, 2016
reminiscing:
As girls we can't deny that attentions come from the opposite sex but I find it strange when a married man or a lecture does it.Pretty girls are mostly the victimized ones and its something that has eaten deep into the educational system.One time I was on holiday, my phone rang and my lecture called me and towards the end of the call,he said he wants to spend 3nights with me,I laughed seriously and was shocked at the way he had so much confidence to ask me such.My reply was crazy, I said "sir,which church is the night vigil holding at".The man laughed and told me something is wrong with me.

Another lecturer did same when I went to his office on his call.He told me he wants to have an affair with me and I told him "sir,I appreciate the fact you like me but you are married and you are my lecturer.please sir I 'LD like to keep this official and I'll really appreciate if u understand.I promise not to tell anyone about this."

I then left his office. After a long while, he called me and appreciated me for displaying maturity and told me I had good training.He advised I should keep it up and call him whenever I have financial challenges.
Fellow ladies ,these are the things you should do when u are being harrased by your lecturer

1.Do not show sign of fear
2.Dont show any facial expression that will give him the impression that you are helpless.rather be strong and Dont say anything till he is done.
3.if he stands up to start touching and holding you tell him you told your friend you were coming to his office and you beg to leave.
4.Dont be saucy
5.if the lecturer insist ,when next he calls you,record your conversation .
6.Do not blackmail him rather go to the appropriate authority and report. make sure you doñt play the record unless u are asked for evidence.
add yours ........

Thank you for the bolded. The prospective victim should not only say this fact for saying sake, if a lecturer is known for molestation, she should actually tell a friend while going. The better thing still, is to go with a chaperone.
Re: What To Do When Your Lecturer Harasses You (Female Students) by Bash512: 3:00pm On Jun 23, 2016
truthsayer007:


There is a Sexual Harassment bill in the senate that addresses this and would be passed by next month or so.

So this will no longer be an issue.

Meanwhile, your story only works because the Lecturer that approached you had a crush on you and not that he wanted to molest you.

He even offered to assist you when you have financial challenges.

Those are two different things entirely.
U think that bill will survive.Wey dem senators sef be Oshomos.
In fact,frm wat I saw last on d bill,itz certain dat it wont survive as some senators r of d take dat students wud take advantage of lecturers wu dey dont like.
Re: What To Do When Your Lecturer Harasses You (Female Students) by kingphilip(m): 3:02pm On Jun 23, 2016
Glamourv:
Nice one anyway,But not all girls will do dat,tank God for my case, I av graduated,n I dated my top lecturer for the whole year in school till now,ntin bad has happen,and very soon am getting married to some1 nice.
copied for sake of reference


Your new found maga must see this
Re: What To Do When Your Lecturer Harasses You (Female Students) by Evidence1000(m): 3:18pm On Jun 23, 2016
What of if it is your female lecturer that is harassing you and she is beautiful ? What should I do ?
Re: What To Do When Your Lecturer Harasses You (Female Students) by mayomigreenland(m): 3:21pm On Jun 23, 2016
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reminiscing:
As girls we can't deny that attentions come from the opposite sex but I find it strange when a married man or a lecture does it.Pretty girls are mostly the victimized ones and its something that has eaten deep into the educational system.One time I was on holiday, my phone rang and my lecture called me and towards the end of the call,he said he wants to spend 3nights with me,I laughed seriously and was shocked at the way he had so much confidence to ask me such.My reply was crazy, I said "sir,which church is the night vigil holding at".The man laughed and told me something is wrong with me.

Another lecturer did same when I went to his office on his call.He told me he wants to have an affair with me and I told him "sir,I appreciate the fact you like me but you are married and you are my lecturer.please sir I 'LD like to keep this official and I'll really appreciate if u understand.I promise not to tell anyone about this."

I then left his office. After a long while, he called me and appreciated me for displaying maturity and told me I had good training.He advised I should keep it up and call him whenever I have financial challenges.
Fellow ladies ,these are the things you should do when u are being harrased by your lecturer

1.Do not show sign of fear
2.Dont show any facial expression that will give him the impression that you are helpless.rather be strong and Dont say anything till he is done.
3.if he stands up to start touching and holding you tell him you told your friend you were coming to his office and you beg to leave.
4.Dont be saucy
5.if the lecturer insist ,when next he calls you,record your conversation .
6.Do not blackmail him rather go to the appropriate authority and report. make sure you doñt play the record unless u are asked for evidence.
add yours ........
Oscarjax:
Ol
reminiscing:
As girls we can't deny that attentions come from the opposite sex but I find it strange when a married man or a lecture does it.Pretty girls are mostly the victimized ones and its something that has eaten deep into the educational system.One time I was on holiday, my phone rang and my lecture called me and towards the end of the call,he said he wants to spend 3nights with me,I laughed seriously and was shocked at the way he had so much confidence to ask me such.My reply was crazy, I said "sir,which church is the night vigil holding at".The man laughed and told me something is wrong with me.

Another lecturer did same when I went to his office on his call.He told me he wants to have an affair with me and I told him "sir,I appreciate the fact you like me but you are married and you are my lecturer.please sir I 'LD like to keep this official and I'll really appreciate if u understand.I promise not to tell anyone about this."

I then left his office. After a long while, he called me and appreciated me for displaying maturity and told me I had good training.He advised I should keep it up and call him whenever I have financial challenges.
Fellow ladies ,these are the things you should do when u are being harrased by your lecturer

1.Do not show sign of fear
2.Dont show any facial expression that will give him the impression that you are helpless.rather be strong and Dont say anything till he is done.
3.if he stands up to start touching and holding you tell him you told your friend you were coming to his office and you beg to leave.
4.Dont be saucy
5.if the lecturer insist ,when next he calls you,record your conversation .
6.Do not blackmail him rather go to the appropriate authority and report. make sure you doñt play the record unless u are asked for evidence.
add yours ........
Re: What To Do When Your Lecturer Harasses You (Female Students) by Nobody: 3:37pm On Jun 23, 2016
korel9:
Tell the lecturer you have AIDS grin
grin grin grin grin
Re: What To Do When Your Lecturer Harasses You (Female Students) by donbabajeff(m): 3:38pm On Jun 23, 2016
[b]How are we sure a lecturer isn't reading this]? grin grin grin grin grin grin grin grin grin grin grin

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Re: What To Do When Your Lecturer Harasses You (Female Students) by professore(m): 3:54pm On Jun 23, 2016
nice ideas
Re: What To Do When Your Lecturer Harasses You (Female Students) by adewumiopeyemi(m): 4:00pm On Jun 23, 2016
You're a big disgrace to Nigeria.

Having sex with a 13 year old girl is consented ??
She's a minor for fucck sake.

In USA, if you have sex with a 17 year old girl who will be 18 in the next 5 minutes, you will go to jail for 16 years and you will be a registered sex offender for the rest of your life.
and u can born that girl at that ur age...... sign of end times God help us..
Re: What To Do When Your Lecturer Harasses You (Female Students) by Richy4(m): 4:17pm On Jun 23, 2016
Op u did not balance your write up. You should have equally added what a lecturer should do when a female student intentionally decide to come to uni dressing provocatively...

And decided to sit in front of the class with breast exposed for the world to see....

Is he supposed to send her away? because

1. since she paid for the programme. he has no right to do so
2. there was no dress code.
3. The student body will see it as annoying and wickedness from the lecture's part.

I am not trying to be the devil's advocate. but
what was he supposed to do should such situation arise?
Re: What To Do When Your Lecturer Harasses You (Female Students) by jessykings(f): 4:25pm On Jun 23, 2016
reminiscing:
As girls we can't deny that attentions come from the opposite sex but I find it strange when a married man or a lecture does it.Pretty girls are mostly the victimized ones and its something that has eaten deep into the educational system.One time I was on holiday, my phone rang and my lecture called me and towards the end of the call,he said he wants to spend 3nights with me,I laughed seriously and was shocked at the way he had so much confidence to ask me such.My reply was crazy, I said "sir,which church is the night vigil holding at".The man laughed and told me something is wrong with me.

Another lecturer did same when I went to his office on his call.He told me he wants to have an affair with me and I told him "sir,I appreciate the fact you like me but you are married and you are my lecturer.please sir I 'LD like to keep this official and I'll really appreciate if u understand.I promise not to tell anyone about this."

I then left his office. After a long while, he called me and appreciated me for displaying maturity and told me I had good training.He advised I should keep it up and call him whenever I have financial challenges.
Fellow ladies ,these are the things you should do when u are being harrased by your lecturer

1.Do not show sign of fear
2.Dont show any facial expression that will give him the impression that you are helpless.rather be strong and Dont say anything till he is done.
3.if he stands up to start touching and holding you tell him you told your friend you were coming to his office and you beg to leave.
4.Dont be saucy
5.if the lecturer insist ,when next he calls you,record your conversation .
6.Do not blackmail him rather go to the appropriate authority and report. make sure you doñt play the record unless u are asked for evidence.
add yours ........
Dudette,u neva jam stubborn lecturer yet. Ur cases were kinda 'not so difficult'. Some will want to victmize and intimadate u, D best for me is to flee from every appearance of evil. Don't get too close to ur lecturer, dress decently and be seated in class b4 he enters d class so u won't get 'so noticed'. If d advances get difficult, record d conversions and threaten to report to the appropriate authorities. Btw y will ur lecturer have ur phone number and even calling u @ odd times? Abi na u be course rep grin
Re: What To Do When Your Lecturer Harasses You (Female Students) by histemple: 4:26pm On Jun 23, 2016
make sure you doñt play the record unless u are asked for evidence.
add yours ........
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This is the most intelligent part. You will make an intelligent detective.
Re: What To Do When Your Lecturer Harasses You (Female Students) by oc2fish: 4:46pm On Jun 23, 2016
See it is only a stupid lecturer that will use intimidation.
Bros the lecturers are running away from free kpekus.
Nija babes prefer parties to study, a good lecturer will
have kpekus plus free designer shirt and tie plus perfumes with
a complementary thank you sir.

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Re: What To Do When Your Lecturer Harasses You (Female Students) by gevans(m): 5:33pm On Jun 23, 2016
OKOROXXX:
SO WHAT IF IS A FEMALE LECTURER LIKE MY OWN CASE? WHAT SHUD I DO?? AND IM GETTING TEMPTED ALREADY. FREE SCORES, MONEY, AND FREE KPEKUS....

confirm Okoro
Re: What To Do When Your Lecturer Harasses You (Female Students) by gevans(m): 5:34pm On Jun 23, 2016
OKOROXXX:
SO WHAT IF IS A FEMALE LECTURER LIKE MY OWN CASE? WHAT SHUD I DO?? AND IM GETTING TEMPTED ALREADY. FREE SCORES, MONEY, AND FREE KPEKUS....

u b confirm Okoro
Re: What To Do When Your Lecturer Harasses You (Female Students) by GreatManBee: 5:35pm On Jun 23, 2016
reminiscing:
As girls we can't deny that attentions come from the opposite sex but I find it strange when a married man or a lecture does it.Pretty girls are mostly the victimized ones and its something that has eaten deep into the educational system.One time I was on holiday, my phone rang and my lecture called me and towards the end of the call,he said he wants to spend 3nights with me,I laughed seriously and was shocked at the way he had so much confidence to ask me such.My reply was crazy, I said "sir,which church is the night vigil holding at".The man laughed and told me something is wrong with me.

Another lecturer did same when I went to his office on his call.He told me he wants to have an affair with me and I told him "sir,I appreciate the fact you like me but you are married and you are my lecturer.please sir I 'LD like to keep this official and I'll really appreciate if u understand.I promise not to tell anyone about this."

I then left his office. After a long while, he called me and appreciated me for displaying maturity and told me I had good training.He advised I should keep it up and call him whenever I have financial challenges.
Fellow ladies ,these are the things you should do when u are being harrased by your lecturer

1.Do not show sign of fear
2.Dont show any facial expression that will give him the impression that you are helpless.rather be strong and Dont say anything till he is done.
3.if he stands up to start touching and holding you tell him you told your friend you were coming to his office and you beg to leave.
4.Dont be saucy
5.if the lecturer insist ,when next he calls you,record your conversation .
6.Do not blackmail him rather go to the appropriate authority and report. make sure you doñt play the record unless u are asked for evidence.
add yours ........
Re: What To Do When Your Lecturer Harasses You (Female Students) by gevans(m): 5:37pm On Jun 23, 2016
Glamourv:
Nice one anyway,But not all girls will do dat,tank God for my case, I av graduated,n I dated my top lecturer for the whole year in school till now,ntin bad has happen,and very soon am getting married to some1 nice.

wat do u mean by nothing bad has happened?
Re: What To Do When Your Lecturer Harasses You (Female Students) by gevans(m): 5:45pm On Jun 23, 2016
Richy4:
Op u did not balance your write up. You should have equally added what a lecturer should do when a female student intentionally decide to come to uni dressing provocatively...

And decided to sit in front of the class with breast exposed for the world to see....

Is he supposed to send her away? because

1. since she paid for the programme. he has no right to do so
2. there was no dress code.
3. The student body will see it as annoying and wickedness from the lecture's part.

I am not trying to be the devil's advocate. but
what was he supposed to do should such situation arise?

I do not agree with u, on d question u asked, d lecturer can ask her to leave d class or order her to sit in d back seat.

God bless FRN
Re: What To Do When Your Lecturer Harasses You (Female Students) by Nobody: 7:13pm On Jun 23, 2016
I mean nothing bad in doing it,moreover u play ur game well.
Re: What To Do When Your Lecturer Harasses You (Female Students) by Richy4(m): 7:18pm On Jun 23, 2016
gevans:


I do not agree with u, on d question u asked, d lecturer can ask her to leave d class or order her to sit in d back seat.

God bless FRN

That could be the Nigerian way of handling it... ie by asking the student to live the lecture hall... but the fact that they ask them to live the class does not mean it was how the rest of the world does it...

That lecturer could be employed in another country and mistakenly ask a student to live the class thinking it was normal... he could be fired for doing that...In my first degree in Nigerian Uni, what i thought was a heavy offence by Nigerian lecturer's standard was nothing....

Eg. you are permitted to drink soft drinks with light refreshment in the class when lectures was going on.Coke biscuit etc. but u cannot try that in Nigeria.

U are permitted to put your phone in a silent mood or answer your phone in the class when lectures were going on. according to school authority, u never can tell which was an emergency call..but the institution i attended, it is like a taboo.

You can wear anything u want...as long as you registered for that course. it is your right to be in that class because u paid that lecturer to teach you. so he has nothing to do with what u are wearing.his job was to teach nothing more...at the end of every semester, student were given survey questioner to speak about how lecturers performed. and no lecturer would like students to complain about them or for fear of being removed from that course.

so do not be to fast to disagree with me. a lot of male lecturers are helpless around the world due to what female students puts on to school..
Nigerian lecturers are lucky that they can send a female students away even when they have paid large amount to be taught and nothing will happen... it is not so every where...
Re: What To Do When Your Lecturer Harasses You (Female Students) by romanus455(m): 7:28pm On Jun 23, 2016
gud post.epitome
Re: What To Do When Your Lecturer Harasses You (Female Students) by Nobody: 7:28pm On Jun 23, 2016
Oliviaarims, what do you have to say
Re: What To Do When Your Lecturer Harasses You (Female Students) by Nobody: 7:55pm On Jun 23, 2016
Honestly, I used to think it was only the bad girls or those who draw unnecessary attention to themselves that suffered such fate at the hands of lecturers...until it happened to me.

When it first started, I was flummoxed. "Why me?" I asked. I was a typical good student, I don't miss classes or tests or get into any situation that would amount to going to my lecturer to start pleading for favours...always early to class, don't talk unnecessarily while the lecture's on, don't dress indecently to school, don't gallivant around the school premises... I actually thought none of my lecturers knew me. But this man still found me and then the others...



OP's points make a lot of sense.

Cc. Amateur.
Re: What To Do When Your Lecturer Harasses You (Female Students) by mayomigreenland(m): 8:15pm On Jun 23, 2016
When visiting your lecturers record all the conversations btw you and him. Alot of stupid lectures are in our universties now adays. Sorry to say
Re: What To Do When Your Lecturer Harasses You (Female Students) by VajanahDischaj(f): 9:49pm On Jun 23, 2016
7-never visit a lecturer iff u are horneeee 8-visit only when u are bloody monthly visited.
Re: What To Do When Your Lecturer Harasses You (Female Students) by IYIMAN: 10:41pm On Jun 23, 2016
amateur:
Oliviaarims, what do you have to say

Are you in same school with oliviaarims?
Re: What To Do When Your Lecturer Harasses You (Female Students) by tayork(m): 11:54pm On Jun 23, 2016
hexy40:
Simple steps;
1)act as if you are intrested.
2) When he starts making advances, be a step ahead of him, if possible be the one to go and lock the office door.
3)while at it explain to him, gently and in a sexy voice that your doctor said that if you use protection, you will not contaminate your partner with H.I.V. grin grin





Note: Rumor might spread that u have AIDS
and who lose,the lecturer will use protection. shikkena #chop and clean ..
To me,all what u have written is nice but every situation have different angle, the lecturer might be stubborn. even when you report him,de will still pardon him because all of dem are of the same feather.. my best opinion is to pray about it,then tell either your parents or pastor or spiritual father to guide you.. All this thing the op mentioned is easier said than done. yours was a lucky one because the lecturer likes you but not want you.

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