I met this adoring babe during my service year, we have dated for 2yrs+ and things are going smoothly and romantic. She is fortunate to have gained admission into one of Asian University for her Masters Programmem

I love her so much and she claimed to 'love me most' too

My fellow Nairalanders, do I still hope that she is coming back to me... Though she promised so.

Should I believe her and wait or I should move on with my 'singleness'?

Please your mature response could save my skeptical mindset... Wise reply please... Thanks All.

Move on please.


I lost my first love due to distance, and yes, the love has faded... she doesn't call.



So don't kill urself daydreaming about her.



She's focused on her studies and dat's the most important thing for her right now in her phase of life

Jus maintain good communication wth her and leave room for fvck ups, don't get angry wth her on the fone no matter what!

I'll suggest you move on. She has chosen a path for her life.
You can't wait for her forever

she said she d come back didnt she? has she shown signs of not coming back?did she break up with u. u dated for two yrs n u cant even trust her. i dont mean act like a fool, but she said she loves u. at least allow the benefit of doubt... even if theres distance.

if u were in her shoes, would u ask the same from her? wait.. would u go back to her after ur studies??

one bottle for our latest single bro

Don't have your hopes built around her. Though she gon be at a distance, still keep her to heart like a friend than a fiancee. Let it be basically friends, dont burge her life with those love shiit but still get her assured she got you any time. Then leave y'all fate to God.

Trudiee:
she said she d come back didnt she? has she shown signs of not coming back?did she break up with u. u dated for two yrs n u cant even trust her. i dont mean act like a fool, but she said she loves u. at least allow the benefit of doubt... even if theres distance.

if u were in her shoes, would u ask the same from her? wait.. would u go back to her after ur studies??

Exactly! I'm just shocked at how all these people are telling him to forget about her. It's crazy. This is a girl he's dated for over two years, and besides she's just away for her Masters. That doesn't take such a long time. At worst, two years and she's done.

bro... lemme be very realistic with you... girls are something else... don't give her any sign or signs that once she is gone... then it's over.. Just hope for the best, and expect d worst.

Oliviaarims:


Exactly! I'm just shocked at how all these people are telling him to forget about her. It's crazy. This is a girl he's dated for over two years, and besides she's just away for her Masters. That doesn't take such a long time. At worst, two years and she's done.

dont mind these guys. he's thinkin of leaving her. he just needs a good excuse n wants to ease up his conscience..

@op
So if the people on this forum advise you to leave her, you'll do it?
Will you take the advise of faceless people online over the word of someone you love and have dated for over 2 years?

People here will only advise you based on their personal experiences or the experiences of people close to them. Those with bad experiences will certainly advise you to forget about her.

The decision to continue or not rest with you and only you alone.

I've seen a distance relationship that lasted five years. I was in same school with the girl while the guy was back in Nigeria. Throughout the period of her studies, she was faithful to him. Of course sometimes during the summer break, she'll travelled to Nigeria to be with him. I've also seen distance relationships that couldn't last a year.
Whether yours will succeed or not will depend on you both, only you both can make it work. Understand though, that it won't be easy. But if you truly love her, then distance should just be another challenge.

Good luck.

Trudiee:


dont mind these guys. he's thinkin of leaving her. he just needs a good excuse n wants to ease up his conscience..

Exactement!

Don't trust any lady.

Oliviaarims:


Exactly! I'm just shocked at how all these people are telling him to forget about her. It's crazy. This is a girl he's dated for over two years, and besides she's just away for her Masters. That doesn't take such a long time. At worst, two years and she's done.

You just dey appear once in a blue moon, vote for mimzy tomorrow

OP IF YOU REALLY REALLY LOVE YOUR PRECIOUS HEART, JUST MOVE ON BUT STILL COMMUNICATE, THE POSSIBILITY OF HER NOT FINDING SOMEONE THERE BEFORE SHE COMES BACK OR HER COMING BACK TO YOU WHEN SHE COMEW BACK AFTER TWO YEARS IS 70-30%, SO THINK WITH YOUR HEAD NOT YOUR HEART..BY THE WAY DO YOU PLAN ON BEIN.G FAITHFUL TO HER FOR TWO YEARS TILL SHE COMES BACK?

Sorry to say you really need to move on don't waste your life on people that don't love you find someone that does. Someone that truly loves you will not leave you. Trust me, too many people use other people and hurt their feelings , such a messed up crap...You deserve to be happy

firstking01:
You just dey appear once in a blue moon, vote for mimzy tomorrow

Oliviaarims:

Hw u?

ethical:
@op
So if the people on this forum advise you to leave her, you'll do it?
Will you take the advise of faceless people online over the word of someone you love and have dated for over 2 years?

People here will only advise you based on their personal experiences or the experiences of people close to them. Those with bad experiences will certainly advise you to forget about her.

The decision to continue or not rest with you and only you alone.

I've seen a distance relationship that lasted five years. I was in same school with the girl while the guy was back in Nigeria. Throughout the period of her studies, she was faithful to him. Of course sometimes during the summer break, she'll travelled to Nigeria to be with him. I've also seen distance relationships that couldn't last a year.
Whether yours will succeed or not will depend on you both, only you both can make it work. Understand though, that it won't be easy. But if you truly love her, then distance should just be another challenge.

Good luck.

Seconded.....