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Re: Sending Money To Parents Back Home by cococandy(f): 9:26pm On Jun 27, 2016 |
Eke40seven:cosigned |
Re: Sending Money To Parents Back Home by grandstar(m): 9:30pm On Jun 27, 2016 |
yagganess: Your wife seems viewpoint seems unfair. But again, are their expenses the same? Her moms cost of living may be higher than hers. |
Re: Sending Money To Parents Back Home by lordkhalifa(m): 9:32pm On Jun 27, 2016 |
Kill either your mum or Dad so you can balance the equation since your wife is the head 3 Likes |
Re: Sending Money To Parents Back Home by Caliph69: 9:32pm On Jun 27, 2016 |
ixora3:Pray kwa? Abeg what does prayer got to do with that? 1 Like |
Re: Sending Money To Parents Back Home by youngest85(m): 9:44pm On Jun 27, 2016 |
LaRochelle: U no well! 1 Like |
Re: Sending Money To Parents Back Home by DBestDoc(f): 9:56pm On Jun 27, 2016 |
@Op, please tell us how the fund is being generated. it's not right that the both of you will work hard and contribute 50:50 towards taking care of your families and 70% of the total amount goes to your family while hers get 30%. It doesn't seem fair in any relationship, be it marriage or business except ofcourse the entire amount comes from your pocket.. You sef check am na... I still believe each should be responsible for his/her own family... Any contributions from the other partner should be done on volition or on bailout basis, where the spouse concerned does not have a source of income or is low on cash. 2 Likes |
Re: Sending Money To Parents Back Home by Lexusgs430: 9:58pm On Jun 27, 2016 |
yagganess: Who is generally contributing to this parent transfer fund? What is the percentage of your contributions? My opinion, on an assumption of 30k remittance. 10k each way !!!! |
Re: Sending Money To Parents Back Home by tsmith(f): 10:00pm On Jun 27, 2016 |
yagganess:We also give the parents a monthly stipend, our situation is the other way round.....hubby's dad is late but we send equal amount to each family.....as it's a household income. I bet your wife's mom isnt living alone and will probably have other mouths and hanger ons to feed. I think its fair to make it equal....regardless of who is bringing more cookie to that table as others have advised here. Infact my hubby has other 4 other well to do siblings that followed suit in the monthly pocket-money thing, therefore his mum.ranks in about 120k monthly, where woth my folks, im.rhe only constant....my siblings only dip in as they feel.like and a couple are going through rough times and occasionally still need to bailed out. I feel my MIL is a lil bit of a spendthrift though, and regardless of the regular monthly income for the past 5 years, when generator spoil or tomato scarce she'd be calling for more funds. Even though i feel that's the essence of the regular income; to learn to manage your income against expenses and unforseens. I won't however say that enough justification to rob Peter to pay paul. Just my 2 cents 2 Likes |
Re: Sending Money To Parents Back Home by medeay(m): 10:02pm On Jun 27, 2016 |
LaRochelle:I understand that feeling jare my sister. |
Re: Sending Money To Parents Back Home by Nobody: 10:10pm On Jun 27, 2016 |
I know some folks here would call me stingy.. The only money i can send to my wifes family is christmas money did i marry her to be paying her parents salary? Why is she working/why did i open a business for her? 7 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Sending Money To Parents Back Home by Nobody: 10:11pm On Jun 27, 2016 |
it depends on hu dey bring more moni. I suggest if she is working,let her take care of her parent while I face mine. if she aint working,bro I cn neva giv her pple same tin wit my parents ooo. I dey mad 2 Likes |
Re: Sending Money To Parents Back Home by uwagimboo: 10:12pm On Jun 27, 2016 |
Dis world don spoil... End time marriage.. OP, am very sure the woman married you else u wont be asking this useless queshion.. oyibo marriage my axx.. Uwa mmebi... 1 Like |
Re: Sending Money To Parents Back Home by Nobody: 10:15pm On Jun 27, 2016 |
yagganess: You should both try to reach an equilibrium. The only thing you will get from here is chauvinist men calling your wife names or people with zero experience in family issues giving you advice. Ah, Not to forget the ones who's families and marriages has fallen apart also giving you advices. Becareful how you seek opinion of the public on issues you can settle with your wife in the bedroom ... 3 Likes |
Re: Sending Money To Parents Back Home by Nobody: 10:16pm On Jun 27, 2016 |
LaRochelle: How's the camp fire night going hun, hope you had fun and how's the camp xperience too. I'm a servin Corp member too Batch B 15 though. Posted to the north too buh redeployed. lol. Camp was fun and I enjoyed ma stay while I was there. That camp fire thin was fun and I really enjoyed every bit of it and hope u enjoyin urs too.. BTW, I heard u pple are leaving camp this Wednesday, is that true? |
Re: Sending Money To Parents Back Home by NigerianScholar: 10:16pm On Jun 27, 2016 |
yagganess:Give 70% of what you give to 2 to 1 |
Re: Sending Money To Parents Back Home by ogawisdom(m): 10:17pm On Jun 27, 2016 |
yagganess: Let her take care of her parents n u take care of urs if both of u r working. 1 Like |
Re: Sending Money To Parents Back Home by cointofiat: 10:21pm On Jun 27, 2016 |
Dosent have to be joint. In this situation, I will advise you both decide on what to send to your personal parents individually. |
Re: Sending Money To Parents Back Home by achoudeh(m): 10:21pm On Jun 27, 2016 |
Some time I begin to think why are people not using there brain, you are married to her and not the whole family, her brother should take care of his family you can sometime contribute, to help them, remember to invest for your children or you want them to end up like you,and your wife working to take care of there parents, that is how the slave keep runing the rat race, Wake up guy,s 1 Like |
Re: Sending Money To Parents Back Home by Noloss(f): 10:29pm On Jun 27, 2016 |
Tjohnnay:Begi begi, e no gud oo 1 Like |
Re: Sending Money To Parents Back Home by LordIsaac(m): 10:32pm On Jun 27, 2016 |
Poverty is the bane of the Nigerian family structure. When myself and my wife are successful, why should we depend on our children for welfare...? I feel your concern Op. That's the reason why I can't really save for now. As it is wicked to keep money in the bank while the souls around you are suffering! 3 Likes |
Re: Sending Money To Parents Back Home by ghettodreamz(m): 10:36pm On Jun 27, 2016 |
yagganess: Hope you are mindful of the fact that 85% of those commenting on this thread, if not more than are singles who can't even make good decisions in their various relationships. You should be wary of whom you take advice from when it comes to family issues like this. I'm sure you have other family guys who are very close to you, that issues like this could be discussed with. Reason, at some point in their lives, they have been where you currently are and would be able to advise you appropriately. All the best in finding the right response to your query. |
Re: Sending Money To Parents Back Home by YaksonFCA(m): 10:43pm On Jun 27, 2016 |
No matter d love, I don't need to consult my wife before sending money to my parent. As for her parent, I will do it at my own disposal. 3 Likes |
Re: Sending Money To Parents Back Home by YaksonFCA(m): 10:43pm On Jun 27, 2016 |
No matter d love, I don't need to consult my wife before sending money to my parent. As for her parent, I will do it at my own disposal.That is why I am d MAN of the house. |
Re: Sending Money To Parents Back Home by iPopAlomo(m): 10:50pm On Jun 27, 2016 |
See all these devilish women... they do not know what to advice... but if it was the other way around... the man is evil... OP... if you're the only person bringing money to the table... your sharing formulae okay die... abi the widow one chop two people food nii...? God save us from Karashika type of woman... 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: Sending Money To Parents Back Home by iPopAlomo(m): 10:53pm On Jun 27, 2016 |
tsmith: Example of a Karashika type of wife here... |
Re: Sending Money To Parents Back Home by iPopAlomo(m): 10:55pm On Jun 27, 2016 |
Resurgence: I just knew you'll be a woman... see as una dey take una sides... |
Re: Sending Money To Parents Back Home by histemple: 11:07pm On Jun 27, 2016 |
SGCSolutions: I think there is no better advice than this for all those who like bringing their marital challenges to nairaland. A platform mainly preoccupied by younger people. |
Re: Sending Money To Parents Back Home by tuscani: 11:09pm On Jun 27, 2016 |
mY problem is not the money, it is the contention involved. you wife should know it is not probably right to send the same amount to both parents. |
Re: Sending Money To Parents Back Home by Nobody: 11:11pm On Jun 27, 2016 |
No matter what you decide to send, unexpected expenses will still arise. Just send them what you can afford. If you can afford it,go with your wife. She knows better what her parent's expense is like. Then if your parents ever ask for extra money,go for it. |
Re: Sending Money To Parents Back Home by Nobody: 11:20pm On Jun 27, 2016 |
And can your father not work? |
Re: Sending Money To Parents Back Home by Niseamaka(m): 11:38pm On Jun 27, 2016 |
ladyF: ? |
Re: Sending Money To Parents Back Home by remigiusizunna(m): 11:46pm On Jun 27, 2016 |
I will give u my suggestion when i get married and lose my father in law with my parents still alive thanks |
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