I broke up with my ex early this year... Since then, i and her friend have become so close, we chat on social media and we do see most time... She was also my friend while i was dating my ex, but now our friendship is becoming stronger, and i think i am falling inlove with her, thou i haven't told her yet! My concern is that i don't know if it's right to date my ex's friend..... I don't know if i should make a move, or just allow things be the way they are!!




Your advice highly needed please.. Thanks!

It's fine. Your ex doesn't rule your life.

Just be prepared: the second girl may turn you down in case she doesn't want to offend your ex. Depends how good of a friendship it is - maybe she'll value her friend more than you.

Bottom line: it's her choice, not yours, should ypu choose to tell her.

Uche well done o. You want to make two good friends enemies, even knowing how ladies get jealous easily. Just say you want to punish your ex. Uche well done o.

foolinlove:
It's fine. Your ex doesn't rule your life.

Just be prepared: the second girl may turn you down in case she doesn't want to offend your ex. Depends how good of a friendship it is - maybe she'll value her friend more than you.

Bottom line: it's her choice, not yours, should ypu choose to tell her.

Thank you soo much! This just made my day!

Nasri100:
Uche well done o. You want to make two good friends enemies, even knowing how ladies get jealous easily. Just say you want to punish your ex. Uche well done o.

Who is Uche please

In my opinion it depends on your ex.... dating her friend may lead to so many bad ills.... her conscience might prick her that she is betraying her friend.... The relationship could become uncomfortable whenever your ex is around....

Think of it you smooching with her friend when she is around and she remembers you used to do that to her.... That might make her regain feelings for you once more and decide to get back into your life...(then you will come to nairaland and ask another confused question)....

Okay, In my second opinion, its better you realize friendship with her friend (thats if you ex is someone who would consider this weird and would behave totally the way I said above)... In relationships we look for the beauty of life and companionship and not more trouble....

If you had a quarrel with the friend while you guys were dating and she runs to your ex for advise what do you think you ex could adivse her...

I will say if you ex is a cool person this relationship should be given a shot...... If not avoid all unpleasantness and go for others........

If you add what I said and what foolinlove said........... then I think you got a bright shot at this

Phasesone:
If you add what I said and what foolinlove said........... then I think you got a bright shot at this

Go team!

Snc both of dem are stil friends and despite u and ur ex are not togeda again, d relationship can't work. Ur ex wil not lik u goin out with her friend and dis may cause trouble btw 2 friends. U no how Ladies behav now. Just be friend with d girl 4 now. As tim goes on, things may work well btw u 2.

Phasesone:
In my opinion it depends on your ex.... dating her friend may lead to so many bad ills.... her conscience might prick her that she is betraying her friend.... The relationship could become uncomfortable whenever your ex is around....

Think of it you smooching with her friend when she is around and she remembers you used to do that to her.... That might make her regain feelings for you once more and decide to get back into your life...(then you will come to nairaland and ask another confused question)....

Okay, In my second opinion, its better you realize friendship with her friend (thats if you ex is someone who would consider this weird and would behave totally the way I said above)... In relationships we look for the beauty of life and companionship and not more trouble....

If you had a quarrel with the friend while you guys were dating and she runs to your ex for advise what do you think you ex could adivse her...

I will say if you ex is a cool person this relationship should be given a shot...... If not avoid all unpleasantness and go for others........

Thanks! Noted! That smooching aspect thou! Besides my ex can't be there while smooch her naw!

VIEWS95:
I broke up with my ex early this year... Since then, i and her friend have become so close, we chat on social media and we do see most time... She was also my friend while i was dating my ex, but now our friendship is becoming stronger, and i think i am falling inlove with her, thou i haven't told her yet! My concern is that i don't know if it's right to date my ex's friend..... I don't know if i should make a move, or just allow things be the way they are!!




Your advice highly needed please.. Thanks!

The question here is does the friend tell or has told your ex that you guys see each other? if the answer is yes, then go for it without a care.

Honestly there are man code and girl code that forbids what you are trying to do but love is stronger that that bs. Make your move while you have the chance and if you really want to satisfy the girl/man code, tell her to tell your ex that you guys have been hanging out and hopefully she would be cool with it. I hope you aren't just trying to get some pnssy from this girl which would possibly ruin her friendship in the long run.

tee59:
Snc both of dem are stil friends and despite u and ur ex are not togeda again, d relationship can't work. Ur ex wil not lik u goin out with her friend and dis may cause trouble btw 2 friends. U no how Ladies behav now. Just be friend with d girl 4 now. As tim goes on, things may work well btw u 2.

My ex told me she has a boyfriend now, so i don't see any reason why she wouldn't want me to date her friend, and we broke up about 5months ago..

omega25red:
The question here is does the friend tell or has told your ex that you guys see each other? if the answer is yes, then go for it without a care.

Honestly there are man code and girl code that forbids what you are trying to do but love is stronger that that bs. Make your move while you have the chance and if you really want to satisfy the girl/man code, tell her to tell your ex that you guys have been hanging out and hopefully she would be cool with it. I hope you aren't just trying to get some pnssy from this girl which would possibly ruin her friendship in the long run.

Thank you so much for this... Very straight forward advice... I really appreciate!

dauntless15:
Its good and its bad

Good because they are friends and your ex talks about you when you're still dating so her friend can deduce from the little chit chats the kind of person you're if she agrees to date you it means she thinks you're a good guy and her friend doesn't deserve you, so yall will get along better and since both of them will end up being enemies atlast which is a very certain fact, it will draw you two closer, the enemy of your enemy is your friend so you will have that in common, secondly you two will strive to make it work so you wont end up as a laughing stock for your ex

Its bad because you are going to destroy thier friendship and if she agrees to date you the other will see her as a bad person, it will breed jealousy, contempt, fights, gossip and most of all hatred, and the friendship will become a wreck which will never be repaired

So if i were you I'll move on to a totally new package except you have the strength for lady drama

But my ex has already moved on with someone eles, i don't see why it will bring enemity between them

VIEWS95:
But my ex has already moved on with someone eles, i don't see why it will bring enemity between them

you know a little about girls bro, trust me I've been there before.

dauntless15:
you know a little about girls bro, trust me I've been there before.

Hmmmmmmmm

If they are good friends dey will snitch u to death trust me dere are some frnds u dont mess with o especially dose ones dat usually act like dey dont care bou each oda wo dey will treat ur Bleep up till u av no sperm count

Op, u have to state ur reasons u want to date her aside she is sexy before i say anything

halfricanadian:
If they are good friends dey will snitch u to death trust me dere are some frnds u dont mess with o especially dose ones dat usually act like dey dont care bou each oda wo dey will treat ur Bleep up till u av no sperm count

Lol... I don't fvck my ex's

VIEWS95:
Lol... I don't fvck my ex's

I aint talkin sex bro read in between the lines

halfricanadian:

I aint talkin sex bro read in between the lines

Oh now i get.... Thanks!

VIEWS95:
Oh now i get.... Thanks!

dont tank me tank God

leave ur exes frnd and look 4 anoda gal... na she be d only gal wey u see pple will just be causing trouble 4 themselves...

U wan kill 2 birds wif 1 stone??naughty naughty boi