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How Long Do You Mourn A Spouse Before Moving On? by MrDojo(m): 5:30pm On Jun 28, 2016 |
Good day everyone... I don't know if this topic should be in the family or romance section please bear with me There is this question that has recently divided members of my "squad" and lead to hot debates among my friends and I, and that is; the appropriate mourning period to mourn for a spouse, before the widow(er) can move on?! Please I'll like members of the house to chip in with one or two contributions, Since more of the members here are more matured and experienced...thank you Mods ( lalasticlala and dominique ) I don't know if you can move this to the front-page...? |
Re: How Long Do You Mourn A Spouse Before Moving On? by Ladycloud(f): 5:53pm On Jun 28, 2016 |
Individual differences 1 Like |
Re: How Long Do You Mourn A Spouse Before Moving On? by voiceoftruthNG: 6:01pm On Jun 28, 2016 |
So many factors actually contribute, and d individual involved also |
Re: How Long Do You Mourn A Spouse Before Moving On? by Nobody: 6:16pm On Jun 28, 2016 |
Some people mourn for a year, some 4years and some continue to mourn forever. Everyone involved would definitely move on at one point or the another, but the memory forever lingers. 1 Like |
Re: How Long Do You Mourn A Spouse Before Moving On? by Nobody: 6:33pm On Jun 28, 2016 |
No definite number ascribed to it but your mind clock. This is how it works. When your brain trashes the memory, It only gets deleted from the conscious short term brain memory but it never gets deleted from the mind which serves as long term memory and embedded in the subconsciousness. You will remember it till death. Now when the mind clock is ready, Then you would have a new experience to counteror repress old experience (defense mechanism), Yes, falling in love is another way to suppress it but not erase it because its impossible. The mind is also as power as making you completely thrashing out the long term memory of the dead, depending on the type of relationship you had with them when alive. Lastly, Change of environment (nature/nurture) is very important, The environment shapes you and gives you a new perception of life. So that also helps in forging ahead with life easily. 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: How Long Do You Mourn A Spouse Before Moving On? by byvan03: 6:42pm On Jun 28, 2016 |
1 year minimum. 1 Like |
Re: How Long Do You Mourn A Spouse Before Moving On? by Lucky4real28(m): 3:54am On Jun 29, 2016 |
In my opinion, I think you can totally forget about your ex lover if you have dated more persons you did more with...trust me, when you date someone and the relationship seem to be so fun, you hardly think about your past because you have no reason to do that and when you don't a long time, it fades off...am not saying you totally forget like you have amnesia, but you just don't have it there like when you haven't been involved in more fun things. aaronson: 1 Like |
Re: How Long Do You Mourn A Spouse Before Moving On? by Nobody: 5:10am On Jun 29, 2016 |
Lucky4real28:Exactly bro, you nailed it, That's what I call the heart mind problem or psychology of Deja vu 1 Like |
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