pls after how many weeks can I start to have sex with my wife that just gave birth, I need experience respond pls.

ayam not married

After 3 months minimum

I think 40days is ideal if she the not go through CS

some doctors will tell you after 6weeks,while others will tell you whenever the lochia has stopped and your wife feels comfortable with the idea. Personally,i havent waited till 6weeks before.

chinma414:
some doctors will tell you after 6weeks,while others will tell you whenever the lochia has stopped and your wife feels comfortable with the idea. Personally,i havent waited till 6weeks before.

this is certainly the truth

but it varies a bit with some ladies thou

Resuming your sex-life may take time – you may feel ready within weeks or you may not be ready for months. Every woman is different, so don't feel pressurised or worry that you're not normal.

This is a time of huge readjustment as you learn to live with, and tune into, your new baby’s needs so it's completely normal if sex isn’t high on your agenda. Exhaustion is common due to broken sleep and the increased demands on your time, which can have a huge impact on how “in the mood” you feel.

If you do feel ready, you don't have to wait until after your six-week check. It is advisable to wait until the post-birth bleeding has stopped (often between 10–14 days, but it can continue for several weeks). This is because your uterus is still healing and if you have sex before the bleeding has stopped there’s a possibility that you could introduce an infection.

How different births affect sex

The time taken to recover from labour and get back to having sex depends on the type of birth you had.

With stitches following a cut (episiotomy) or a tear you’ll feel sore. Stitches should dissolve after 10 days and by two weeks healing should be well underway, and the soreness should have reduced. If you do have stitches, you may want to try positions that limit penetration or reduce the pressure on the stitched area and remember to take it slowly and gently when you feel ready for sex.

If you had a natural birth, you may just feel tired and uncomfortable. With no tear or cut, healing will be swifter and you may feel ready for sex earlier, although if you feel bruised or have some grazing (which may sting) you may want to take it gently.

If you had a caesarean you may be worried about the scar but it should be well healed by the time your stitches come out. If it is still sensitive you may prefer to find positions that don't put pressure on the scar.

Tiredness, fear of pain, or other fears generally, such as any vaginal or scar tissue reopening, may all play a part in your readiness to resume sex. Talking to your partner may help, as worries around sex can delay arousal or sexual feelings. Spending time on pre-intimacy and not feeling that you have to proceed to penetrative sex may also help. Using lubrication during sex can be helpful too.

thanks thanks to all d response, let me try 40days.