5 Things you Need To Know Before You Build Your Life With Him





ittle would one wonder the cause when you hear some ladies lament over their encounter with men in their relationship.


“I spent my life with him only for him to leave me”. “He dumped me after I gave him my body and monies. Men are wicked!”


I often get surprised when some ladies conclude that all men are the same. Is that true?


One thing that is traceable to be the problem is because of their ignorance about this: you do not build your life around a man you are not sure of.


You must be sure you are heading along the journey with the right man. And it’s not enough to say, “I feel or I think he’s the right one for me”. No, it does not work that way, you have to be sure.


Going into a lifelong relationship with a man such as marriage is not a function of feelings but revelation, not to be based on emotional attraction but on conviction that comes from above.


And before you build your life with him, which implies that you accept his proposal, here are some truths you have to know.






1.
*A good man is hard to find*

is relative. What is good for lady A is not the same for lady B. But the bottom line is that, do not expect one perfect man you have imagined or seen in fictional movies to appear your way, never think it.

Wake up and access reality! Man in his ability cannot know what is good for him unless he depends on the One who knows good things.





2.
*Dating does not help*

Do you think dating every Tom, Dick and Harry would make you find the right man? Never!

Dating is just a sheer waste of your life – time, resources and focus. You will increase your worries if dating is what you adopt in determining his suitability for your life.

It will expose you to the evils some men do or believe it is love. And if you go from pillar to post on the premise of dating, you will have much to lose. Not even the so-called Christian dating as some people indoctrinate would help.

If you do not know before, now you know that “dating” is social word and it is not a Kingdom word. In the Kingdom, you “court(ship)” and head straight to marriage.





3.
*Discover your suitability*

You can only be suitable to the right man when you know your purpose. Know yourself before you think of building your life with him.

There is no point ‘managing’ him if he does not agrees with your values or purpose in life. But the mistake lots of ladies make is that, they are either myopic to see who they are or feel he is the kind of man they need.

You can never be a suitable help meet if you do not know your worth. You do not need a man to complement you, you are to complement him.

The fact that Eve was Adam’s suitable help meet does not mean Eve needed Adam so bad. Discover yourself so that GOD can place you in the hand of the man with whom you can be his suitable help meet.




4.
*Make yourself a right partner*

One thing most ladies do not know is that you cannot get Mr. Right if you are not a Miss Right. And if maybe by chance you are fortunate to have one, you will mess up the marriage.

How can you be suitable for him if you do not live by purpose when he has one coupled with the fact that you failed to work on yourself?

While waiting to be married, work on your emotional, spiritual, mental, financial and physical life.

Conserve your energies and resources to bettering your life. Do not waste your time of singleness on ephemeral things that does no last. Invest in what would improve your life and not on relationships you’re ‘sampling’.

Remember, marriage will not make you a good wife. You will make yourself a wife material before marriage. Take time to build yourself so that you can trust GOD to do His part. And this is if you want HIS perfect will.







5.
*Be intimate with GOD*

Being intimate with GOD is becoming archaic to the society we live in. Many do not see the



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