A male friend of mine and colleague at work is in a fix because his fiancee(I happen to know both of them) has decided to end the relationship reason being:
She was in a market somewhere in Anambra state negotiating the price of a camisole top in one of the shops with the lady shopkeeper and they couldn't arrive at an agreement and she decided to check another place and dropped the top and left.
She was walking down the stairs when all of a sudden the shopkeeper lady came shouting behind her back that she has her cloth and didn't drop it. This drew the attention of two street boys around, and they stopped at the end of the stairs and blocked the girl. One of them picked up a stick.
She now run back upstairs and followed the woman back to her shop and opens her bag for her to search but there was nothing there.
By this time a small crowd has quickly gathered in the lady shop, while the girl kept insisting she left the cloth behind, while the shopkeeper lady told her she's going to get naked today and she won't leave unless the cloth was found.
One particular elderly woman kept trying to calm everyone, while she helped to search for the top, and then finally the top was found under a neatly folded rows of Jean trousers. The woman brought it out and asked the shopkeeper lady if that is what she was looking for and she acknowledged it, Looking a bit ashamed.
Now everyone started shouting and telling shopkeeper she's an impatient lady. She apologized to the girl but the girl angrily left the scene, while the area boys were telling her "fine geh sorry oh"
She visited to her fiance the next weekend and asked him if a young lady was alleged to have stolen an item from a market is it right for her to immediately be assaulted and humiliated... and the fiance without letting her finish said yes that a thief is a thief whether a male or female that in fact she should be lynched.
Clearly she was shocked and that's when he now told the fiance her experience... And he really felt bad and have apologized to her but his girl has stopped wearing his engagement ring he gave her. And though she has not said it, he believes his girl doesn't want to be married to him anymore, he has lost more than 10kg for the past couple of weeks and he deeply regret what he said.

Even the Bible said it is presumptuousness on the part of a man to reply to a matter before hearing it.

The man made a mistake by jumping into conclusion without first hearing the whole gist.

However, since he has apologized, the lady should let go, except if she has been looking for an excuse to separate from him.


If they're made for each other, they'll definitely make up, if they can't, then, one thing must cause a conflict in a relationship that is not supposed to be.

Actually op, your friend

1. Supports jungle justice

2. Is presumptious

3. Above all IMPATIENT

THEREFORE:

Not matured enough for marriage (especially) to the said lady!

Nigerians should erase the melting of jungle justice on alleged people. Anybody can accuse another of a crime not committed. It is even better for a criminal to go unpunished that an innocent person been punished for a crime he knew nothing about.

It'll be really stupid for him to lose his engagement over that but the fact remains that this fringe culture of flaying and lynching everything and everyone at the slightest opportunity "has mastered" some people.

He's gotten served now and it's not appetizing, too bad; he should better go and beg her.

Dude was quick to speak

Thankfully he realised his mistake

He should meet up with the girl and have a heart to heart talk with her.

Thanks for the mature responses so far guys.

misspicy:

Please be specific about the type of criminal that should go unpunished abeg.


criminals are to be punished after investigations are done,not allowed to go unpunished before or after investigations

Did you even read his post at all?

He made a comparison between two scenarios and identified the better option . . . and YES, it's better for a KILLER to go unpunished that for an innocent man accused of killing maimed out of jungle justice!

Nigerians and jungle justice are like rice and stew

His quick response alone shows an impatient and judgemental man, and his support for jungle justice is another big problem.

say the girl marries your friend and tomorrow someone comes and lies on his wife that she is cheating on him, thats how he would panel beat the woman on hear say?

The girl is very correct in breaking it off. I am also sure your friend had shown violent tendencies to this girl previously that has caused her to rethink her life.

Just because someone claims to love you and is allegedly loosing weight and sober doesnt mean they dont retain their beliefs and perception on life.

Infact, i am very sure it is you and not your "famous friend"

Your fiancée did what was best for her. You have an unforgiving spirit and like to oppress those deemed under you. So because of allegedly stealing a piece of cloth, you want the person to be lynched? Why not go after the politicians milking this country dry? Or your liver never reach? S.M.H.

You are not yet matured for marriage.

I wouldn't marry him, if I was the lady.

I wouldn't marry him if I was her.

If we were already married and he said such, I'll leave him.

See there are things that are inhumane and I'd be frightened to associate with people who support such things. Like jungle justice. I'd never be in the same room with any 'human' being who's ever participated in such activities.

Jungle justice is just an avenue for evil people who haven't been caught in their own misbehavior to unleash their wickedness on those who are unfortunate to have been caught. Especially when it concerns minor things like petty stealing.

A supporter of jungle justice is a murderer.

However, a contrite heart deserves forgiveness.

One ought to be careful with his or her utterances

They are both not ready for marriage

Something of that magnitude happened to her and she waited till when she visited her fiancé the following week before mentioning it. She should have been on the phone to him immediately.

He too jumped up and calling for jungle justice - Small minded Bush man. And I am sure he is educated o!

I hate thieves, because they steal other peoples hard work, but not everything is as it looks, and as seen in this story, mistakes can be made so one must not take law into their own hands.

I am surprised that the lady did not get the police involved in the matter.
She could have been killed, just like the Aluu 4, and the more that people get into trouble for meting out jungle justice, the more they will think twice before doing it.

I don't blame the man. I blame the lady! What was her motive? Is it to find out if d guy loves jungle justice? She could have told the man her experience first.maybe she was looking for an excuse to terminate the relationship. If she loves D man, she wouldn't mind his opinion.

Also I hate jungle justice. It's the greatest form of uncivilization in Nigeria... I think the lady needs a guy who share the same beliefs and norms with her...

That girl left the shopkeeper off the hook real quick.... she should have done something....pick up a chair and smash it on her or on her goods...just something upsetting to register her displeasure