1. Express interest in what he's thinking or
feeling by asking him.
Asking self-reflective questions, allowing the
time and space for him to answer, then talking
so that he can elaborate will likely make him feel
valued and that you care about him in a special
way. Ideally, he may discover things or become
aware of things about himself he rarely thinks
about.
2. Give him your undivided attention, eye-to-eye.
Generally, women talk more than they listen.
Giving your undivided attention conveys that
whatever they have to say is important to you.
Eye contact is a show of genuine interest, that
you are comfortable being with him and that
what he says truly matters to you.
3. Say what you’d really like: “I’d really
appreciate it if you..."
George had felt disconnected from his wife for a
while. He felt that she was constantly consumed,
anxious and worried and that he was rarely on
her radar. No matter what he did, it went
unnoticed, so after a while, he stopped trying to
read her mind.
Making specific requests made him feel they
were connected partners working together who
could count on each other for support. I believe
that he was speaking for the majority of men.
4. Express appreciation for something he said or
did.
Here again is the theme of outwardly and
explicitly expressing acknowledgement,
appreciation or affection. Feeling noticed and
seen is validating, therefore inherently romantic.
Whether it’s sensitivity, generosity, wit, or
intelligence, whatever it was he said or did, let
him know it warmed your heart.
5. Say what you’d really like to do together.
Initiating a conversation about planning some
kind of getaway together sends the message
that it’s not always or entirely up to him to make
something happen. You’re also telling him that
you want some special quality time together ,
which will also give you both something to look
forward to.
6. Ask questions that encourage him to open up.
Asking questions that require some thought,
perhaps self-examination, can create a rare
opportunity for him to open up in way that he’s
not used to, and shed light on some special
quality or ability he’s taken for granted or could
never take credit for. You’re also sending a
message you want get to know him more deeply
and that the coast is clear for him to open up
more.
7. Show that you understand where he’s coming
from: "I get that what’s most important to you
is..."
Understanding is a basic human need. In a
simple, basic way, understanding can serve as a
definition for love. It’s what intimacy is. Take
the time to understand his experience so he
feels understood. That’s always a turn-on.
Understanding is a bridge that connects the two
of you in a deeper way.
8. Surprise him, based on the notion that men
long to be free and spontaneous.
A prevailing stereotype is that men are always
busy “doing,” distracted, pressured, looking at the
time, are locked into a routine which they will
rarely deviate from. While this may be true, it
doesn’t mean that’s how they want to be.
Surprising them is reminding them that it’s
possible and OK to be spontaneous.
9. Celebrate what connects you to each other,
what’s most special, what works best in your
relationship.
Toast him! “Here’s to you.” Toast your
relationship! "Here’s to us." He’s worth it.
You’re worth it. Your relationship is a joint-effort
that is greater when together than when you are
apart. This conversation can bring attention to
your respective roles, differences, strengths and
weaknesses. It’s not just that you’re special to
each other or that your relationship is special,
but specifically that which makes it special.
Romance to a guy is about re-affirming a deep
connection by being and relating in a way that is
personal, as you would relate to a best friend,
someone you consider to be your soulmate, that
is not romantic per se as much as it is a state
of existence.

Nice one Op, but nothing makes a guy stay... Even when the lady does all that is listed above and more

Tyviv:
Nice one Op, but nothing makes a guy stay... Even when the lady does all that is listed above and more

U tink so?

Princeadonis:
U tink so?

I don't think so, I know so from experience

Tyviv:
I don't think so, I know so from experience

Nt all guys are demons though...Dis should wrk 4 an average mature Nigerian man

Princeadonis:
Nt all guys are demons though...Dis should wrk 4 an average mature Nigerian man

Lol...okay