What to do when your spouse loses a job
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A psychologist, Dr. John Eze, says when a woman loses her job, she expects the man to make up and fill the gap, but when a man loses his job, he feels incapacitated for losing his source of income because he is expected to be the breadwinner. According to him, these tips would help women to help their husbands at such times:

1. Be tolerant: That a man loses his job is enough torment for him, such a time would not be the best time to remind him of what he could have done differently to keep his job. Besides, it is not strange for a man that loses his job to act in strange ways or be lost in thought, so the woman should be more tolerant of his behaviour and should not scold him.

2.Keep an eye on him: In many cases, when people, especially men, lose their source of income, it brings depression and it is usually a delicate time. Eze adds that if the spouse is not very watchful, the person could commit suicide because of that. It becomes a bigger problem if the man no longer talks to anybody. As a way out, the woman is advised to find a way to engage the man in a discussion, so as to lighten his mood, boost his confidence and his social interaction, which could make him think productively on the way forward.

3. Don’t flood him with pity: Does a man need pity at that time? No. According to the psychologist, pity could make it worse as it tends to make the man realise how bad the situation is. Rather, the woman should give him emotional support and financial aid. “She could put money in his pocket without him asking, because asking all the time could make him feel less of a man,” he explained.

4.Review your spending: It is equally advised that the couple should do it together rather than one person, especially if it is something that affects both of them. Thus, drawing a scale of preference together might be the way to go. However, let him not lose sight of the need to get a job.

On the other hand, when a woman loses her job, it is advised that the man should give her emotional and financial support, buy her things she would have loved to buy on her own and discuss with her on what she likes to do. “Any woman who does something productive, no matter how much it brings in, feels more fulfilled than someone who just sits by,” he said.
Another psychologist, Prof. Toba Elegbeleye, said the kind of treatment a man would get after losing his job would depend on the kind of relationship he had with his wife before then, saying it is the reason people are advised never to make their spouse or family members their enemy.

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