Prince16:
May ur case not be like ds:


https://www.nairaland.com/2912495/lawyer-stabs-husband-death-ibadan

https://www.nairaland.com/2912463/yewande-fatoki-husband-killer-pictures.
The gentleman was stabbed to death (in d neck) while asleep by his wife (sic) after a quarrel. Please read d story..


Note: rationality is a rectitude dt d dotas of eve have in limited supply especially when exasperation sets in. A word should be enough 4 d wise!

Pix 1: d 'wife' and d husband corpse

Pix 2: d husband after d first stab in d evening of d quarrel

Pix 3: the man after d second stab in d NECK whilst asleep some few hours later

#marriage_not_by_force
#living_dog_beta_dn_dead_lion
#Team_receive_sense

God bless you for bringing this out...I have been in court twice when her case came up,she didn't look remorseful at all.I am sure its yet to hit her that she is a lawyer on trial for killing her husband.A colleague that knows her very well was saying the abuse started from the time they were dating...She was fond of dragging and tearing his clothes and all sorts.Afterwards she would beg him for forgiveness.Na leaf wen dey sweet goat dey finally kill am!
Those saying forgive would be the same persons to ask why he didn't leave if anything happens to him(God forbid).A woman that would do that has no respect for the man or her marriage.All of you saying she wanted attention,have you asked yourselves why she couldn't go about getting it in a better way?Abi her way of communication na to spit on her husband?I am not married but have done way too many divorces to know a marriage headed for the rocks when i see one.A major key to making marriage work is constant communication about your feelings,speaking up to get the changes you need.Nobody has the gift of prophesy and so a man/woman has to be forthwith with information that would better his/her relationship with their partner.The moment someone resorts to using swear words and saying negative things about your past or upbringing to insult you ,they might as well start filing for divorce because the marriage is as good as over.Respect is a basic sign of love.You cannot say you love someone and say things you know would really hurt them.Thats why i tell people love is not enough to get married.Find someone you are attracted to,that respects you,that's willing to partner with u (more like a business) to make the marriage work.Shikena!

chuksbogus2001:
I don't know how Saudi deals men beating women .let me tell u when we were small my mum used to be very arrogant and rude to my dad cos he is a quiet man not until my mums mother I mean her own mum told my dad to beat her .After my dad gave her a better beating peace ,love respect came to our house since 1984 till now my mum has never raise her voice against my dad. Am not advocating women battery but a times small spanking does the magic

Hmmmm. This response is dangerous to respond to. Women love to test their men. It is weird but true. Wonder why nice guys never get the women. It seems they want a man in charge. In charge means fully controlling. What you mentioned might be true. I don't want to use the word beat. She probably loves the guy, needs some drama to reset her brain but she just can't say beat me. Unfortunately, the world is now politically correct and the advice seems chauvinistic. If you love her like you do bros, maybe na that beating go determine am oh. Na joke I dey joke oh. But if u can't do that which I really can't advocate, u need to make a manly move. Ask her if she wants to end it. You said she dated a man twice her age. The truth is an ex should remain so. Going back to them is usually disrespectful. It sounds like u had no choice. All the best but I don't see this going anywhere.

"Arguing with a woman is like reading a software license agreement .in the end you ignore everything and click " I agree", so please men stop arguing with tour wives"

The day I read this quotation was the day I stopped arguing with women.as loving and caring as they are ,their brains sparks ar times like kazeem the mechanic wires ,when it does just ignore them and leave .

I bet some naija girls don message am to throw her out and take them without even asking if he is planning on sending hrr back from cotonu or gabon

MrHenshaw:



No need to hear from the woman.Spat on his face ?No no noWithout d spat,its not an issue as such.

Lol. Clearly, that was wrong and unthoughtful of the wife but this guy is uncaring and pay no attention to his wife which is equally wrong. He just thinks in term of money which is. Nothing once u hv it. Remember the wife is pressured especially when she doesn't have friend in Saudi Arabia. She cannot also drive without her husband and this guy almost broke her hand.

Now many wives do worse. What about those that cheat? Which is worse? They hv issues and must look for a way to resolve it. Are you advising he should do away with his wife?

chuksbogus2001:
I don't know how Saudi deals men beating women .let me tell u when we were small my mum used to be very arrogant and rude to my dad cos he is a quiet man not until my mums mother I mean her own mum told my dad to beat her .After my dad gave her a better beating peace ,love respect came to our house since 1984 till now my mum has never raise her voice against my dad. Am not advocating women battery but a times small spanking does the magic

Wayray re oooo!!!!!!

Gosh! am I the only one sensing something romantic about the whole scene here? First, your woman demands a router from you and ends up picking the remote, which she hided in her pant. Dude for real, you couldn't decipher she wanted some hot romance in the kitchen. What manner of a man will be so lost in a game that wife whom you LOVE cannot distract you. Perhaps she is not working and all you do after coming back from work is to keep to your poor miserable life. You're selfish and wicked. Infact you are a true definition of a boring and horrible husband who has succeeded in turning the poor lady to a bad wife. Truly bro, you deserve every bad thing she said to you. All she wanted was the man you used to be while in school. But you have gotten so used to her that "a little romance" does not exist anyway near your marriage. Never mind all those saying you should send her back to naija o, if they know where she is they will not waste time to pay for her hands in marriage. In a time like this in this country, all you need is a woman who can help you keep it together. Do you want to get the truth from me? Go and apologize to your woman and crown it all with a round of s*x. May you never knew or remembered that marriage was first meant for companionship, secondly for help mate for each other, and finally for procreation. Why try to spoil the fun. Have a nice EID holidays and remember to enjoy your wife before someone else does it for you. Cheers.

nameerfhtennek:
"You are a violent person!! You can kill, idiot!! You were not shown love by your parents, that is why you will squeeze your wife's hand to collect the console. They allowed you to grow up in the street without parental..."

[size=13pt]Two things

1). She still feels guilty about her leaving you when you left for Saudi-Arabia
She guilt-created insecurities when she thinks about it makes her to seek ways in which to prove to herself that you really love her no matter what. So she is on a subconcious level trying to get you to prove you love her no matter what.
Put another way, perhaps more correctly, she is trying to prove to herself that you love her no matter what, being haunted by thoughts that she is not good enough for you.

So we know many women in Nigeria throw all the burden of the demonstration of love on the other side. They are happy to take responsibility for 0%. They think it is the woman's place to do so, and the man's responsibility to do A, B, C...Z "if he really loves me.

2). I never thought I would be saying this but I have a funny feeling she wants you to make brutal/rough love to her. She is testing you, tempting you, wanting to feel the strength of your maleness in terms of sexual domination. Perhaps she wants to be thoroughly and roughly sexually dominated.

The problem I may have with that (although that would not be my business) is that she might become addicted to getting you angry just to have a heightened sexual experience. If she succeeds 1-2 times in getting her way this way (assuming my suspicions are right) you might develop a taste for this too (it's a process called neuro-association) and this might become a part of your sexual life that both of you do not want to give up - the spice of a fight before intimacy.[/size]

she need more sex than the game u are playing. Just give her more sex, hard sex she will stop all d quarrel.

U will thank me later

Gosh! am I the only one sensing something romantic about the whole scene here? First, your woman demands a router from you and ends up picking the remote, which she hid in her pant. Dude for real, you couldn't decipher she wanted some hot romance in the kitchen. What manner of a man will be so lost in a game that wife whom you LOVE cannot distract you. Perhaps she is not working and all you do after coming back from work is to keep to your poor miserable life. You're selfish and wicked. Infact you are a true definition of a boring and horrible husband who has succeeded in turning the poor lady to a bad wife. Truly bro, you deserve every bad thing she said to you. All she wanted was the man you used to be while in school. But you have gotten so used to her that "a little romance" does not exist anyway near your marriage. Never mind all those saying you should send her back to naija o, if they know where she is they will not waste time to pay for her hands in marriage. In a time like this in this country, all you need is a woman who can help you keep it together. Do you want to get the truth from me? Go and apologize to your woman and crown it all with a round of s*x. May you never knew or remembered that marriage was first meant for companionship, secondly for help mate for each other, and finally for procreation. Why try to spoil the fun. Have a nice EID holidays and remember to enjoy your wife before someone else does it for you. Cheers.

Mayflowa:


Lol. Clearly, that was wrong and unthoughtful of the wife but this guy is uncaring and pay no attention to his wife which is equally wrong. He just thinks in term of money which is. Nothing once u hv it. Remember the wife is pressured especially when she doesn't have friend in Saudi Arabia. She cannot also drive without her husband and this guy almost broke her hand.

Now many wives do worse. What about those that cheat? Which is worse? They hv issues and must look for a way to resolve it. Are you advising he should do away with his wife?

According to d husband,he has not been enjoying their marriage of over one year.That he has been seeing strange things despite been d wife been her course mate.According to him,he has overlooked a lot of things because he loves her.l think she is taking yhat advantage.If u fail to nip somethings at the board,d will surely hunt u.I maintain that d spat was just extreme and that is my major concern .We are just commenting on spit,tomorrow might be stab or poison.

nameerfhtennek:
It's more than 20minutes, I'm still unable to put words together to begin this story. I will try keep it simple and necessarily detailed so everyone will understand the true picture of what happened, why against my belief that writing personal experiences on social media is immature, I had to still write mine. Let's just say I'm not thinking right now, maybe I'm so upset but truth is, I need your advice.

I'm writing this thread seated at the back of a Hilux truck just outside our apartment. Yaa, that me in the picture. You see, today is EID and believe me I should be resting in the house since I'm not working today. Days like this only come by 6times in a whole year and more than anything, I would have loved resting than being out here.

It was yesterday evening, she called and said she her driver were headed to my office. She wanted to pick some stuffs around my office. Yaa, I forgot to say this is Saudi Arabia. If you know Saudi quite well, you will agree with me that a husband will definitely get exhausted running errands for his wife or the family. I was not in the mood for shopping but she wanted to shop. She got upset that I didn't want to accompany her shopping.

She did her shopping alone and returned few minutes before I closed from work. We headed home. Unknown to me, I forgot my internet router in my office because I was rushing to get home and continue with my FIFA 16.
Her internet service expired some days back so we were using mine.

While playing game, she walked into the seating room and demanded for my router. Mine, not hers. With her tone and facial expression demanding the router, I didn't respond because there was an indication that she was warming up for a quarrel. I wasn't just in the mood. The thing is, she is very skilled in extending her anger phases. That is one thing I can't understand till today. Believe me, it was not like this while we were dating. Sorry, I forgot to tell you I married my university girlfriend, she years my junior and the same department. Ya, I'm one of those guys that dated and planned for the future with their girls at the same time. God blessed that plan but at this point I don't understand everything that has been happening for the past one year plus since we got married. She repeatedly demanded that I handed over my router to her but I was quiet. Meanwhile, it occurred to me that I forgot the router in my office the minute she first asked about it. Truth is, I actually needed to use the internet that night for my online FIFA.

After several times of asking for the router and no response from me, she took the TV remote and switched off the TV. She walked straight to the kitchen and hid the remote. I approached her in the kitchen and told her I was not ready for any kinda quarrel. We have had enough for the past one year of getting married. I then told her I forgot the router in my office, I didn't have it. I guess she didn't believe me, she never did. She told me to leave her alone. I returned back to the seating room with my heart beating fast. I knew she wanted a serious quarrel that night. After some minutes, I returned to the kitchen and requested for the remote. Then I figured out she hid it in her pant. Pretending I was passing by, I swiftly went for the remote from under her short gown and grabbed it. She didn't expect I knew where she hid it. She followed me behind and ceased the game console, second indication she wanted me to react. I do have a problem with my temper just like every human, male or female. I have also learnt to deal with it by walking away at times I feel I was going to lose it. The same reason I'm outside at this time, 9:55 pm Saudi time. She knows I have fought hard to tame my temper issues but most times, she makes deliberate efforts to have me overreact to her nags and rants.

I watched her hide the console in her pant yet again. I shuddered in obvious fear because I knew what the woman wanted, a fight. Unable to deal with it,the intimidation and the shame, I went for the console and squeezed it out from her hand while she was trying to hold it tight. That was when the trouble then started. She wanted a buffer to help her spill everything she had nursed in her mind. "You are a violent person!! You can kill, idiot!! You were not shown love by your parents, that is why you will squeeze your wife's hand to collect the console. They allowed you to grow up in the street without parental guidance and love." Then it came....pwaaaaaaah!!! She spat on my face!!!!! God knows, I have never been spat at before, not by my parents, not by my siblings, not by anybody. " I agree I was not shown love by my parents but your Dad is a coward for running away from your mother without being there for you guys when he needed to play his roles as a father. That explains the reason you are like this", I said and walked back to the seating room.

I managed to play a few games which I lost mostly and then slept off around past 5am this morning. Around 3pm, I woke up and went to the office. Not like I had work but I needed to clear my head away from the house. If only there was alcohol in Saudi, I would have been somewhere in a hotel drinking away the shame. When I returned home by past 7pm, hungry and tired. I needed to continue my game but I could no longer find the game console and the TV remote. I asked for it and she ignored me. I managed to eat and then left the house to this truck.

You see, I love my wife more than anything, more than anyone. She is one person in the whole world I could go any length for. I love her, that was why I forgave her when she broke up with me after I left Nigeria for Saudi Arabia. She broke up with me few months after I came to Saudi and started dating another guy twice her age. She says she never expected I would come back to her after she left me but I did. I did because I saw a future with her, a future I imagined, believed in and worked towards its reality. Today we have gotten to a level where most people out there would want to be, our colleagues envy is because they believe we are privileged and blessed but what they don't know is that in the truth, I have no peace. This marriage has become my legacy and my curse.

I want to send her back to Nigeria in few days time and I hope I'm not making a mistake!!! Spitting on my face, nah nah....am so fed up!!!!

Op! Op! Op!, how many times I call you? I be confirm womanizer, and I can confidently tell you that you have not been fu*ckiig ur wife well enough. There is a separation between you guys in the home. ####moment of truth. Knack her very very very well enough. Then, just immediately after the knack, ask her why she always disrespect u and make you unhappy. She will open up most of the truth to you. So you can know what to do from there.
N.B: suck toto join ooo. You fit put yoghurt.
Lack of sex dey make person restless and unhappy. If na me once my babe put anytin wey I dey find for toto, she dey call for kondo be that. She spat on u because she crave for it and u didn't discern. Above all trust in God to bring happiness into your home.

No Sir . Wait. No send her back pop. Sheybi it's only your face she spat on? You must have provoked her ni. You need to sacrifice and sort things out with her. This is love we are talking about and you love her.
Please wait untill she:

1. Slaps you
2. Spits on your parents
3. Slaps them
4. Makes you slap her back
5 then she will report you to the police if you didn't kill her out of frustration
6 then you ll be sent to prison
7 than she will continue making life hell for your family members while you are behind bars wasting away.

I would say only after she has fulfilled this seven point agenda should you send her back to Nigeria.
After all, we all must love our wives like Christ loved the church and gave his life for her.

God bless you brother

Omo. You like too like game... Let her go.... Though... Spat on your face is way beyond the line of common sense....

intruder15:
hmmm. Dis 1 is strong. Well, most posting comments are single. I included. Some married ones also gave suggestions, bt trust me wen i say none of them knows how u feel cuz they might ve been abused by their wives, bt never ve they been ''spat on''... So, nobody knows how u feel. I cant do dat to a lady. I wonder what gave her d guts to do dat. U know ladies. They like attention more than any other thing u could possibly give them. U know guys. We love fifa and pes like our lives depends on it. Not al though. Maybe she just de unveil d beef whe she get for dat console teh teh. How often do u two discuss hw ur day went at night before bed? Or u are still playing d game ensuring u win juve while she has slept off? These are d little things dat ruins marriage. If u know things u used to do back wen in sch, try and replicate it. If u do dat, and ur marriage still sucks, ''nwanne gbarie door'' in phyno's tone.

Thanks for this. This is the most reasonable comment I've seen so far.


OP, your wife craves attention obviously. Ignore all those ones saying let her go o.... many of them will not let their spouses go like that.

As far as her spit is not acid, then you are still good to go. She was obviously really frustrated and that was the best way of communicating her anger with you. You pressed her hand and she spat on you, you two are even then.

The early years in marriage are tricky, most people don't bother with showing affection anymore as if they just won a contest, so there's no need to work for it anymore.

Marriage is constant work o, you don't let it go or else one or both parties will suffer.

Op, you said it was not like this before you married...but now she is different. She is still the same person, it's the factors surrounding your marriage that are different and it's influencing her attitude.

You need to calm down and give her some attention instead of giving it all to FIFA and PES. Abi if you liked PES so much, why didn't you marry it?

You said you love her, then show her. Tell her, women like that sort of thing. Just calling her a pet/endearing name will work wonders.

You might be married but the both of you need to treat each other like you are still dating. It might seem like work since you think you have already won the prize but marriage is work o.

Ofcourse you are a busy person, so it's not like you are expected to be lovey dovey 24hrs but from time to time, just give her a little attention during the day and over time you both adjust to each other.

Sending her back to Nigeria will worsen your issues except you indirectly/directly want the marriage to end, then you can do this.

Some of us have been down this route for a while now and we are still in it. Marriage doesn't work itself out. Both parties have to work at it daily.

N.b guy you no fit code sef, she hid the tv remote in her pants and you dont know that is code for you to take off the pants. Chai, cluelessness.

My honest opinion..
Sit her down
,
Pick up your laptop
,
Go to Nairaland
,
Show her this post
,
Leave her alone for few hours to go through the comments
,
Come back home after
,
Trust me, her brain would have reset if she truly want this marriage to work.
Best of Luck.

Mayflowa:


Lol. Clearly, that was wrong and unthoughtful of the wife but this guy is uncaring and pay no attention to his wife which is equally wrong. He just thinks in term of money which is. Nothing once u hv it. Remember the wife is pressured especially when she doesn't have friend in Saudi Arabia. She cannot also drive without her husband and this guy almost broke her hand.

Now many wives do worse. What about those that cheat? Which is worse? They hv issues and must look for a way to resolve it. Are you advising he should do away with his wife?

so because he pays no attention to his wife,she can do anyhow?...continue u hear!!!

chuksbogus2001:
I don't know how Saudi deals men beating women .let me tell u when we were small my mum used to be very arrogant and rude to my dad cos he is a quiet man not until my mums mother I mean her own mum told my dad to beat her .After my dad gave her a better beating peace ,love respect came to our house since 1984 till now my mum has never raise her voice against my dad. Am not advocating women battery but a times small spanking does the magic

you're right women like that don't need soft and calm hands

repogirl:
Thanks for this. This is the most reasonable comment I've seen so far.


OP, your wife craves attention obviously. Ignore all those ones saying let her go o.... many of them will not let their spouses go like that.

As far as her spit is not acid, then you are still good to go. She was obviously really frustrated and that was the best way of communicating her anger with you. You pressed her hand and she spat on you, you two are even then.

The early years in marriage are tricky, most people don't bother with showing affection anymore as if they just won a contest, so there's no need to work for it anymore.

Marriage is constant work o, you don't let it go or else one or both parties will suffer.

Op, you said it was not like this before you married...but now she is different. She is still the same person, it's the factors surrounding your marriage that are different and it's influencing her attitude.

You need to calm down and give her some attention instead of giving it all to FIFA and PES. Abi if you liked PES so much, why didn't you marry it?

You said you love her, then show her. Tell her, women like that sort of thing. Just calling her a pet/endearing name will work wonders.

You might be married but the both of you need to treat each other like you are still dating. It might seem like work since you think you have already won the prize but marriage is work o.

Ofcourse you are a busy person, so it's not like you are expected to be lovey dovey 24hrs but from time to time, just give her a little attention during the day and over time you both adjust to each other.

Sending her back to Nigeria will worsen your issues except you indirectly/directly want the marriage to end, then you can do this.

Some of us have been down this route for a while now and we are still in it. Marriage doesn't work itself out. Both parties have to work at it daily.

N.b guy you no fit code sef, she hid the tv remote in her pants and you dont know that is code for you to take off the pants. Chai, cluelessness.

smh....code ko,algorithims ni..yeye

klbakare:


Op! Op! Op!, how many times I call you? I be confirm womanizer, and I can confidently tell you that you have not been fu*ckiig ur wife well enough. There is a separation between you guys in the home. ####moment of truth. Knack her very very very well enough. Then, just immediately after the knack, ask her why she always disrespect u and make you unhappy. She will open up most of the truth to you. So you can know what to do from there.
N.B: suck toto join ooo. You fit put yoghurt.
Lack of sex dey make person restless and unhappy. If na me once my babe put anytin wey I dey find for toto, she dey call for kondo be that. She spat on u because she crave for it and u didn't discern. Above all trust in God to bring happiness into your home.

see in dirty mind

Bro just show her you are the man Of the house. you coming back to her when she left was a very big mistake.

DTRUMPER:
Well pray about it, God will send you a comforter

Prayer my as*s!

thekingisback:
A slap or two is definitely the solution. If you're not willing to do that, then I'll suggest you give her the silent treatment.

You f*ucking woman beater. You're a huge as*shole for suggesting beating a woman!

You should be ashamed of your pathetic self! You f*ucking weak coward!

she wants u to had it together that was all what she was playing

nameerfhtennek:
It's more than 20minutes, I'm still unable to put words together to begin this story. I will try keep it simple and necessarily detailed so everyone will understand the true picture of what happened, why against my belief that writing personal experiences on social media is immature, I had to still write mine. Let's just say I'm not thinking right now, maybe I'm so upset but truth is, I need your advice.

I'm writing this thread seated at the back of a Hilux truck just outside our apartment. Yaa, that me in the picture. You see, today is EID and believe me I should be resting in the house since I'm not working today. Days like this only come by 6times in a whole year and more than anything, I would have loved resting than being out here.

It was yesterday evening, she called and said she her driver were headed to my office. She wanted to pick some stuffs around my office. Yaa, I forgot to say this is Saudi Arabia. If you know Saudi quite well, you will agree with me that a husband will definitely get exhausted running errands for his wife or the family. I was not in the mood for shopping but she wanted to shop. She got upset that I didn't want to accompany her shopping.

She did her shopping alone and returned few minutes before I closed from work. We headed home. Unknown to me, I forgot my internet router in my office because I was rushing to get home and continue with my FIFA 16.
Her internet service expired some days back so we were using mine.

While playing game, she walked into the seating room and demanded for my router. Mine, not hers. With her tone and facial expression demanding the router, I didn't respond because there was an indication that she was warming up for a quarrel. I wasn't just in the mood. The thing is, she is very skilled in extending her anger phases. That is one thing I can't understand till today. Believe me, it was not like this while we were dating. Sorry, I forgot to tell you I married my university girlfriend, she years my junior and the same department. Ya, I'm one of those guys that dated and planned for the future with their girls at the same time. God blessed that plan but at this point I don't understand everything that has been happening for the past one year plus since we got married. She repeatedly demanded that I handed over my router to her but I was quiet. Meanwhile, it occurred to me that I forgot the router in my office the minute she first asked about it. Truth is, I actually needed to use the internet that night for my online FIFA.

After several times of asking for the router and no response from me, she took the TV remote and switched off the TV. She walked straight to the kitchen and hid the remote. I approached her in the kitchen and told her I was not ready for any kinda quarrel. We have had enough for the past one year of getting married. I then told her I forgot the router in my office, I didn't have it. I guess she didn't believe me, she never did. She told me to leave her alone. I returned back to the seating room with my heart beating fast. I knew she wanted a serious quarrel that night. After some minutes, I returned to the kitchen and requested for the remote. Then I figured out she hid it in her pant. Pretending I was passing by, I swiftly went for the remote from under her short gown and grabbed it. She didn't expect I knew where she hid it. She followed me behind and ceased the game console, second indication she wanted me to react. I do have a problem with my temper just like every human, male or female. I have also learnt to deal with it by walking away at times I feel I was going to lose it. The same reason I'm outside at this time, 9:55 pm Saudi timeaking a mistake!!! Spitting on my face, nah nah....am so fed up!!!!

she did what? Spat on your face? How did you guys get to that, look that woman is a mess, Send that woman back to Nigeria ASAP, don't give her any support after and hence forth break all ties, yes I mean all ties, believe me keeping tab on her after shows weakness, so keep off completely while she is here and I know for sure people who give a shii about her will scold her, the country is hard, by the time she is here for a year or two. She will Learn her lessons, if she doesn't, you know the rest, Please don't lay a finger on her, bless

nameerfhtennek:
You see, I love my wife more than anything, more than anyone. She is one person in the whole world I could go any length for. I love her, that was why I forgave her when she broke up with me after I left Nigeria for Saudi Arabia. She broke up with me few months after I came to Saudi and started dating another guy twice her age. She says she never expected I would come back to her after she left me but I did. I did because I saw a future with her, a future I imagined, believed in and worked towards its reality. Today we have gotten to a level where most people out there would want to be, our colleagues envy is because they believe we are privileged and blessed but what they don't know is that in the truth, I have no peace. This marriage has become my legacy and my curse.

Truth is, you are pussy-whipped (like most men in relationships) and won't be sending her away to nowhere.
Otherwise you will not be writing or talking about doing shit. You would just have done it and moved on. Obviously you can't move on without here and she knows it.
Cheer up and face your reality.