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Re: How Some Wives Are Continually Raped But Can't Speak Up by 5minsmadness: 4:58pm On Sep 15, 2016 |
Nonsense. |
Re: How Some Wives Are Continually Raped But Can't Speak Up by Drdreyy: 5:25pm On Sep 15, 2016 |
soonest: Coming from a typical rude, arrogant, disrespectful and spiteful Nigerian lady. 3 Likes |
Re: How Some Wives Are Continually Raped But Can't Speak Up by soonest(f): 6:00pm On Sep 15, 2016 |
Drdreyy:Do you deserve politeness for what you posited up there? |
Re: How Some Wives Are Continually Raped But Can't Speak Up by Anas09: 6:57pm On Sep 15, 2016 |
Drdreyy:Its a serious problem among believers now. Sisters marry to answer mrs, not to actually be married to their married |
Re: How Some Wives Are Continually Raped But Can't Speak Up by Drdreyy: 7:24pm On Sep 15, 2016 |
Anas09: Yes, but sadly our society and most importantly religion makes the discussion of sexually related issues/problems difficult, and many believers are suffering silently. Although some Christians are now bold and courageous enough to speak on the issue. I watched a mount Zion movie sometime ago, where the issue of sex starvation in marriage was well depicted. Even during marriage counseling, I believe the couples are made to understand this. I really won't blame those women because it's not their making and most times not intentional. It's the way God created them, they don't feel the same way men feel and not under the same pressure to replicate/duplicate as men. And we should also note women are direct opposite of men thus they are usually LOW in areas/aspects where men are HIGH. So it's understandable and expected. But I strongly believe that if men didn't tamper with the female genitals, there by leading to painful intercourse/little or no sensation and total lack of interest, the libido God gave them should be sufficient enough to satisfy an average man. 1 Like |
Re: How Some Wives Are Continually Raped But Can't Speak Up by njiasi30(f): 7:56pm On Sep 15, 2016 |
JoyChinwe22:Uwlc dear |
Re: How Some Wives Are Continually Raped But Can't Speak Up by Anas09: 8:12pm On Sep 15, 2016 |
Drdreyy:How is sex painful for circumcised women? Lack of libido and pleasure yes, but painful? I don't understand |
Re: How Some Wives Are Continually Raped But Can't Speak Up by Drdreyy: 8:33pm On Sep 15, 2016 |
Anas09: Yes, FGM studies has revealed that sex is usually painful for those women that are circumcised, especially those that were grossly circumcised. It leaves a scar, makes the clitt numb and the scar affects the elasticity of the Vag!na (this is what causes obstructive Labour in circumcised women) For the issue of pain, it's like stroking/playing with a wounded area that has healed, what do you expect? Slight painful sensations right? You have even confirmed it your self by admitting lack of pleasure. in the absence of pleasure, the opposite which is pain is most likely to take place. There is no need dragging the issue, alot of circumcised women can testify to experiencing pain during intercourse. There are lots of such confessions from women in medical journals/articles on FGM studies 1 Like |
Re: How Some Wives Are Continually Raped But Can't Speak Up by Nobody: 10:35pm On Sep 15, 2016 |
No be small thing o, well I haven't experienced it before so I'll keep mute. |
Re: How Some Wives Are Continually Raped But Can't Speak Up by crackhaus: 12:40pm On Sep 16, 2016 |
sisisioge:Duh, we were talking about the same thing yet you went off on a tangent and completely lost me...hence the question |
Re: How Some Wives Are Continually Raped But Can't Speak Up by crackhaus: 12:42pm On Sep 16, 2016 |
Drdreyy:It is my understanding that women who use it as a form of punishment know the kind of man they married, because that shiit just doesn't work on some men... On Your Own oo! 2 Likes |
Re: How Some Wives Are Continually Raped But Can't Speak Up by Drdreyy: 1:06pm On Sep 16, 2016 |
crackhaus: Well it does work(the punishment) for a large percentage of highly religious men. (those born with high libido) I agree it may not work with all men both religious and non religious because of variation, some men are born with low libido or as a result of some health issues, they lose their libido while others are born with high libido. Even Jesus acknowledged this in the book of Mathew 19:12 For there are some eunuchs, which were so born from their mother's womb and there are some eunuchs, which were made eunuchs of men: and there be eunuchs, which have made themselves eunuchs for the kingdom of heaven's sake............. 1 Like |
Re: How Some Wives Are Continually Raped But Can't Speak Up by crackhaus: 1:12pm On Sep 16, 2016 |
Drdreyy:The moment you stated 'highly religious men', there was no need for a percentage anymore. It will definitely work on ALL highly religious men. It doesn't work on those who aren't encumbered by sentiments and religious doctrines. |
Re: How Some Wives Are Continually Raped But Can't Speak Up by Drdreyy: 1:17pm On Sep 16, 2016 |
crackhaus: Nah, you don't get it. Because it is not applicable to all "highly religious" men. What about a highly religious man that has a very low libido? |
Re: How Some Wives Are Continually Raped But Can't Speak Up by crackhaus: 1:32pm On Sep 16, 2016 |
Drdreyy:The question should have been, What about a highly religious man with a very high libido? - this is where problem usually sets in. The man in your question will have no problem with a wife who withholds sex. |
Re: How Some Wives Are Continually Raped But Can't Speak Up by Drdreyy: 1:48pm On Sep 16, 2016 |
crackhaus: That was why I said it will work for a large percentage of highly religious men. Because there are some men with very low libido who won't see the action as a punishment and won't have problems with the wife. The use of "large" there depicts the ratio of men with normal to high libido to men with medium to low libido. Of course biologically speaking we all know that the ratio for the former is higher than the latter |
Re: How Some Wives Are Continually Raped But Can't Speak Up by crackhaus: 1:55pm On Sep 16, 2016 |
Drdreyy:Okay then. |
Re: How Some Wives Are Continually Raped But Can't Speak Up by TV01(m): 5:05pm On Sep 16, 2016 |
Drdreyy:I would first question your definition of "highly religious". For one who is of deep faith, has understanding, a modicum of discernment and most of all is continent, sex, or withholding it cannot be used as a form of punishment. Not because he has a low or a high libido, but because he has a grasp of his physical appetites, and at least a degree of mastery. No recourse to self-servicing or looking outside. Honestly, even non-spiritual men can to some degree rise above being led by their members . TV |
Re: How Some Wives Are Continually Raped But Can't Speak Up by JoyChinwe22(f): 8:15pm On Sep 20, 2016 |
JoyChinwe22:...BECUASE PORN IS NOT HARMLESS (Your Love life and Pornography) Pornography is the portrayal of sexually explicit contents on pictures, magazines, videos and so on for the sole purpose of arousing anyone who views them. Pornography is also called porn. Several years back however, porn was not really accessible to everyone in the form which they are these day. Back then, you had only play boy magazines with pictures of scantily clad models. Things started to get bolder by the day and got even worse with the advent of the internet. In as much as porn is said to have helped couples build and continuously revive their sex life, it also has a few negative effects on one's love life which cannot be over emphasized. Such effects include: Porn gives room for unrealistic expectations: Constant viewing of pornography makes you crave to have sex in ways which ordinarily you would find repulsive. You always want to do something different and insanely wild. I'm totally not against spicing things up in the bedroom; but when you want to do that because you have programmed your brain to believe that, 'the weirder, the sexier', then something is seriously wrong. Porn never satisfies: Porn instils lust and lust is never satisfied. The amazing thing is, lust doesn't crave for more, it craves for something 'different'. This is the reason why someone will have a very wonderful partner and still cheat on them; not because their partner is not attractive. The other person in question may not even be as attractive as their partner, but they just needed something different. To see more, visit http://lovelifelaughs.com/157/because-porn-is-not-harmless-your-love-life-and-pornography 1 Like |
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