Nonsense.

soonest:

See this one. If men talk you sef go talk. Abeg commot for road make I see joor

Coming from a typical rude, arrogant, disrespectful and spiteful Nigerian lady.

Drdreyy:


Coming from a typical rude, arrogant, disrespectful and spiteful Nigerian lady.

Do you deserve politeness for what you posited up there?

Drdreyy:


Yes, guys should start asking if a lady is circumcised or not before proposing or risk facing a sex starved and frustrating marriage.

We hear a lot of stories everyday on this issue. Some weeks ago the story of a brother was on front page complaining of how his wife always deny him of sex.

There is nothing like finding a way to ask, guys should ask bluntly. Marriage is not a joke, it's once in a lifetime. And once you make a wrong choice, you are doomed for the rest of your life.

Especially for those that are very religious., they can't go out and get it elsewhere, and can't marry another woman thus they will live with sexual frustration for the rest of their life.

Its a serious problem among believers now. Sisters marry to answer mrs, not to actually be married to their married

Anas09:

Its a serious problem among believers now. Sisters marry to answer mrs, not to actually be married to their married

Yes, but sadly our society and most importantly religion makes the discussion of sexually related issues/problems difficult, and many believers are suffering silently. Although some Christians are now bold and courageous enough to speak on the issue.

I watched a mount Zion movie sometime ago, where the issue of sex starvation in marriage was well depicted. Even during marriage counseling, I believe the couples are made to understand this.
I really won't blame those women because it's not their making and most times not intentional.

It's the way God created them, they don't feel the same way men feel and not under the same pressure to replicate/duplicate as men. And we should also note women are direct opposite of men thus they are usually LOW in areas/aspects where men are HIGH. So it's understandable and expected.

But I strongly believe that if men didn't tamper with the female genitals, there by leading to painful intercourse/little or no sensation and total lack of interest, the libido God gave them should be sufficient enough to satisfy an average man.

JoyChinwe22:
Thank you, I think you are the only one who understands what this post is about.

Uwlc dear

Drdreyy:


Yes, but sadly our society and most importantly religion makes the discussion of sexually related issues/problems difficult, and many believers are suffering silently. Although some Christians are now bold/courageous enough to speak on the issue.

I watched a mount Zion movie sometime ago, where the issue of sex starvation in marriage was well depicted. Even during marriage counseling, I believe the couples are made to understand this.
I really won't blame those women because it's not their making and most times not intentional.

It's the way God created them, they don't feel the same way men feel and not under the same pressure to replicate/duplicate as men.

But I strongly believe that if men didn't tamper with the female genitals, there by leading to painful intercourse/little or no sensation and total lack of interest, the libido God gave them should be sufficient enough to satisfy an average man.

How is sex painful for circumcised women? Lack of libido and pleasure yes, but painful? I don't understand

Anas09:

How is sex painful for circumcised women? Lack of libido and pleasure yes, but painful? I don't understand

Yes, FGM studies has revealed that sex is usually painful for those women that are circumcised, especially those that were grossly circumcised.
It leaves a scar, makes the clitt numb and the scar affects the elasticity of the Vag!na (this is what causes obstructive Labour in circumcised women)

For the issue of pain, it's like stroking/playing with a wounded area that has healed, what do you expect? Slight painful sensations right? You have even confirmed it your self by admitting lack of pleasure.
in the absence of pleasure, the opposite which is pain is most likely to take place.

There is no need dragging the issue, alot of circumcised women can testify to experiencing pain during intercourse. There are lots of such confessions from women in medical journals/articles on FGM studies

No be small thing o, well I haven't experienced it before so I'll keep mute.

sisisioge:


Oh! You are American

Duh, we were talking about the same thing yet you went off on a tangent and completely lost me...hence the question

Drdreyy:




Don't mind those spirikoko Christian women. Some do it intentionally to punish their husbands since they know he can't get it outside and self gratification is also forbidden.

In Islam, women are not allowed to deny their husbands whenever he needs it, she must submit unless she has a tangible reason for refusing. Such as during her period, fasting or if she is sick.

I listened to an alfa on radio who even said God is not pleased with women that constantly starve their husbands of sex.

It is my understanding that women who use it as a form of punishment know the kind of man they married, because that shiit just doesn't work on some men... On Your Own oo!

crackhaus:

It is my understanding that women who use it as a form of punishment know the kind of man they married, because that shiit just doesn't work on some men.. On Your Own oo!

Well it does work(the punishment) for a large percentage of highly religious men. (those born with high libido)

I agree it may not work with all men both religious and non religious because of variation, some men are born with low libido or as a result of some health issues, they lose their libido while others are born with high libido.

Even Jesus acknowledged this in the book of Mathew 19:12 For there are some eunuchs, which were so born from their mother's womb and there are some eunuchs, which were made eunuchs of men: and there be eunuchs, which have made themselves eunuchs for the kingdom of heaven's sake.............

Drdreyy:


Well it does work for a large percentage of highly religious men.
I agree it may not work with all men because of variation, some men are born with low libido or as a result of some health issues, they lose their libido while others are born with high libido.

Even Jesus acknowledged this in the book of Mathew 19:12 For there are some eunuchs, which were so born from their mother's womb and there are some eunuchs, which were made eunuchs of men: and there be eunuchs, which have made themselves eunuchs for the kingdom of heaven's sake.............

The moment you stated 'highly religious men', there was no need for a percentage anymore. It will definitely work on ALL highly religious men.

It doesn't work on those who aren't encumbered by sentiments and religious doctrines.

crackhaus:

The moment you stated 'highly religious men', there was no need for a percentage anymore. It will definitely work on ALL highly religious men.

It doesn't work on those who aren't encumbered by sentiments and religious doctrines.

Nah, you don't get it. Because it is not applicable to all "highly religious" men. What about a highly religious man that has a very low libido?

Drdreyy:


Nah, you don't get it. Because it is not applicable to all "highly religious" men. What about a highly religious man that has a very low libido?

The question should have been, What about a highly religious man with a very high libido? - this is where problem usually sets in.

The man in your question will have no problem with a wife who withholds sex.

crackhaus:

The question should have been, What about a highly religious man with a very high libido? - this is where problem usually sets in.

The man in your question will have no problem with a wife who withholds sex.

That was why I said it will work for a large percentage of highly religious men. Because there are some men with very low libido who won't see the action as a punishment and won't have problems with the wife.

The use of "large" there depicts the ratio of men with normal to high libido to men with medium to low libido. Of course biologically speaking we all know that the ratio for the former is higher than the latter

Drdreyy:


That was why I said it will work for a large percentage of highly religious men. Because there are some men with very low libido who won't see the action as a punishment and won't have problems with the wife.

The use of "large" there depicts the ratio of men with normal to high libido to men with medium to low libido. Of course biologically speaking we all know that the ratio for the former is higher than the latter

Okay then.

Drdreyy:
Well it does work(the punishment) for a large percentage of highly religious men. (those born with high libido)

I would first question your definition of "highly religious". For one who is of deep faith, has understanding, a modicum of discernment and most of all is continent, sex, or withholding it cannot be used as a form of punishment.

Not because he has a low or a high libido, but because he has a grasp of his physical appetites, and at least a degree of mastery. No recourse to self-servicing or looking outside. Honestly, even non-spiritual men can to some degree rise above being led by their members .


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JoyChinwe22:
THE ISSUE OF RAPE, WITHIN THE CONFINES OF MARRIAGE (how wives are being raped by husbands)

Rape occurs when sexual intercourse or any other sexual activity is forced upon an individual without his/her consent. In marriage however, it is a form of domestic violence and sexual abuse, wherein sex is forced on one spouse by the other. As strange as it sounds, rape also occurs in marriage. Any sexual activity not consented by both parties, is rape. The prominent kind of rape in marriage however is wife rape.


Rape generally is perceived not to be present in marriage, being that a woman is supposed to consensually engage in sex with her husband, making rape unnecessary. This is why despite the fact that rape in marriage has become quite rampant, it is given little or no attention from Human right activists', Criminal Justice System and even the society at large. Infact, wife rape remains one of the prevalent, yet under-reported crimes in Nigeria.


Two of the best studies so far which have investigated the general existence of wife rape in representative samples of women ( Finkelhor & Yllo, 1985; Russell, 1990) have found that between 10-14% of women who have ever been married have been raped at least once by their partner.


For the purpose of this article, we shall examine some of the intriguing issues and questions surrounding wife rape which include : Reasons men rape their wives, Why Victims refuse to report such incidents, The characteristics of wife rapists, The effects of wife rape on the victim( physically and psychologically) & on the home; and finally, What to do in case you experience such.


WHY DO MEN RAPE THEIR WIVES?

This is one of the nagging questions concerning wife rape which has been given several conflicting answers. However some of the prominent reasons given for wife rape include: To see more, visit:
HOW WIFE’S ARE BEING RAPED BY HUSBANDS. http://www.familyflex.net/2016/09/how-wifes-are-being-raped-by-husbands.html

...BECUASE PORN IS NOT HARMLESS
(Your Love life and Pornography)

Pornography is the portrayal of sexually explicit contents on pictures, magazines, videos and so on for the sole purpose of arousing anyone who views them. Pornography is also called porn.
Several years back however, porn was not really accessible to everyone in the form which they are these day. Back then, you had only play boy magazines with pictures of scantily clad models. Things started to get bolder by the day and got even worse with the advent of the internet.
In as much as porn is said to have helped couples build and continuously revive their sex life, it also has a few negative effects on one's love life which cannot be over emphasized. Such effects include:

Porn gives room for unrealistic expectations: Constant viewing of pornography makes you crave to have sex in ways which ordinarily you would find repulsive. You always want to do something different and insanely wild. I'm totally not against spicing things up in the bedroom; but when you want to do that because you have programmed your brain to believe that, 'the weirder, the sexier', then something is seriously wrong.

Porn never satisfies: Porn instils lust and lust is never satisfied. The amazing thing is, lust doesn't crave for more, it craves for something 'different'. This is the reason why someone will have a very wonderful partner and still cheat on them; not because their partner is not attractive. The other person in question may not even be as attractive as their partner, but they just needed something different.
To see more, visit http://lovelifelaughs.com/157/because-porn-is-not-harmless-your-love-life-and-pornography