Nairaland wives and potential wifees...allow us rest for the sake of the marriage.

Couples may be better off living in a "traditional" household where women do all the housework if they want to stay together, according to a report from the Oslo and Akershus University College of Applied Science.

Norwegian researchers were interested to see how married and cohabiting men and women divided housework and childcare throughout various life stages. They analyzed two separate studies involving nearly 20,000 men and women aged 18 to 79: the study of Life Course, Generation and Gender, and the study of the Norwegian Life Course, Ageing, and Generations. Participants respectively answered questions about the division of housework and childcare; their attitudes toward gender equality; as well as other variables like life stage and social class.

The results showed 65 percent of couples equally or near-equally divided childcare, but not housework: Women reported doing all or almost all of the work in 11 percent of couples and "somewhat more of the work" in 60 percent of couples. About 25 percent of couples divided the work more equally, with younger couples, childless couples, and couples where the woman had a full-time job among those more likely to split domestic chores.

Researchers did not find an association between a traditional share of housework (women do most of the work) and a lower risk of divorce — but they did report untraditional couples had a greater risk for divorce. Men who did as much or more of the housework were more likely to get divorced than couples where the woman did most of the housework over a period of four years.

"The more a man does in the home, the higher the divorce rate," said Thomas Hansen, co-author of the study entitled "Gender Equality At Home," according to AFP. While researchers found no or very little cause-and-effect, they believe that the observation could be due to "modern" attitudes.

It may be traditional couples "hold a high value of marriage and a more traditional attitude towards divorce," while untraditional couples "may hold less of a traditional or modern view of marriage, whereby marital dissatisfaction more easily leads to marital break-up," according to the report.

"Modern couples are just that, both in the way they divide up the chores and in their perception of marriage" as being less sacred, Hansen said, stressing it was all about values. "In these modern couples, women also have a high level of education and a well-paid job, which makes them less dependent on their spouse financially. They can manage much easier if they divorce."

Researchers said sharing equal responsibility for domestic chores doesn't necessarily contribute to contentment, and that the lack of equality at home and quality of life was surprising. "One would think that break-ups would occur more often in families with less equality at home, but our statistics show the opposite," Hansen said.

He said that the correlation could be because couples are happier when they have clearly-defined roles in the relationship where people aren't stepping on each other's toes. "There could be less quarrels, since you can easily get into squabbles if both have the same roles and one has the feeling that the other is not pulling his or her own weight," he added.

The results from the latest survey appears to contradict a recent study carried out by researchers at Cambridge University earlier this year that found men were actually happier when sharing the housework.

The Cambridge study was based on previously collected data from 30,000 people in 34 countries. Researchers found that men had benefited the more they contributed to household chores, but researchers suggested that this could also be because they preferred a quiet life doing housework than having a disgruntled other half.

http://www.medicaldaily.com/more-chores-husband-does-more-likely-marriage-will-end-divorce-242815

I don't believe this

Hhhhhmmmmm

Some women won't like this report.

If a man does the laundry, cooks better than the wife and still pays all the bills, would sooner or later feel the pinch.

I stopped cooking when I realized I do it slightly better than my Lady, to pretect her self esteem.

The research holds no water.

VeryBigYam:

crab! Total Crab!!

Lol...No be only Crab, na Crayfish plus Prawns.

RealJaneDoe:
I don't believe this

To say that as a girl...its understandable.

Same way the more money a wife brings in the more likely there will be a divorce .

I concur

TheArchangel:
Same way the more money a wife brings in the more likely there will be a divorce .

I concur

That's also very true...Cos the woman no go get respect for the man again. Even if she has respect for him, she'll be afraid that anything she says will be misconstrued as arrogance.

The results from the latest survey appears to contradict a recent study carried out by researchers at Cambridge University earlier this year that found men were actually happier when sharing the housework.

The Cambridge study was based on previously collected data from 30,000 people in 34 countries. Researchers found that men had benefited the more they contributed to household chores, but researchers suggested that this could also be because they preferred a quiet life doing housework than having a disgruntled other half.

Did you even read the article sef?

What type of human being need some stvpid statistics to teach how to do certain things that require common sense? I hope you rely on research to teach you how to pee.

Bunch of mor.ons!

I support this!!! 100%. Forget about all this he is romantic bull story... I am still very sensitive to feelings and I know when to assist. My ego as a man will not and never be bruised.

Help me tell them o. all those feminists wannabes.

Especially those on Nairaland. Most of them aren't married yet they'd strut around e-burning their bras.

ElsonMorali:
Help me tell them o. all those feminists wannabes.

Especially those on Nairaland. Most of them aren't married yet they'd strut around e-burning their bras.

Or you mean feminazi because feminist still do household task but it has to be their decision and feminism means equal rights for women has nothing to do with the topic only when it's be dictated to her that she's meant to be an housewife.

pcguru1:


Or you mean feminazi because feminist still do household task but it has to be their decision and feminism means equal rights for women has nothing to do with the topic only when it's be dictated to her that she's meant to be an housewife.

Well then, feminazi it is then.

TheArchangel:
Same way the more money a wife brings in the more likely there will be a divorce .

I concur

True.

Tv01, Timbuktu, crackhaus.

Hmm

Why are guys this lazy? You call females weaker sex but it's okay for us to do all the work while you all stronger sex relax, weird

This is the truth...

Pidggin:
Why are guys this lazy? You call females weaker sex but it's okay for us to do all the work while you all stronger sex relax, weird

what do u call work?

menxer:
Hhhhhmmmmm

Some women won't like this report.

If a man does the laundry, cooks better than the wife and still pays all the bills, would sooner or later feel the pinch.

I stopped cooking when I realized I do it slightly better than my Lady, to pretect her self esteem.

You are a good man.

I wonder why doing chores is such a big deal.
Why do we feel it's someone else's responsibility to clean up our mess?
If you live somewhere, it's only common sense to make sure it's habitable. It's common sense to wash your clothes, and to clean up after yourself else you will always smell.
You don't have to wait till you marry before you should do chores or stop doing chores,
Was that the purpose of the marriage in itself? So you can stop doing chores?
Just get a maid to do that, and not a wife.
If you grew up a neat person like those who attended military boarding schools, you won't even see it as a big deal. It becomes a part of you to live in a clean environment, and you have to actively do that.
You won't be able to stand disorder, and instinctively will always ensure your environs are clean.
If you're too busy as a person to do chores, then you source it out. Get dry cleaners to do your laundry, get a housekeeper who comes in daily or every other day to clean your home.
When you marry, and your wife also works and is equally too busy, then status quo remains. You both can combine resources to run the home.
Being a housewife is also no walk in the park. If you work in an office, at least you have closing hours, but a housewife works 24/7. No breaks at all especially for those who are OCD neat. Try cleaning all the windows in your house one day and see how tiring that can be, and you better have a washing machine because I've seen too many women having this fungal nail infection all from putting their hands in water too much- washing clothes especially because of the kids everyday, washing this and dat in the kitchen.
So double respect to any woman that works, and still tries to be madam-do-it all at home.
No man or woman enjoys or actually loves doing housework, but you've just got to do it because we're not animals, and we need order in our lives.

Men don't want to share house chores with their wives but they want the wife to share the bills with them. Makes no sense at all
The way men don't want to marry a woman that can't assist him with the bills the same way women don't want a man that won't share the house chores with her

Bless heavens say no be Africans carry out this research if not, this thread for don dey filled with feminazis!!!

RiloKiley:
Tv01, Timbuktou, crackhaus.

Our lived experience and years of received wisdom cannot be denied . No woman has ever listed "chore expert" as a must in a potential spouse .

If chores being done by the man are as a result of his or his wife' push for equality, then danger. Women do not generally want equals, they want bosses .

If it's a man who delivers in terms of his masculinity who makes a freewill decision to be involved - seeing them not as chores, but him running his household - nothing spoil. In fact, his wife will look up to him all the more, and know she better not slack as he no send .


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