Welcome, Guest: Register On Nairaland / LOGIN! / Trending / Recent / NewStats: 3,195,466 members, 7,958,409 topics. Date: Wednesday, 25 September 2024 at 01:58 PM |
Nairaland Forum / Nairaland / General / Family / Am I Cursed? Where Did I Go Wrong?? (7580 Views)
Lady Cursed For Being Pregnant Out Of Wedlock Becomes Family's Breadwinner / Is He Being Wise, Cursed Or Just Wicked? / Help!!..did I Marry The Wrong Lady? (2) (3) (4)
(1) (2) (3) (4) (Reply) (Go Down)
Re: Am I Cursed? Where Did I Go Wrong?? by TR1212: 3:36pm On Oct 10, 2016 |
Drdreyy: Thank you, I will pray, but unfortunately, I don't believe in going to church for the purpose of 'finding a single brother'. For me, its not a good reason to go to church. yes, anything can happen and anywhere too, but to have such a motive in joining groups and attending services will make me more self conscious than God conscious in the presence of God. no nah. Inform my pastor you say? To pray for me or get a husband? bros, I'm not that desperate nah. If not for pressure around me, I could actually tell all suitors now to give me some more time to stand on my feet so I can have something substantial to offer in marriage. But the pressure sha...thanks anyway 1 Like |
Re: Am I Cursed? Where Did I Go Wrong?? by jamalchance(m): 3:51pm On Oct 10, 2016 |
Could be that u are unintentionally scaring single men away with ur attitude or personality or unintenionally attracting married me with ur attitude and personality 1 Like |
Re: Am I Cursed? Where Did I Go Wrong?? by TR1212: 4:05pm On Oct 10, 2016 |
jamalchance: I could ask HOW but since u don't know me, I wont argue this. But then, would I have the ability to INTENTIONALLY attract men yet use it on the married ones instead of the singles? 1 Like |
Re: Am I Cursed? Where Did I Go Wrong?? by Nobody: 4:18pm On Oct 10, 2016 |
TR1212: I asked two of my colleagues, on separate occasions why they do that knowing they are married. They said that they want extra children and unmarried and working women were just perfect because their children will not need their financial help. |
Re: Am I Cursed? Where Did I Go Wrong?? by jamalchance(m): 4:21pm On Oct 10, 2016 |
TR1212: U are right I don't. Know you so I just guessed not statin a fact also I said UNINTENTIONALLY |
Re: Am I Cursed? Where Did I Go Wrong?? by Acidosis(m): 4:38pm On Oct 10, 2016 |
TR1212: That's the problem in bold. Let me explain: 1. Men naturally see " not-so-pretty" ladies as easy to get. They believe women who are not so pretty crave for attention, and want to be around men all the time. They think they're doing you a favour by coming to "play" with you. Married men don't have the time to chase extremely beautiful women. They know it's a hard job to "play" with a goddess, they don't have that time to waste especially as they have to return home to act like the decent husband their wives know them to be. They only want to visit and exit asap, reason they consider "not-so-pretty" women as great option to pass time. Again, married men do not want to compete with other men (singles especially), they believe the beautiful ones are highly competitive and attract lots of single and ready men, so they make their tent on the readily-available option. 2. Secondly, I believe that line in bold was wrongly used. I don't know you, but I'm 100% sure I will find you highly attractive when I meet you, but that line indicates esteem issues. This brings back the issue I raised in 1. Men see women with low self esteem as easy to catch. Esteem is solely a psychological issue, and got nothing to do with pan-caked face. What you can do? Believe in yourself that you are a beautifully and wonderfully made lady. You do not need the recommendations of any man to survive. Say these to yourself, and watch how serious single men will locate you. 7 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Am I Cursed? Where Did I Go Wrong?? by sisisioge: 4:45pm On Oct 10, 2016 |
Acidosis: Amen bro! 1 Like |
Re: Am I Cursed? Where Did I Go Wrong?? by Nobody: 4:50pm On Oct 10, 2016 |
You have said that your job places you in their line of vision so please don't take it personally. Its nothing that you have done/doing It just shows the moral decadence that has taken over our society. it should also give you more zeal to ensure that you don't rush and make sure that you pick a man that will respect and love you. Spare a thought for the wives of these randy men and the nonsense that their husbands will bring back home to them; because even if you say no, some immoral women will still say yes to them. Hold your head high, you have done nothing wrong Dont let their issues rub off on you Take off the wedding ring and be just you. The right man will come, you will be surprised that it will be when you least expect it ((hugs)) 2 Likes |
Re: Am I Cursed? Where Did I Go Wrong?? by Nobody: 4:51pm On Oct 10, 2016 |
TR1212: let any matured lady come on this thread and testify she doesn't get proposals from married men at different times in their lives , something that is common practice amongst black people from time immemorial, Nigerians even respect women cus she is married try and cross over to S/A where no one gives a fv*k for your marriage status your case is that the nature of your job gives them easy access to try their luck on you if you work in an organisation dominated by women that wouldn't be happening as well as a lady who is self employed Don't think it is peculiar to you it's a face many single and matured ladies go through in life but as soon as you start discussing my husband this, my husband that bra bra bra...or even clutching your child upandown in that alone men knew that this lady isn't available that stage will becomes history |
Re: Am I Cursed? Where Did I Go Wrong?? by Drdreyy: 4:58pm On Oct 10, 2016 |
TR1212: Wrong interpretation!!! I didn't say you should start going to church for the purpose of finding a single brother. That's a wrong motive. And it shows a terrible/poor interpretation/understanding of the advice i gave you. I mean you should pray and dedicate more time to work for God,. By being more devoted and committed to church activities. God can quickly answer your prayers through those little efforts. And the man can come from anywhere, not necessarily your church. For the latter part, I see no big deal in telling your pastor about it, it doesn't show desperation. Just tell him to pray for a good and God fearing husband. I don't think there is anything desperate in that comment. At times, some Pastor's do ask the congregation to pray for those looking for life partners, and other things like that, so it's no big deal or desperation. Maybe you are the shy type and your church has a large congregation so meeting with your pastor one on one is very difficult. But if you are attending deeper life, then i don't think you will see the issue of telling your pastor about it a big deal., in short If you bring any brother, the pastor well ask if God revealed him to you and the same will be asked from the brother and both of you will be told to go and pray about it before you can be joined together after further interrogations must have been made. So there is nothing to hide from your pastor. 2 Likes |
Re: Am I Cursed? Where Did I Go Wrong?? by metallisc(m): 5:31pm On Oct 10, 2016 |
TR1212: come and cut down the tree i'm in and let's solve this problem once and for all, we will both benefit from the solution! on a serious note though, let's talk in private! 1 Like |
Re: Am I Cursed? Where Did I Go Wrong?? by Nobody: 5:51pm On Oct 10, 2016 |
metallisc: Her auntys are here o! We are here to protect her enhennnn Firstly are you married? What do you do? what are your qualifications? what do you bring to the table? introduce yourself pls 3 Likes |
Re: Am I Cursed? Where Did I Go Wrong?? by metallisc(m): 5:56pm On Oct 10, 2016 |
tearoses: ayam not married! bring to the table now now?? even if na mafia 1 Like
|
Re: Am I Cursed? Where Did I Go Wrong?? by Nobody: 6:03pm On Oct 10, 2016 |
metallisc: Our sister is very precious to us 2 Likes |
Re: Am I Cursed? Where Did I Go Wrong?? by metallisc(m): 6:07pm On Oct 10, 2016 |
tearoses: 1 Like
|
Re: Am I Cursed? Where Did I Go Wrong?? by metallisc(m): 6:08pm On Oct 10, 2016 |
tearoses: i am also precious to myself and my people , when i have a chat with her, then we will see how it goes... |
Re: Am I Cursed? Where Did I Go Wrong?? by metallisc(m): 6:12pm On Oct 10, 2016 |
TR1212: hhmmmm... your head is actually screwed on tight.. plus for you.. me likey! |
Re: Am I Cursed? Where Did I Go Wrong?? by TR1212: 8:00pm On Oct 10, 2016 |
Muafrika2: And then we think the less educated men and women in ther rural areas are over populating the country. In my case though, just a few weeks ago, someone told me: "just carry my child and I will send you to Canada". He already has 4kids. So tell me what this man is looking for since he is more than willing to take responsibility. 1 Like |
Re: Am I Cursed? Where Did I Go Wrong?? by TR1212: 8:02pm On Oct 10, 2016 |
jamalchance: I'm sorry, I didn't read well I'm sure. No vex |
Re: Am I Cursed? Where Did I Go Wrong?? by TR1212: 8:07pm On Oct 10, 2016 |
Acidosis: My brother, shey wetin make I talk na? I didn't mean to sound low really, I only meant to imply that I don't have all those bazookas that attract men like flies to dead rat. So I still don't get why. In any case I read you well and will take your advice to heart. Thanks for the complement too. 3 Likes |
Re: Am I Cursed? Where Did I Go Wrong?? by TR1212: 8:14pm On Oct 10, 2016 |
tearoses: I quit that job and recently relocated. The instance I sited for acidosis just happened in a new town. Few days ago I went for a seminar and someone I met there, a fellow participant is at it again. And this man's children are older than I am. These two instance actually made me create this post. The wedding ring is off, thank you, and I have sometimes don't more than sparing thoughts for the wives of these men. I've had to go some counselling job that no one asked me to to get some of them to stop what they do. Thanks a lot |
Re: Am I Cursed? Where Did I Go Wrong?? by TR1212: 8:22pm On Oct 10, 2016 |
Drdreyy: My bad sire, I get you perfectly now. Thank you!! |
Re: Am I Cursed? Where Did I Go Wrong?? by Acidosis(m): 8:25pm On Oct 10, 2016 |
TR1212: lol @bazookas Nice one my sister Ermm, one more thing! How's your dream life? Any recurring strange dream? |
Re: Am I Cursed? Where Did I Go Wrong?? by TR1212: 8:26pm On Oct 10, 2016 |
tearoses: tearoses: I am blessed! Thank you ma'am. You are more precious. Oga metallisc, shey you hear? |
Re: Am I Cursed? Where Did I Go Wrong?? by TR1212: 8:29pm On Oct 10, 2016 |
Acidosis: Nah... No such things sir. And my dream life is fairly OK. I actually understand it better than my worldly or physical or whatever-word-it-is life. |
Re: Am I Cursed? Where Did I Go Wrong?? by TR1212: 8:36pm On Oct 10, 2016 |
metallisc: But you haven't told me which forest is housing the tree na shey you heard me say I don't know? Don't tell me the forest is sambisa o metallisc: Before nko? Even me in looking for what to bring nah, shey make we sit for the table dey look ourselves? |
Re: Am I Cursed? Where Did I Go Wrong?? by Acidosis(m): 8:39pm On Oct 10, 2016 |
TR1212:I like 1 Like |
Re: Am I Cursed? Where Did I Go Wrong?? by Nobody: 8:52pm On Oct 10, 2016 |
Acidosis:Your comments re always precise. 10/10. 3 Likes
|
Re: Am I Cursed? Where Did I Go Wrong?? by Ishilove: 9:27pm On Oct 10, 2016 |
The society is so messed up. Op you said 90% are married? No single guys? Sister, pray out that thing in your life that attracts only married men to you. It is a waster. The single guys are not blind so why must it only be married men? Attack it with holy violence and you will see a change 3 Likes |
Re: Am I Cursed? Where Did I Go Wrong?? by metallisc(m): 9:32pm On Oct 10, 2016 |
TR1212: my dearest precious! the tree is in the jungles of lagos don't worry about the table, it is very movable and can be filled in good time with dedication... shikena! |
Re: Am I Cursed? Where Did I Go Wrong?? by metallisc(m): 9:38pm On Oct 10, 2016 |
Ishilove:
|
Re: Am I Cursed? Where Did I Go Wrong?? by Nobody: 9:46pm On Oct 10, 2016 |
Acidosis: You have done a really good job here. I hope she will feel uplifted by this contribution. 100 000 likes! OP, beauty is in the eyes of the beholder. Michelle Obama is not considered to be the most beautiful woman but she is attractive enough to be the wife of a man who is the president of one of the most powerful countries in this world and many women would give their all to be in her place. It's not all about the way you look, it's also about how you move, feel, talk, smile. And like Acid has rightly said, it's important how you see yourself. Learn to focus on the things you like about yourself and you will feel better. Confidence goes a long way. It's not your fault that married men approach you. You are single and many men think it's their birth right to cheat. You know that line 'Men are polygamous by nature'. Ignore their kind. These men have never come past the pubertal stage. There are great men out there who have more important things to do than cheat and who hold values such as honesty and loyalty in high esteem. 1 Like |
Man Sees His Dead Wife Living With Another Man In Lagos See Pic / Proof of Funds / Congratulations Debrief On Your New Bouncing Baby Boy
(Go Up)
Sections: politics (1) business autos (1) jobs (1) career education (1) romance computers phones travel sports fashion health religion celebs tv-movies music-radio literature webmasters programming techmarket Links: (1) (2) (3) (4) (5) (6) (7) (8) (9) (10) Nairaland - Copyright © 2005 - 2024 Oluwaseun Osewa. All rights reserved. See How To Advertise. 110 |