Acidosis:


That's the problem in bold.


Let me explain:

1. Men naturally see " not-so-pretty" ladies as easy to get.

They believe women who are not so pretty crave for attention, and want to be around men all the time. They think they're doing you a favour by coming to "play" with you.

Married men don't have the time to chase extremely beautiful women. They know it's a hard job to "play" with a goddess, they don't have that time to waste especially as they have to return home to act like the decent husband their wives know them to be. They only want to visit and exit asap, reason they consider "not-so-pretty" women as great option to pass time. Again, married men do not want to compete with other men (singles especially), they believe the beautiful ones are highly competitive and attract lots of single and ready men, so they make their tent on the readily-available option.


2. Secondly, I believe that line in bold was wrongly used. I don't know you, but I'm 100% sure I will find you highly attractive when I meet you, but that line indicates esteem issues. This brings back the issue I raised in 1. Men see women with low self esteem as easy to catch. Esteem is solely a psychological issue, and got nothing to do with pan-caked face.


What you can do?

Believe in yourself that you are a beautifully and wonderfully made lady. You do not need the recommendations of any man to survive. Say these to yourself, and watch how serious single men will locate you.

In addition to what acidosis has said.

Some women do not have personal bubbles. They are talking to you and they are all up in your face flashing those sexy white teeth and brushing against your arm or leaning on you when they want read a message in your phone or something. I call such ladies "touchy-touchy", they are always trying to make physical contact with you somehow. I have learnt over time that for most ladies this is unintentional and not meant to signal anything, but for the man iy can be a very sensous encouter, one in which he is inclined to explore further if he has no self control.


Combine that behaviour with a slightly sassy attitude and a well paying job and corporate look, and you'll have a female who intimidates the single men around her but poses a challenge for the married male folk.

So op, look into this.

P. S, if u discuss with us guys more, you'll come to realise that what attracts us to you ladies is not always the "bazookas" or how much "junk" you have in your "trunk". Body language and attitude also play a major role in the sexiness and attractiveness of a lady.

^^^^^^ thank you. Thank you too, ujoan

Onegai:
Welcome to Nigerian Society! Where a lot of those gyys are very irresponsible and see a singleton in her 30s as "OMG she must be sooooo desperate for Love and Affection and Attention. Easy score!". They're pathetic and sadly everywhere, especially Lagos and Abuja (the newly married ones are just crazy. I mean, how can you be telling me how much your wife paid for celebrity makeup artist less than 6 months ago and then follow up with "come and play with me in my office nah I had to ask if it was Game night and whether I should bring Ludo board and my evuls brother along with me).

Develop a thick skin and a sense of humour (or you will throw yourself a pity party that only morons are chasing you). Start thinking of witty comebacks ("oh you just told me you're attending RCCG Night vigil, use your children's pic as your dp and want to bang me?! Sure! Let me just let your wife know you'll be home late " ). Do as Thorpido said, socialise. Things will get better soon. E-hugs.

The truth is when you get to your 30s whether you like it OR not. You will come to realize that you should have made a decision about relationship earlier in life. There is no one that didn't get any Good Guy to approach them when they were in their 20s, Its either they were chasing career or not ready.

Even if you were heart broken or disappointed several times, it doesn't stop you from trying again. I had a discussion with my Senior Colleagues if they could marry a lady above 30. Out of 12, Only 1 said Yes.

Age is NOT nothing but a number. Once you are 30, Even if you are not desperate. Your parents/friends/society will make you desperate.

Even Men have their age limits. I asked women who are in their Early & late 20s if they can marry a Man around 40 or above. Out of 7, Only 3 said yes. No one wants to Also marry an Old Man.

Make hay while the sun shines abeg.

This might be a no-brainer, but Spiritual problems might also set in as a cause of Delayed marriage (So Prayer is needed too).

^^^^ Hmmmm!!.....

hmmm.. op.. I don't know where to start but I know one thing for sure.. Marriage is OVERRATED. you said you don't want to lose your peace.. there is more certainty u will lose that peace when u get married.. there is no guarantee anywhere.. be happy with who you are.. some married folks are regretting it today.. don't let the societal pressure get to you through that mentality.. only married men are asking me out... for me that's enough to put me off... for the record, marriage is a good thing only if and only if both parties want it to be good. pls think less of marriage and more less of who approaches you... it would help you remain sane... thank you very plenty

Thanks dankol...i appreciate. Happy Sunday

cruchenutii:


The truth is when you get to your 30s whether you like it OR not. You will come to realize that you should have made a decision about relationship earlier in life. There is no one that didn't get any Good Guy to approach them when they were in their 20s, Its either they were chasing career or not ready.

Even if you were heart broken or disappointed several times, it doesn't stop you from trying again. I had a discussion with my Senior Colleagues if they could marry a lady above 30. Out of 12, Only 1 said Yes.

Age is NOT nothing but a number. Once you are 30, Even if you are not desperate. Your parents/friends/society will make you desperate.

Even Men have their age limits. I asked women who are in their Early & late 20s if they can marry a Man around 40 or above. Out of 7, Only 3 said yes. No one wants to Also marry an Old Man.

Make hay while the sun shines abeg.

This might be a no-brainer, but Spiritual problems might also set in as a cause of Delayed marriage (So Prayer is needed too).

This poster just wrote some words on marble.Reading this comment was pretty refreshing. .....,why? Because it got in it,elements of truth.


PS:This thread has been created for about 1 and a half yrs now,perhaps the OP is in marital bliss already and if not,i pray so soonest.

Funny enough I had this discussion with a friend of mine yesterday, she works at the HQ of xyz bank and the head of xyz dept is trying to toast or indirectly toast her.

Abi why will a big Oga be chatting up an employee before 10pm. Family is in the UK, friend has told him she doesn't do married men.

I really don't get what the problem is with married men and single girls, can't they leave them in peace.

Diamond23:
[/color] First u r not cursed, secondly....stop putting d wedding ring on it will scare d potential suitors away nd thirdly wen nxt they come disturbing ur peace ask Dem to divorce der wife xo both of u will be free to mingle........On d issue of not attracting bachelors, maybe ur personality nd posh lifestyle drives dem away thinking u will be quite expensive to maintain or not in d same category wit u. Try to loosen up, joke,nd be friendly wit every one. He might be at d corner waiting for d go ahead signal frm u to make d first move.....And remember it mustn't be all u wanted in a man rich, tall,dark, this nd that,......pick him up nd mould him to ur desired man.[color=#770077]

Really? In this day and age? Hmmmm.... If I decide to comment on this, I will dwell here on for the rest of today.

Thanks though, I appreciate your input.

NoToPile:
Funny enough I had this discussion with a friend of mine yesterday, she works at the HQ of xyz bank and the head of xyz dept is trying to toast or indirectly toast her.

Abi why will a big Oga be chatting up an employee before 10pm. Family is in the UK, friend has told him she doesn't do married men.

I really don't get what the problem is with married men and single girls, can't they leave them in peace.

I switched jobs recently, about 3months now. My current boss recently developed a habit of reminding me everyday that he's looking for a girlfriend.

His choice? A 25yr old calm, loving and pretty girl. Meanwhile, his first child just turned 25 o.

My consolation?: I no dey his class.

TR1212:


I switched jobs recently, about 3months now. My current boss recently developed a habit of reminding me everyday that he's looking for a girlfriend.

His choice? A 25yr old calm, loving and pretty girl. Meanwhile, his first child just turned 25 o.

My consolation?: I no dey his class .

@bolded

He even has specifications, (calm, loving and pretty) these men will not kill somebody loool

The funniest part is that they do have women who go for them that's what I can't wrap around my head.


Looking for his daughters agemate no shame at all.


My friend I was talking about earlier said for her some of her office girls banking is like a second job for them while ashewo( that's what she called dating a married man) is the main job and I was like