Ishilove:
The society is so messed up.

Op you said 90% are married? No single guys?

Sister, pray out that thing in your life that attracts only married men to you. It is a waster. The single guys are not blind so why must it only be married men? Attack it with holy violence and you will see a change

JeffreyJamez:



I'm sorry... Holy Violence?

TR1212:


I had to read the post 3 times to finally give a meaning to that phrase. I guess what the poster's trying to say is to indulge in a radical prayer.

Thanks @ishilove

TR1212:


And then we think the less educated men and women in ther rural areas are over populating the country.

In my case though, just a few weeks ago, someone told me: "just carry my child and I will send you to Canada". He already has 4kids. So tell me what this man is looking for since he is more than willing to take responsibility.

metallisc:



come and cut down the tree i'm in and let's solve this problem once and for all, we will both benefit from the solution!


on a serious note though, let's talk in private!

carmag:


are you for real..shoo!!.. has women gone into extinct in your area or you don't find any of them attractive to start a relationship



Op categorically stated she isn't beautiful and in your mind you have seen an easy prey hence you want to form a relationship with a lady you neither know nor set your eyes on, when did the feelings started


pls don't compound her problems joorr....

TR1212:
"...many men think it's their birth right to cheat...."

Because of men like those in the line above, sometimes I just say 'thank God I'm still single'.

Thanks @ mindfulness. I appreciate

TR1212:
Dear family section members,

I really do need a reply/ies and I believe in the maturity of some of the posters in this section. So I'd appreciate if insults and abuses are kept to the minimal because I know they will come.

Please, I believe I have a problem with men and I need help. I am a single lady in my early 30s and I live and work in Abuja. Don't get me wrong, I don't sleep around, and I am not an "Abuja babe" if you guys know what I mean; but my problem is with married men. I don't know what is wrong with that institution called MARRIAGE or the people in it, but it really is affecting me that is not in it. 99% of the men that ask me out are married and I am tired, frustrated and with no clue as to how to stop this. I am not pretty. I don't dress provocatively. I don't go to some 'strategic' places, hell I haven't even been to a club before, so I cant say I attract them, my job alone places me in their line. but I don't know what I do wrong or why this is happening to me.

Worst is, some of these are very young and newly married men. Shey they no see me before they marry? At over 30, instead of them single suitors to be coming, the Agbayas wont let me be. I have had ALL of the most daring temptations of my life from married men. You have no idea. PLs tell me people, Am I cursed?? If yes, what prayers do I need to lift it ?? Are there characteristics inherent in some women that make men to perceive them as "Potential play thing/side chick". I'd really like my sanity and peace of mind. its enough to be single and fighting through life's ishes alone, so this kind of complication isn't welcome at all.

NL is the last place I'd have thought to take my issues to, but the last friend I confided in, a young married guy whom I attended his wedding o, turned around to make passes too. I know some will say "go and Marry", but I wont marry myself nah and even at that, I doubt if it will change anything because I have even gone as far as moving about with a ring on my finger. Please, people, married men and women here, and single ladies in similar shoes, tell me what to do, because to me, giving in is not an option but then, I am not so strong to be the biblical job of my generation because that's what it's beginning to feel like.

TR1212:


ladies, thanks for lifting my spirit! At least I now know i'm not alone o. I once hung out with my company's account officer and some of his colleagues. i just had to hang out with them when he asked because the guy does assist me with certain issues related to the office account, that's not really in his purview. at the end of the day, this guy headed for a hotel instead of at least, dropping me at the nearest b/stop since he doesn't even know where i stay, didn't ask and i wasn't ready to tell.

when i asked, what are we doing here? shebi you are a married man? the guy said "yes? i'm married and my family is in the UK. or should i have lied to you and maybe told the truth after you've 'gone down with me'. i quietly got down and said "bros, no vex, i wan trek go my house"

tell me, where did he get the 'get down with me' impression because he goes out of his way to do his job as an account officer, so he thinks he does me a special favor therefore i owe him? if that is the case, shouldn't he be going down with the company? na me get the account

Mskrisx:





Nne u are really a nice person with a good sense of humor. Calm down, you will get your own man... Your OWN man. Before this time next year we all would have attended your wedding....nothing dey hapun!

jaybeyblu:
LOL I thought i was the only one till i realized it is a norm here. when i begun work here i scanned everywhere i was like; hmm OK some really cool single guys. For where? instead it was married men that came flocking around me, i mean serious pestering by these men, none were exempted except for the expatriates that i worked with. at a certain stage i was getting depressed, i asked my single friends why are only married men coming my way? and they also expressed concerns as well that same thing happens to them. so i knew it was not my problem.
The annoying part is that the single ones never ask me or my single friends out. the ones that manage to do wants just a side piece, it is crazy!

Dear Op, nothing is wrong with you it is the society we live in. and i must confess that maybe the reason why some girls date married men is because they are the only ones that seem to be serious with them. it takes the grace of God to overcome these temptations. what i do is i laugh with them and i am not rude to them, because most of them are my bosses in the office and then i keep posting them and eventually they get the message that i am not interested and they back off.

TR1212:


Lol, daalu Nne na u try pass for that prayer. Thanks lot for

carmag:


are you for real..shoo!!.. has women gone into extinct in your area or you don't find any of them attractive to start a relationship



Op categorically stated she isn't beautiful and in your mind you have seen an easy prey hence you want to form a relationship with a lady you neither know nor set your eyes on, when did the feelings started


pls don't compound her problems joorr....

Mskrisx:





Don't mention...don't stress yasef oo... I tanda ya back gidigba!

TR1212:


Thank you. Now I feel like looking for trouble. E no easy to get backup na

Mskrisx:





Na wa for you oooo! Find the trouble jooor!

I no be tell you say I dey?

Last last mynd 44 go show!

TR1212:


hahahhaha abeg abeg, I no wan chop ban o. those mods? after 'change', fear them

Mskrisx:





Good morning bae, how are u this morning?

Have a splendid day!

Mskrisx:





Yes I did... Breakfast yet?


Have lunch oo

By the way... Gat a gift for you ! Will tell it when it's break time.

Mskrisx:
Jeeeez! Honey I wanted to type gist oooooo chaiii I am so sorry dear! Abeg no vex but never the less, it isn't late..

TR1212:


Still dancing atilogu. Whether by chance or error, gist or gift, you sha owe me something. How is your day going dear?

TR1212:
^^^^^^ Sister, u dey vex o. Who offended you today? Please tell me it's not metallisc o, because I no trust that guy here.

Anyway, thanks for your advice, but you know two wrongs never make a right. I don't have a problem telling them off. In fact, I've had to convince some to stop the act by gently approach the issue without loosing respect. So you never can tell, you may save or ruin a soul depending on how you handle the issue. trust me, most men are like babies. Some don't even know that the simple solution to whatever problem they are facing are within them. Only God can save us all....

metallisc:
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TR1212:


My brother, shey wetin make I talk na? I didn't mean to sound low really, I only meant to imply that I don't have all those bazookas that attract men like flies to dead ratBees to honey/ants to sugar. So I still don't get why. In any case I read you well and will take your advice to heart.

Thanks for the complement too.