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Re: Is Your Wife's Money 'her' Money And Yours 'our' Money?. by Olanna45(f): 8:58pm On Oct 14, 2016 |
"And two shall become one" This applies to all angles of family building/marriage. So my money is our money, His is also our money. 3 Likes |
Re: Is Your Wife's Money 'her' Money And Yours 'our' Money?. by Miladi(f): 9:24pm On Oct 14, 2016 |
Where altruism and fidelity are the principles on which a marriage is contracted and built upon, then problems like his money is our money and my money is my money vise versa would never occurs. In fact, I would rather remain single than to marry a selfish person. Just as I would be miserable should I nurse or practice the ignoble act of selfishness towards my altruistic and faithful partner. I believe in reciprocation and I always pray for good morality. In the absence of altruism, I would rather separate. . . . No time for mind game and pretension. Marriage should be enjoyed not endured - I cannot afford to have and live with a partner whom I tolerate instead of celebrate. If a working class lady cannot assume the basic responsibility of home front running expenses (subject to her earning power; but at least the feeding department) without being told and cajoled into doing so, then she is better off not working at all. 9 Likes |
Re: Is Your Wife's Money 'her' Money And Yours 'our' Money?. by olagift(f): 11:03am On Oct 16, 2016 |
Money is meant for spending. So if it is the husband that has the money, it belongs to the two of them, both of them should spend it. If it is the wife that has the money, it still belong to the two of them, therefore they should both spend it. If the two of them have the money, it still belongs to the two of them. Wife should not be keeping her own money or be spending it only on things she want only. No matter how big or small it is, it should be joined to the one of the husband to move the family forward. This is called team work and it is the best for marriage. In conclusion her money equals to our money, his money equals to our money. 3 Likes |
Re: Is Your Wife's Money 'her' Money And Yours 'our' Money?. by bukatyne(f): 10:04am On Oct 26, 2016 |
jaybee3: Are you saying "I clean the house, you clean the lawn" kind of thingy? Still doesn't achieve the 'equality' in my opinion. Besides, how often do you clean the lawn? |
Re: Is Your Wife's Money 'her' Money And Yours 'our' Money?. by jaybee3(m): 11:57am On Oct 26, 2016 |
bukatyne: Lemme jor 1 Like |
Re: Is Your Wife's Money 'her' Money And Yours 'our' Money?. by bukatyne(f): 12:07pm On Oct 26, 2016 |
jaybee3: jaybee3, how often do you clean the lawn? |
Re: Is Your Wife's Money 'her' Money And Yours 'our' Money?. by jaybee3(m): 12:31pm On Oct 26, 2016 |
bukatyne: I'm actually doing all the chores at the moment, including childcare responsibilities as madam has been away in sunny Qatar since Jan And yes, i still contribute a larger % share of the total household Expense So no big deal PS: Once a week in the summer/spring (Both front lawn and sizable back garden) 1 Like |
Re: Is Your Wife's Money 'her' Money And Yours 'our' Money?. by bukatyne(f): 12:44pm On Oct 26, 2016 |
jaybee3: Exactly my point The chores are not 'shared' You do as required. Some people have the 'I do this; you do that' thingy however, I am not a fan. Rather do what is required per time. |
Re: Is Your Wife's Money 'her' Money And Yours 'our' Money?. by jaybee3(m): 12:51pm On Oct 26, 2016 |
bukatyne: They are shared in my household Ma'am We both pull our weight and it works for us 1 Like |
Re: Is Your Wife's Money 'her' Money And Yours 'our' Money?. by bukatyne(f): 12:59pm On Oct 26, 2016 |
jaybee3: Good for you 1 Like |
Re: Is Your Wife's Money 'her' Money And Yours 'our' Money?. by soonest(f): 3:50pm On Oct 26, 2016 |
raumdeuter: Then why are house chores regarded to be my responsibility. Afterall we both work 8 to 4 daily or are women superbeings? Abeg his money is our money and my money is my own except there's a pressing need |
Re: Is Your Wife's Money 'her' Money And Yours 'our' Money?. by raumdeuter: 4:08pm On Oct 26, 2016 |
soonest: Is there a reason ALL housechores shouldnt be shared? |
Re: Is Your Wife's Money 'her' Money And Yours 'our' Money?. by Kimoni: 10:52pm On Oct 27, 2016 |
raumdeuter: Will you agree for the kids' to share surnames? Some of them will bear your surname and some mine? Should we as a couple both adopt our surnames jointly? yours and mine together? When it comes to headship, why do men want the rights but not the responsibilities? Like soonest said - you say the housework is mine, I don't complain You go to work, I go to mine - I don't complain I choose to reserve my money for myself except for pressing needs, hell let loose Biko, who go look Uche face 1 Like |
Re: Is Your Wife's Money 'her' Money And Yours 'our' Money?. by soonest(f): 6:53am On Oct 28, 2016 |
Kimoni: You couldn't have said it better. I'll care for the kids and take care of the home front but Oga, provide OUR needs. Anything from me na jara 1 Like |
Re: Is Your Wife's Money 'her' Money And Yours 'our' Money?. by buoye1(m): 12:09pm On Oct 28, 2016 |
My money OUR money, her money OUR money.. Simple and easy 1 Like |
Re: Is Your Wife's Money 'her' Money And Yours 'our' Money?. by Mayflowa(m): 11:47pm On Jan 16, 2017 |
Benita27: Men are in trouble! 1 Like |
Re: Is Your Wife's Money 'her' Money And Yours 'our' Money?. by Mayflowa(m): 11:54pm On Jan 16, 2017 |
jashar: good you |
Re: Is Your Wife's Money 'her' Money And Yours 'our' Money?. by Nobody: 12:07am On Jan 17, 2017 |
A good and virtuous woman, (the kind we all dream to be married to) will not wait for the promptings of the man before she spends her money on her family. 1 Like |
Re: Is Your Wife's Money 'her' Money And Yours 'our' Money?. by Nobody: 12:14am On Jan 17, 2017 |
Kimoni: ayam not understanding you ma, can you pls enlighten us a lil bit. Some of the kids will bear his surname, while some will bear your surname? So you bear a different surname to your husband's? 1 Like |
Re: Is Your Wife's Money 'her' Money And Yours 'our' Money?. by jashar(f): 6:21pm On Jan 17, 2017 |
Mayflowa: I believe those ladies talking,'my money my money' are joking. So, are they saying if a need arises in the house, they will wait for the man to bring the money before that need is met when they have money in their account? . That doesn't free the man from being the 'Most Senior' partner for financial responsibilities ooo.... But things like light bill, dstv bill, socks for the children... the woman can be buying those ones na... (as long as she's making money) Haba... |
Re: Is Your Wife's Money 'her' Money And Yours 'our' Money?. by Mayflowa(m): 9:14pm On Jan 17, 2017 |
jashar: Wow! you just become my friend! |
Re: Is Your Wife's Money 'her' Money And Yours 'our' Money?. by Kimoni: 9:20pm On Jan 18, 2017 |
Ioannes: This is a before marriage discussion when both partner still bear their different surnames. |
Re: Is Your Wife's Money 'her' Money And Yours 'our' Money?. by Nobody: 6:50am On Jan 19, 2017 |
Kimoni: I see. So if the guy says you and the kids can keep bearing your father's surname after being married to him you'll be cool with? I wonder how you're going to explain that to your family. |
Re: Is Your Wife's Money 'her' Money And Yours 'our' Money?. by Intrepid01(m): 7:05pm On Jan 19, 2017 |
Truly women are confused . In a moment that talk about gender equity , another moment their body language says otherwise. Please madam benita, if your husnands money is "ours" and your money is "yours", does that still make you equal? What does gender equity and gender equality realy mean? |
Re: Is Your Wife's Money 'her' Money And Yours 'our' Money?. by mctowel01: 5:59pm On Mar 27, 2017 |
raumdeuter:This is deep |
Re: Is Your Wife's Money 'her' Money And Yours 'our' Money?. by mctowel01: 6:07pm On Mar 27, 2017 |
raumdeuter:Where do you stay? you deserve a chilled bottle of beer 1 Like |
Re: Is Your Wife's Money 'her' Money And Yours 'our' Money?. by Objectives: 6:25pm On Mar 27, 2017 |
The Manipulated Man - Esther Vilar. |
Re: Is Your Wife's Money 'her' Money And Yours 'our' Money?. by laliga01: 10:01am On Oct 25, 2017 |
Benita27: Why argue about whose money to spend? The main thing is let there be money. Forget about who will spend the money. Money has to be spent. Most times women spend their money on their kids and little house keep. If as a mother and a career woman, you are there looking with all your money and they send your kids out of school... that is your business. No be only the husband shame go catch. |
Re: Is Your Wife's Money 'her' Money And Yours 'our' Money?. by revolt(m): 5:53pm On Nov 06, 2017 |
Muafrika2:oh u forget defending the land, hunting and protecting the family. 1 Like |
Re: Is Your Wife's Money 'her' Money And Yours 'our' Money?. by Loluores: 10:38pm On Nov 13, 2017 |
Chai, see feminism palaver inside church again. |
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