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This is a common dilemma that most men face,

    "To pay or not to pay, that is the question."

    Here are some of the problems that "paying"
creates:

1. It sets you up as the one who is "pursuing" the
woman, which symbolically gives away your power to
her.

2. It can be expensive.

3. It usually causes women to play even "harder to
get".

4. It triggers all kinds of "courtship" behaviors.
Like her making you prove yourself, waiting to
have sex, etc.

5. The places you'll be going to "pay" are often
not the best places to actually get to know
another human being.   Movies, fancy dinners, etc.,
aren't natural environments and they don't lead to
people "being themselves".

    So, what's the alternative?

    Well, the FIRST thing you should do is CHANGE
THE WAY YOU THINK ABOUT "DATING",  and "paying".

    Most guys just naturally assume that if they're
"taking a girl out" that they need to take her to
a show or movie, a nice dinner, etc.

    And by the way, this is actually part of a much
BIGGER issue,  that most guys feel OBLIGATED to
give things to women, buy them things,  and
basically PAY for their attention and affection.
If you've got a "bad" case of this, then I
recommend that you get your hands on a copy of my
"Deep Inner Game" program. It will help you change
all of that BAD programming, and build a self
image and a powerful self confidence that will
make women feel more NATURALLY attracted to you.


    Of course, these are basically the WORST places
to go with a woman in the beginning because, as I
mentioned above, they aren't very "natural" places
to be.

    Instead of asking a woman "out to dinner", try
this,

    When you're talking on the phone about getting
together say, "Let's meet for a cup of tea. This
way, if YOU turn out to be a complete freak, I can
run away easily."

    This will get a laugh, and it will get her
thinking to herself, "Wow, this guy is qualifying
ME."

    Also, suggest a place that's close to your
house, in case you want to invite her over
afterward.

    When you meet for tea, actually drink tea (or
iced tea).   Because coffee makes your breath nasty
and tea is perceived as a more "classy" drink.
It's also cheaper than a latte or a mocha.

    After you have tea for 30 or 60 minutes, decide
how YOU like HER. If you want to continue say
either:

    "Hey, let's keep talking. I want to shop for a
bit, come along."

    , or,

    "Hey, let's keep talking. Where are you parked?
You can follow me, " (to your place, of course).

    In either case, just assume that she will go
along with whatever you're doing, and she almost
always will if you're doing a good job of being
Cocky & Funny and keeping her attention.

    If you do go out "shopping", go to a funky
alternative neighborhood that has tattoo shops,
record stores, ethnic food restaurants, etc. Every
city has an area like this, so go there.

    These places are SO GREAT because they have fun
and interesting conversation BUILT RIGHT IN.

    If things are going well, and you're enjoying
the time with her, you can then have her follow
you over to your place. Again, just tell her that
you're enjoying the conversation, and that you'd
like to continue,  and for her to follow you.

    Total expense (if you pay for her tea and
yours):

    A few bucks.

    How much better is this than taking her out to
an expensive meal and trying to have a normal
conversation across a table while being forced to
look right at each other all night?

    You do the math.

    If you actually do a little creative thinking,
you can figure out ALL KINDS of great things to do
that cost little or no money at all when you go
out with women.

    Extra bonus:

    When you don't do "normal" dating things, women
will tend to play "hard to get" less.   They'll
expect less in the way of gifts and money spent on
them and they'll actually HAVE MORE FUN.