As we speak, a guy is about to be dumped by his girlfriend for bn too soft and not in control of their relationship. His girlfriend feels he is not harsh enough to her, always saying Yes to whatever she says or does. And as a result, she is thinking of dumping him for another guy, who has bn on her case for long. Imagine naija girls, if a guy is too violent, harsh or controlling, the girl will start complaining. But when the guy is the opposite, she wil say he is too soft. What do girls want, fah?

You are not far from saying the truth.A guy have to be strict to gain a lady's respect.That is why gentle guys don't win ladies hearts.

They want cucumber

Girls like blunt guys

my guy d same tin happened to back in 2012
d girl dey complain say I dey too soft say i no dey
shout at am dat anything way she talk or do I dey say yes .omo na so d gal come leave me ooo follow one idiot like dat way redesigned ha face wit blows
afta two months of being wit d guy she come begin dey beg me tell say she dey sorry
I tel am say I no get anytin against ha bt I CNT date ha again she say make we be ordinary frnds
I gree so I just dey f.uck am anyhow til I moved down to east
wot am saying in essence is for u to be ur self
most women don't knw wot dey want

my brother where do u guys see all this girls with psychological issue sef.

When you can't decide on your own, too soft, how will you control a family? Its not about being to harsh, a man just need to be a man.

Antina:
When you can't decide on your own, too soft, how will you control a family? Its not about being to harsh, a man just need to be a man.

Only imbeciles and slaves needs to be controlled,
a partner that can control him/herself is a time bomb.

Antina:
Its not about being to harsh, a man just need to be a man.

so you ladies know about this? But later you will still come out to shout at men all in the name of FEMINIST

@ op, i've had similar experience in the past. This girl complained about me being to soft with her. Until she went ahead and jam one nigga that nearly vandalise her face. She came back running & crying. I've accepted her back but i have something in mind.

The lady deserves an award. For all I care and know, gutlessness is not the same thing as gentleness/being nice. Just as servitude is not the same thing as loyalty. The guy is a hypocrite.

All sane, sound and honest people loves a conscientious person(s). And by extension anybody that posseses conscientious, effacing and altruistic attributes equals a gentle/nice person.

The character of the guy in this story is that of a low-class manipulator (a leechlike opportunist) - he is a hypocrite I say. His ilks are oppression personified. . . For instance given a control tool like excess money and if the girl happens to be poor, you will know his true colour.

On the other hand, no sane and sound girl loves an arrogant/rude/harsh man. Instead as I stated above, they love men that possess those good attributes I listed especially conscientiousness (in relation to this subject under discussion), and exhibits it as an attitude.