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8 Things You Should Never Do After Your Partner Cheats by positivestory: 6:02pm On Nov 20, 2016 |
Don't try to get even You may want to trash-talk your partner on Facebook, but acting destructively to even the score will do no good—and may even have financial consequences. "Trying to get even keeps your anger alive, and keeps you in a state of negativity, which will prevent you from moving on and going forward in your life," says Jane Greer, PhD. To recover from the infidelity, you need to try to be on the same team, not opposing ones. Don't fall apart "It's very normal to have a good cry (or two or three) after a break up," says April Masini, a New York-based relationship and etiquette expert and author. "And when the breakup follows a long-term relationship, expect to need time to recover." Realize that this situation won't define you. Your life isn't over. While what's happening may be scary, it's a chance for you to start over. Yes, it may be a different life, but things may turn out even better. These breakup survival tips can help the healing begin. Don't play the victim card It's true that in all likelihood, you didn't deserve to have someone cheat on you, but it doesn't mean you should wallow in self-pity. Playing the victim will keep you feeling helpless and damaged, and it will continue to keep you feeling badly about yourself as a result, your self esteem will drop, and you'll find it difficult to participate in your life in a fulfilling way. Don't let someone else decide if you'll leave or not Your mom says to leave him; your best friend says give him another chance. But it's your choice whether the relationship is worth salvaging and repairing or not. People will always have their own opinions, but the final decision on how to proceed is yours. Don't ignore what happened It may ease the pain to just ignore your partner's infidelity. But doing so won't address the underlying issues in your relationship. "Trying to ignore the unfaithfulness that occurred will only leave the relationship on shaky ground," says Hall. And your resentment will likely build and eventually rear its ugly head. So, ask all the questions you want, even knowing that you may not get all the answers you want to hear. Before you know whether to invest in rebuilding the relationship, you need to figure out why the infidelity happened. Don't try to get things back to how they were Your marriage is already different, and "the way things were" is what led to the situation at hand. Focus on building a more fulfilling relationship using the lessons you've learned. Don't dismiss therapy Counseling after cheating can help you gain insight and understanding into what went down. It can help you communicate better and process feelings of guilt, shame, and whatever else you might be feeling. "If you decide to walk away from the relationship, at least you can leave with peace of mind that you tried your best to make it work and didn't act impulsively," says Burns. Therapists have seen it all, so don't be embarrassed by your situation. Don't forget to take care of yourself "This traumatic experience can negatively impact your mind and body," says Burns. "In order to bounce back from this, self-care is essential. You can't make rational decisions, such as whether to stay or leave, when you're not taking care of your physiological needs." Make sure to eat, exercise, sleep, and have fun. Laugh and live a happy life despite what's going on. Do activities that bring you joy and pleasure. Source: The Positive Story - http://www.thepositivestory.info/ |
Re: 8 Things You Should Never Do After Your Partner Cheats by ogorwyne(f): 6:05pm On Nov 20, 2016 |
Dont fail to roast him while he sleeps at night. 1 Like |
Re: 8 Things You Should Never Do After Your Partner Cheats by Jochebed7(f): 6:07pm On Nov 20, 2016 |
may we never need this ijn. amen |
Re: 8 Things You Should Never Do After Your Partner Cheats by funshint(m): 6:09pm On Nov 20, 2016 |
Well in marriage; "A husband that cheats brings down himself but a wife that cheats brings down the whole house altogether" 3 Likes |
Re: 8 Things You Should Never Do After Your Partner Cheats by Nobody: 6:12pm On Nov 20, 2016 |
In case... |
Re: 8 Things You Should Never Do After Your Partner Cheats by nobodii: 6:17pm On Nov 20, 2016 |
Lastly beat the hell out of her for her to learn her lesson |
Re: 8 Things You Should Never Do After Your Partner Cheats by Splinz(m): 6:18pm On Nov 20, 2016 |
ogorwyne: Eh, roast him? Like yam and plantain
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Re: 8 Things You Should Never Do After Your Partner Cheats by Nobody: 6:18pm On Nov 20, 2016 |
ogorwyne: |
Re: 8 Things You Should Never Do After Your Partner Cheats by Nobody: 6:19pm On Nov 20, 2016 |
nobodii:With this statement, you deserve to be cheated on.. |
Re: 8 Things You Should Never Do After Your Partner Cheats by ikp120(m): 6:20pm On Nov 20, 2016 |
Splinz:Lolzzz |
Re: 8 Things You Should Never Do After Your Partner Cheats by nobodii: 6:21pm On Nov 20, 2016 |
Captainbells:and then still beat the hell out of her |
Re: 8 Things You Should Never Do After Your Partner Cheats by Nobody: 6:27pm On Nov 20, 2016 |
funshint: Lol. Now they are just making up excuses. No BOTH bring down the whole house altogether *whatever that means* |
Re: 8 Things You Should Never Do After Your Partner Cheats by makydebbie(f): 6:30pm On Nov 20, 2016 |
Don't forget to carry his picture to that baba |
Re: 8 Things You Should Never Do After Your Partner Cheats by falconey(m): 6:35pm On Nov 20, 2016 |
Jochebed7:lwkm haha haha |
Re: 8 Things You Should Never Do After Your Partner Cheats by firstking01(m): 6:43pm On Nov 20, 2016 |
ogorwyne:Too extreme. |
Re: 8 Things You Should Never Do After Your Partner Cheats by ogorwyne(f): 6:45pm On Nov 20, 2016 |
firstking01:just joking around |
Re: 8 Things You Should Never Do After Your Partner Cheats by firstking01(m): 7:07pm On Nov 20, 2016 |
ogorwyne:Hmmm |
Re: 8 Things You Should Never Do After Your Partner Cheats by modsRbastard: 7:44pm On Nov 20, 2016 |
ogorwyne: This is you [img]http://lh3.googleusercontent.com/tEu4LSBsOjsp4gtSsXKgd2TK1GPmBo9l8-mtajagOsLoxXaEUKVT7faCjP0=rwu-w225-h352[/img] on your way to roasting him and that's how your friend that motivates you will back out. |
Re: 8 Things You Should Never Do After Your Partner Cheats by ogorwyne(f): 7:47pm On Nov 20, 2016 |
modsRbastard:hahahahaha. so funny |
Re: 8 Things You Should Never Do After Your Partner Cheats by vetrovialMan(m): 7:47pm On Nov 20, 2016 |
ogorwyne: |
Re: 8 Things You Should Never Do After Your Partner Cheats by modsRbastard: 8:01pm On Nov 20, 2016 |
ogorwyne: Glad I could you make you smile [img]http://lh3.googleusercontent.com/3B6uJbZhabJNpwVC6K08W6-An1H-Jye1XMPaQG65C5aH2ieKHOhd4vT_A8Lfqg=rwu-w360-h203[/img] Migwor asampete... What part of Delta you from? |
Re: 8 Things You Should Never Do After Your Partner Cheats by ogorwyne(f): 8:43pm On Nov 20, 2016 |
modsRbastard:am from kwale |
Re: 8 Things You Should Never Do After Your Partner Cheats by Nobody: 8:43pm On Nov 20, 2016 |
ogorwyne:baby boo. you deleted me from bbm |
Re: 8 Things You Should Never Do After Your Partner Cheats by ogorwyne(f): 8:46pm On Nov 20, 2016 |
olihilistic:ollie love, that's not true. have been off for sometime. Didn't delete u. |
Re: 8 Things You Should Never Do After Your Partner Cheats by Nobody: 8:49pm On Nov 20, 2016 |
ogorwyne:I just resumed to bbm it's not a bad thing sha. I done miss you like sokoto people d miss GEJ. |
Re: 8 Things You Should Never Do After Your Partner Cheats by ogorwyne(f): 8:51pm On Nov 20, 2016 |
olihilistic:hehehehe. have missed u too jare. how is UAM? |
Re: 8 Things You Should Never Do After Your Partner Cheats by modsRbastard: 8:54pm On Nov 20, 2016 |
ogorwyne: So then you must be from Udokwa LGA and speak Ukwuani. |
Re: 8 Things You Should Never Do After Your Partner Cheats by Nobody: 8:54pm On Nov 20, 2016 |
ogorwyne:UAM is fine. considering the fact that street boys have calm down. they killed a member last 3days sha. how's UNN?? |
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