beck500:

I went to check my gf in Covenant University yesterday, she was happy to see me and all that, the firs statement she made was " Do you still love ", although she said it smiling and it sounded jokingly, so I would not know if she was serious or not.

I replied back to her, saying Yes I do. We gisted for a while and then she said there's something she wanted to gist me about. I said what is it, she said that there's this Ibukun guy he is tripping for, but that she has to control herself in order for the guy not to know she is tripping. She also stated that the guy is 4 months her junior in age, and that he is very cute. Nairalander's I'll be sincere, as a guy I know there are alot of more attractive guys that me, but I hate it when my gurl is attracted to some1 else, I know for sure some guys on NL would feel me on this aspect. I now tested her saying, go out with him if u want, that dnt mean I do not love you, she said No that she cant, that its because of me she will never date any other person.

Nlander's I am beginning to feel uncomfortable with what she told me, I am already feeling hurt that she is tripping for a guy, she even said she had to sing well in a choir session in order for the guy to notice her. My hand just dey fall inside of me. I really love this girl and I dnt want to be hurt, is it worth breaking up with her now before I get dumped? Because if she dumps me, my life will be shattered into a million pieces.

Thanks all!!

190.yaris:

see poster
me tink that u shouldnt worry yourself
ure girl loves u and for her to open up and tell
you that she loves u then there aint no big deal~
if she hadnt tell u,wud u have known
never,
me tink that even u as a guy trip 4 other girls
as well,its jst reciprocal so dnt bug yourself that much
u shud be happy that the guy aint interested in your girl cos
that wud have auto given him the green lite but since she's the
only person secretly trippin then no biggie deal~
play on she loves u
dats my advice

peaceout~

190.yaris:

see poster
me tink that u shouldnt worry yourself
ure girl loves u and for her to open up and tell
you that she loves u then there aint no big deal~
if she hadnt tell u,wud u have known
never,
me tink that even u as a guy trip 4 other girls
as well,its jst reciprocal so dnt bug yourself that much
u shud be happy that the guy aint interested in your girl cos
that wud have auto given him the green lite but since she's the
only person secretly trippin then no biggie deal~
play on she loves u
dats my advice

peaceout~

pc guru:

You're even lucky she told you.Don't see shit wrong there.You will always admire others doesn't mean you want to be with them.But statistically speaking most adolescent relationship are bound to fail so enjoy while it last.Cuz it won't unless you getting married.So expect the worse.I like being subtle.  

190.yaris:

see poster
me tink that u shouldnt worry yourself
ure girl loves u and for her to open up and tell
you that she loves u then there aint no big deal~
if she hadnt tell u,wud u have known
never,
me tink that even u as a guy trip 4 other girls
as well,its jst reciprocal so dnt bug yourself that much
u shud be happy that the guy aint interested in your girl cos
that wud have auto given him the green lite but since she's the
only person secretly trippin then no biggie deal~
play on she loves u
dats my advice

peaceout~

MoneyRule:

Clearly, she does love you but generally, crushes like this do not end well for the boyfriend especially if the guy in question knows she has a crush on him and has got game.
In my own opinion, let her believe you trust she would stay faithful to you because of the love she has 4 u but, brace urself for the worst cos we all know this can go either way and hope it goes the right way.Goodluck!

beck500:


Thats exactly what am saying. Prevention is better than cure, I fear the worse thats why I am seeking for advise[b],it will be more painful having to know that a more attractive guy took her away from me,[/b] I have got all the swags and love she needs, so why should looks distract her attention,however I do not know if this guy has got game like i do.

whitesturd:

ehn ehn 190.so u can make sense like dis.dts gud.keep it up.

OP.i think your gfriend is beinh truthful to u.ask ursef does she have to tel u if she doesnt still luv u.?

iice:

Remember you told her to date him. . .when that happens, please avoid lamenting to us

danexd:

it is time to make your game tight!!!at least she was sincere not many girls have that virtue/though some use it to mess up

jidesamuel:

remember,that at times girls always like to look the thier guy's reaction to circumstances,u may later discover that she was not true about wat she told u
i like your response though (it's not that u are ok by telling her to date the intruder) if i were u,i will later reverse the game by telling her that u have a female friend that cares so much like she does,then see her reactions

tpm:

Dude, i like the replies so far. But just as they said, enjoy it while it lasts. The mind is very deceptive. Such secrete fantacy could cause her to step into act that could desrtoy your relationship with her. Do not rejoice she told u. She could be carried away by her feel for the guy that she didn't even know when she let the cat out of the bag. If she loves u as she claimed, then she should see u as her hero cute or no cute. Beware

OAM4J:

I think she is just a very sincere person, who doesn’t know how to pretend. I prefer a lady like her. Don’t worry OP, she will get over the crush, at least her head is working better than her feelings.

gram:

honestly, i dont know how old you are but i think your girl really loves you, i also believe she is very immature, honestly, disatnce is likely to hurt your relationship in the nearest future, if she sees more of you, she will forget that guy, if she sees less of you, anything can happen, so be prepared.

beck500:

Gurl are you ok? Didnt I say I tested her with that statement? And she knew later that I was only joking. Baby is my heartbeat.

I've always said, people are devious. . .but good luck

iice:

I've always said, people are devious. . .but good luck

Dr. Lorenz:

U should know abi?  

Considering my age you mean? Yes i should know

iice:

Considering my age you mean? Yes i should know

Dr. Lorenz:

@OP

I think if i were you, i'll go with Moneyrules' advice. The fact that she told you doesn't mean she won't do it if push comes to shove. Remember she's mentioned the guy's name before. Our emotions are unpredictable and can't be trusted. Don't fool yourself by thinking bcus you visit her regularly will stop her from doing anything bad if she wants to.

Like i like to say, girls will always crave for attention when they want to be the center of attraction. Most girls, if not all, loves and craves for attention, and she's deff looking for the guy's. . .no matter what she says. U see her 4 times a week or a month? How many times does she see the guy? Granted she might love you (am not disputing that), but the heart and head are too different things.

It's a case of the spirit willing to stay truthful to you and the body weak in following the spirit. I totally agree with MissSexy. Take things on the level and a clear head, and i believe you (your heart mostly) will come out unscathed. My advice to you is that you should hope for the best, and prepare for the worst. . .that way, if worse comes to worst, you won't be left hangin'.

Good luck man. . .

ruskiee:

For all we know,there might not be any guy-just a character that she has made up to test you.
Seek out your reaction. It's not impossible as i believe girls do such sometimes.
But on the other hand if there is a guy, her telling you means she likes you a lot.

Just keep true to your feelings. She needs to know that you love her-it's your job to always assure her of this. She needs to know that she is secure with you and you with her.

whitelexi:

Your girl is on her way out, it will only depend on how long it takes this ibukun guy to realise he has her at the tip of his fingers and next thing u know, they're shagging  It always starts with the girl telling u "oh, there's this guy, he's quite cute, bla bla bla". I cant recall how often i've heard that line and it always has one outcome, i find my way out

Its a sad reality but it will happen.  Dude, have your fun now and prepare to not be surprised.