No doubt, relationships and marriages are tough and complicated sometimes, this we all know. While there could be no one single and encompassing way to assess every relationship due to our diversities as humans, there are many ways to know if you are with the wrong partner or the right one.

Most times, situations in the course of dating someone pop up from time to time which may give some green light or indications that you could either be in a wrong relationship or with the right person, but sadly to say, most times we fail to ignore these indications.

Whenever you are trying to check if someone is good for you or not, never let your selfishness and ego judge your decision.

If or when you come to the realization that you are not in the right relationship, you do not need anyone to tell you, that’s the last thing you need because only you can figure that out. Your intuition knows for sure exactly what is right for you even when you try to disagree or fight with it for being right.

I remember vividly when one pastor while delivering his Sunday message had said that ‘’in everything you do or venture into, honesty must come play’’. This include in your business that provides your daily meal for your family and in your relationship with your partner.

In this ar[url][/http://brendascouch.com/things-that-kill-any-relationship-quickly/] , I’d written where a marriage of almost 35 years came to an end just because of display of dishonesty from the part of the husband and father.

There is nothing as frustrating as coming to know you have been dating or had gotten married to the wrong person. Leaving such a relationship while dating could be better than if already married, the pain is usually ‘’out of this world’’ during such moment.

I have read many times here in Nigeria where even after a lady discovers she’d had been in the wrong relationship or marriage all this while, she usually wouldn’t want to leave that union blaming it on the already produced kids. To me, I find this absolutely so ridiculous on the part of the woman- why manage an already bad marriage?

Mistakes are common in the lives of humans and one made in choosing a partner is one of the most painful and terrible ones. Thus, if you are in a relationship or marriage you feel, think or have come to the realization that it’s not the right one, you probably shouldn’t try so hard to make it “work”. Sometimes the right thing to do is to pull the plug and simply walk away.

I know it sounds so easy to spew out from the pen’s mouth, but you could be doing yourself a whole lot of good. Truth is, no relationship is worth sacrificing your happiness for, none!

Many times people tend to blame their partners for being the problem or the wrong one in the relationship forgetting to take some blames or even dare to self-examine themselves to know if they are actually the right person for their partners.

What I am trying to explain here is that, sometimes while you sit down thinking your partner could be the wrong one for you, don’t be shocked that you could as well be the wrong person for him or her. It’s a two way thing analyses.

Thus, while there are visible signs you’re in the right relationship and partner, there are also signs you’re with wrong the one.

Ways to know if you are with the wrong partner or soul mate.

When your partner has no listening ears during communication.

Communication between partners is one ingredient that gives or adds colour to any relationship. It is the main driving force in any relationship. While the absence of it could be a problem, the presence of it could also be the solution to solving a whole lot of issues.

A relationship with low communication is a dwindling relationship waiting to pack up.

Also, in the process of communication and one partner notices that the other lacks listening ears during conversation or always the one doing most of the talking, such traits may get the other partner infuriated and ‘’thinking’’.

When you think the $.e.x is too good and you are afraid you may not get such from another.

While listening to a radio talk show one night about 11 pm, a lady had written to the OAP/presenter of the program requesting for advice on what to do about her relationship. She was tired of it and was so confused or let me say to pull the plug due to the good $.e.x she receives from her boyfriend of 3 years.

From this lady’s point of view, I concluded that she is a $exually active person who probably had been in other relationships in which the $.e.x was not up to her standard and her current boyfriend had been very good in that department, hence the confusion and fear of not meeting someone as good as her boyfriend has consumed her person.

But like what some people would always say, ‘’where one road ends, that’s where another begins’’.

There is always better $.e.x out there and where or when you think you’ve seen it all, there are a million and one people out there with better skills.

That is the best explanation for people with this problem of fear.

When you doubt yourself of what you are doing in the relationship.

While this may sound funny or strange, many people especially women are in relationships where they keep doubting themselves if they are supposed to be in it or not. If what you want in a relationship is not what is reasonable or not what is generally acceptable, then give it up.

Anyone who is not convinced about the relationship he or she is into, definitely it’s a sign you are in the wrong relationship, with the wrong person or probably in a relationship at the wrong time.

You are with the wrong person who still thinks about the ex.

Some people find it extremely difficult to move on after their last relationship. They make it worse for themselves and their new partners when they constantly think of their ex. Truth is, they’re not over their ex, and they fail to see that.

If someone is not over with the last person they were with, you’d find them always referring to their ex in discussions that doesn’t relate to them. They are quick to bring them up. This is sickening!

When you are with this kind of person, the sad truth of the matter is most likely that you are just a rebound for such person. The right thing to do is simply walking away from that relationship.

You do not deserve to be a rebound to anyone, never!

When your partner’s phone is always locked with a password which you don’t know

Partners whose phones are always locked with a password surely have something they could be hiding from their partners. Also, those whose phone passwords are frequently changed could be up to something.

If you are dating such a person, there is a greater percentage your partner is cheating. This is one good sign to know if you are in a relationship with the wrong partner or someone who is already cheating. A clear conscience has nothing to hide


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