martineverest:
sometimes,i wonder y couples shud disturb demselves about childlessness when there are many children out there looking for guardiance/homes.

I think its our mindset/orientation and what others will say

Its easy said than done. Will you be able to do what u're saying if u find myself childless after 9 years of marriage.. To adopt, love , care for ,and cherish like ur own biological child a baby whose father and mother u know not .?

Kennedymac:
people sef eh ...so u mean u don't want ur own child

so, that is why you'll wait 9 years in a childless home? Would they have been any less parents if they had adopted maybe 4 years into the marriage?

You all shout God is great, but you snub little kids who need a family and care simply because you "want your own", will adoption stop you from getting your own? Maybe if they had adopted earlier, she would have conceived earlier.

That guy is right, our mentality as Nigerians and Africans is poor. "Your own" must not come from you. Show an unfortunate child some love

So? Y givin dz celeb 1 kind .....r dey d only dat gave testimony?

Our case and that of our various families shall b different this day and beyond. AMEN

DavSagacity:

Its easy said than done. Will you be able to do what u're saying if u find myself childless after 9 years of marriage.. To adopt, love , care for ,and cherish like ur own biological child a baby whose father and mother u know not .?

I actually plan to adopt three kids, child or no child, husband or no husband.

People have adopted and been better for it. Leave this mindset, it's archaic

Alleluia

martineverest:
sometimes,i wonder y couples shud disturb demselves about childlessness when there are many children out there looking for guardiance/homes.

I think its our mindset/orientation and what others will say

I agree more. Lets give those kids future instead of adding more

Dr Kenneth.??...me I don't know him as that o

"Doctor" Kenneth Okonkwo, honorary doctorate na him you carry for head like say na Ph.D/M.D?

Congratulations all the same!

9 yrs

Congrats Man. We thank God.

I'm not that into Nollywood, but I love the way this guy portrayed Rev King in one movie like ....

martineverest:
sometimes,i wonder y couples shud disturb demselves about childlessness when there are many children out there looking for guardiance/homes.

I think its our mindset/orientation and what others will say

I agree with you.

So many things we do here in this part of the world are not necessarily
based on what we want but on what will people say if
I don't do what they expect me to do?

Don't get me wrong: there is nothing wrong with being a
parent. But there is also no need to ostracize people
who for one reason or the other don't have children.

My 2 cents though...

one with GOD is Majority......congratulations

Wait,hol'up














I know that baby ain't white

DavSagacity:

Its easy said than done. Will you be able to do what u're saying if u find myself childless after 9 years of marriage.. To adopt, love , care for ,and cherish like ur own biological child a baby whose father and mother u know not .?

capital 'yes'.....i grew up with my cousins and relatives.my parents never segregated them from their children and there werent special treatment for their children.we were all brought us with unity...unfortunately,i was one of d youngest and was made to pick the last share of anything rationable,while my cousins picked first......i grew up with that mentality.......so,if there anything like childlessness in my marriage,i wud gladly adopt without second thought......infact,child or no child,i am adopt my first or last child

martineverest:
sometimes,i wonder y couples shud disturb demselves about childlessness when there are many children out there looking for guardiance/homes.

I think its our mindset/orientation and what others will say

is true shaa but what if godogodo is responsible for the pregancy and u addopt the baby i dey see danger

elopee3000:
is true shaa but what if godogodo is responsible for the pregancy and u addopt the baby i dey see danger

which one is godogodo

martineverest:
sometimes,i wonder y couples shud disturb demselves about childlessness when there are many children out there looking for guardiance/homes.

I think its our mindset/orientation and what others will say

What you have said is a very deep point, and not many people will agree with it. The Nigerian mentality is to have your own child, adoption is not very common-place in our society.

I saw Seun dancing and jumping at Shiloh... don't mind whatever he says on here.

martineverest:
sometimes,i wonder y couples shud disturb demselves about childlessness when there are many children out there looking for guardiance/homes.

I think its our mindset/orientation and what others will say

see as u talk am so easy, well many would want to see the face of theirs, not already made by another set of pple. see i can adopt 1mil child but will still love to see my own self made product.

I saw him too. Congratulations

martineverest:
sometimes,i wonder y couples shud disturb demselves about childlessness when there are many children out there looking for guardiance/homes.

I think its our mindset/orientation and what others will say

Are you single? When you marry without issue of your own blood you will know the pain

martineverest:
which one is godogodo

go to you tube put crime fighter Nigerian police godogodo

Patience.

safarigirl:
so, that is why you'll wait 9 years in a childless home? Would they have been any less parents if they had adopted maybe 4 years into the marriage?

You all shout God is great, but you snub little kids who need a family and care simply because you "want your own", will adoption stop you from getting your own? Maybe if they had adopted earlier, she would have conceived earlier.

That guy is right, our mentality as Nigerians and Africans is poor. "Your own" must not come from you. Show an unfortunate child some love

what in the case one of couples disagreed.

It was not a miracle...

It was science and technology at work

The baby was most likely conceived through artificial insemination or fertility drugs and not by drinking holy water or anointed oil

danyel09:
Am I the only one that thinks that child looks like a foreigner, just take a look at the hair

You are so smart!
That was the first thing I observed immediately I opened this thread.

Is this the first or the second wife?

What is Christianity turning into? I thought the Bible (New Testament) says so long as your ex-spouse is alive, marrying another is fornication. Has this standard from Christ changed?

I just asked a question oo!

Lord you alone is GREAT..I TAP into the GLORY..FATHER give everyone looking for the fruit of the womb children IN JESUS NAME AMEN..

martineverest:
sometimes,i wonder y couples shud disturb demselves about childlessness when there are many children out there looking for guardiance/homes.

I think its our mindset/orientation and what others will say

Exactly. I agree with you. There are latest medical techniques now and advancements such as IVF treatment, artificial insemination etc. that enable couples struggling with conception to conceive their own baby. Why then should someone wait for as long as 9 years when there are medical options available. Waiting for that long is understandable if they tried all medical options and they failed. It's all about the mindset. Such mindset is archaic. Here in the US I doubt if there are such couples that choose to wait for 10 years when medicine is there to help them conceive.

[I strongly agree with you mandi,i and hubby planned befor marriage to have a child after 3years of marriage.Even when my parents said we should not visit because we are childless,even when people see us as foolish ones,we are still standing our ground.One have to plan well to take care of a child/children,people will only talk they wont send you the cash to take care of your child.Lets be wise. Its only mostly in Africa people see childlessness as a problem.
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