Being a good daughter-in-law can be a challenging job, but it doesn’t need to be if you keep a few simple suggestions in mind.your husband was a son first!

As a new wife, it is difficult not to feel possessive and a little defensive. You want to be number one in your husband’s life, but you should remember not to put him in a position of having to defend his mother! no one wins that battle; it will only put pressure on every relationship. Will what you gain, by dividing your husband and his mother, be worth the many unnecessary heartaches for the family?

[b]Granted, there are mother-in-laws that will do everything to prove you are not worthy of their son; you can only do so much to make a relationship with her happen. No matter what you do or hard you try to make things work, she constantly tries to demonstrate how unworthy you are. How do you deal a mother-in-law like that? Well, you could stoop to her level and try to make her look bad, but the truth is, your husband can probably see how his mother is treating you and doesn’t like it either. He may not stand up to her, for whatever reason, but he’s new to this too. Give him a break! Just keep your distance and try to keep the peace, but not at the cost of letting yourself be walked on. Don’t stoop to her level and don’t hesitate to speak up for yourself; you don’t need to set yourself up for abuse from anyone.

Don’t try to compete. He married you because he loves you. His relationship with you is different from the relationship with his mother. You’re his wife, not his mother. If she’s the queen of lasagne, give her the throne; she’s been cooking it for years and has perfected it. Create something new and perfect it. Or, better yet, find a great wine, light a candle and cook a little something up.

Do a good job taking care of her son. Part of the unnecessary strain on an in-law relationship is that your husband’s parents, particularly his mother, want to know that the wonderful care of their son that they have long provided will continue in your care. Let them see that you love him and that he has clean underwear and vegetables at least once a day. They’ll be happy and he’ll be more regular.
Keep them in the loop. Don’t cut his parents out. Take the initiative and call them with news and updates. Even though things might be a bit uncomfortable at first, remember that they are a big part of your life and making a little extra effort won’t hurt a bit (well, it won’t hurt too much).[/b]

mynd44 lalasticlala

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*Surprise your mother-in-law by taking her to see a movie, or to a tourist attraction.....
she won't hide the happiness inside her

Mshewwwww when my mother is still alive

Some of thisladies will be like, I must go to ny level to learn today

hmmmmmmmmm is ok

its simple.... just handle her the way you would love to be handled when you grow old..

U will never hear father in law giving wahala. Its always women. Awon alafishe

Yinmu!

oriflamebaby1:
My mother in law will be so damn lucky

My wife will be so damn lucky

Those wey no go hear no go hear

It's just Grace. Sometimes, no matter how hard you try... if you wan too try sef, they will say you're hypocrite. I pray for Grace. That's it

Hmmn......These aren't too much of a thing to do

Some mother in laws are just evil there is no winning them over. No matter what you do that's a real reality.

Trapnews:
Yinmu!

na annointing carry the woman so?

My mother in law will be so damn lucky

nairalanddss:
Being a good daughter-in-law can be a challenging job, but it doesn’t need to be if you keep a few simple suggestions in mind.your husband was a son first!

As a new wife, it is difficult not to feel possessive and a little defensive. You want to be number one in your husband’s life, but you should remember not to put him in a position of having to defend his mother! no one wins that battle; it will only put pressure on every relationship. Will what you gain, by dividing your husband and his mother, be worth the many unnecessary heartaches for the family?

[b]Granted, there are mother-in-laws that will do everything to prove you are not worthy of their son; you can only do so much to make a relationship with her happen. No matter what you do or hard you try to make things work, she constantly tries to demonstrate how unworthy you are. How do you deal a mother-in-law like that? Well, you could stoop to her level and try to make her look bad, but the truth is, your husband can probably see how his mother is treating you and doesn’t like it either. He may not stand up to her, for whatever reason, but he’s new to this too. Give him a break! Just keep your distance and try to keep the peace, but not at the cost of letting yourself be walked on. Don’t stoop to her level and don’t hesitate to speak up for yourself; you don’t need to set yourself up for abuse from anyone.

Don’t try to compete. He married you because he loves you. His relationship with you is different from the relationship with his mother. You’re his wife, not his mother. If she’s the queen of lasagne, give her the throne; she’s been cooking it for years and has perfected it. Create something new and perfect it. Or, better yet, find a great wine, light a candle and cook a little something up.

Do a good job taking care of her son. Part of the unnecessary strain on an in-law relationship is that your husband’s parents, particularly his mother, want to know that the wonderful care of their son that they have long provided will continue in your care. Let them see that you love him and that he has clean underwear and vegetables at least once a day. They’ll be happy and he’ll be more regular.
Keep them in the loop. Don’t cut his parents out. Take the initiative and call them with news and updates. Even though things might be a bit uncomfortable at first, remember that they are a big part of your life and making a little extra effort won’t hurt a bit (well, it won’t hurt too much).[/b]

mynd44 lalasticlala

http://www.jeloser.info/2016/12/how-to-be-good-daughter-in-law.html

abegi remove this nonsense wey no get meaning wey you post for here,they can't be please, mother inlaws behave as if they are possessive, it will even be worst for the lady if she married into a family where the man is the only son,and she end up bearing female kids,the lady is seating on a keg of bomb that is about to explode, nowadays most ladies prefer to marry a man that don't have mother because of the wahala of the mother inlaws,they are pain in the asssssss

Hian! some mothers in-law are insatiable. Nothing u do can satisfy them

hope my future wife is reading this

hmmmm

Ok

zahra buhari should take note

But, how can mil and dil be competing for love and attention sef?

cmon, the love for wife is different for love for mother. And, the love for mother is different for love of wife.



the earlier we understand it, the best for everyone, and peace for all.

opethom:
When 90% of girls on NL are planing to kill thier mother in-laws.... Oluwa gbami lowo won

you are right, well I will not blame them because they where never there wen she was struggling to feed him

Just treat them how ud want to be treated by ur daughter in-law.

The way I see myself sef

I go worry o as a mother- in- law

But why is there always strife between mother-in-law and daughter in law?

Women wahala sha

Ladies going into marriages always think their in-laws are their first problems.
Respect your in-laws, simple!
If you pray for your mother in-law to die, your daughter in-law will do same when youre in old age.

how to mk money please

Eventhough some in-laws are the second lieutenant of the devil but i feel u can win a large percentage with ur kindness ,love and subtle submisiveness,you dont display dat "helloo,who is this" type of attitude with ur in-law's family,MBANU,.............play ur own part so that even a stranger can vindicate u.husband are nt robots too,he'll help u .

opethom:
When 90% of girls on NL are planing to kill thier mother in-laws.... Oluwa gbami lowo won

Mothers in-law not the other way round