Hello nairalanders, i am in distress. I am clocking almost 35, i masturbate, still leave in my parents house and not married. The confusing thing is that i have a job thats pays me a 100k per month and i end up not knowing what i do with the funds. I spend on irrelevant things, at the end i become indebted to people.
All my friends are married with children or about marrying.
I have worked for this particular company for five to six years now and still, i have nothing to show for it. Am confused if i have offended anybody. I use this medium to ask for forgiveness for wrong doing against friends, love ones.
Please fellow nairalanders sincerely advice me on what to do next. ( SERIOUS CONTRIBUTIONS PLEASE)

Eyah, what is stopping you from getting married? I think if you set a goal for yourself you should be more purposeful in spending. As for masturbation, my only remedy is prayer and fasting

U can only overcome it by Gods mercy...


Where's lalasticlacla sef..

I just cant tell.

Pidgin2:
Eyah, what is stopping you from getting married?

Dre19:
I just cant tell.

Are you a Christian?

98% of guys masturbate. I will soon be the next Vaseline crew president.

Your problems doesn't come from masturbation, it is as a result of reckless spending!!

Be disciplined,

Be focused

Be determined.

Well, if you can't get a babe, continue masturbating than contacting HIV from all these Lagos girls...

Peace #

I have been prayerful of late

grayht:
U can only overcome it by Gods mercy...



Where's lalasticlacla sef..

I am

Pidgin2:


Are you a Christian?

Dre19:
I am

Go for deliverance

Dre19:
I have been prayerful of late

Its by Gods intervention... Even when u feel u av overcome such act, it only takes few more days for u to have the urge again! Only God can!

Plan your finances and stop looking for some spiritual cause of your present predicament. Rent an accommodation.

Bro,google, nairaland will not give you your answer.. It's only God bro.. I pray you, without going to meet anybody u cn get the answer u seek.. Go on a fast 3days... I trust God to answer you.. Jeremiah 33:3

I am grateful

yomi212:
Bro,google, nairaland will not give you your answer.. It's only God bro.. I pray you, without going to meet anybody u cn get the answer u seek.. Go on a fast 3days... I trust God to answer you.. Jeremiah 33:3

Thank you for your advice.

eph12:
Plan your finances and stop looking for some spiritual cause of your present predicament. Rent an accommodation.

When you don't have a goal that requires financial commitment you tend to be reckless with money.


Sincerely ask yourself :
Do I plan for the money before it comes?
How do I waste my money?
(girls, drinks, clubbing, compulsive spending etc)

Stop the blame game, take responsibility for yourself :
What is my financial goal?
What financially wasteful habit must I stop?
How do I become financially independent and stable?

Hi Dre19,
I can't. really add to what some posters have already said. Only God can deliver you. Like one poster said...you need to fast and pray. Some things only come through prayer & fasting.
You can overcome through Christ Jesus only.
Now one thing I'm learning as I contiue to "mature" is that you can't use other people as your time stick or measuring stick. If people would truly be honest, there is some sin(s) that they are struggling with. First be honest to admit it..which you did & begin the steps that you can to avoid situations that may trigger the need. I know you probably have societal pressure on you..but marrying for the sake of people will surely destroy you if you're nit ready....which you don't seem to be right now. Take this to God...be determined by His grace and strength to overcome!

Dre19:
Hello nairalanders, i am in distress. I am clocking almost 35, i masturbate, still leave in my parents house and not married. The confusing thing is that i have a job thats pays me a 100k per month and i end up not knowing what i do with the funds. I spend on irrelevant things, at the end i become indebted to people.
All my friends are married with children or about marrying.
I have worked for this particular company for five to six years now and still, i have nothing to show for it. Am confused if i have offended anybody. I use this medium to ask for forgiveness for wrong doing against friends, love ones.
Please fellow nairalanders sincerely advice me on what to do next. ( SERIOUS CONTRIBUTIONS PLEASE)

Stop spending ur money anyhow , plan ur spending n start saving ur money n move out . Dere's no reason y u can't b saving ur money cuz u r still living wit ur parents n have a good job U r in a better position than many people in Nigeria who r jobless . Find a hobby in place of masturbation . U r 35, u shud start look for a woman to get to know n marry . Once u r married ur masturbation should decrease

Thank you. Am so happy for this contribution[quaote author=aflyingbird post=51844602]

Stop spending ur money anyhow , plan ur spending n start saving ur money n move out . Dere's no reason y u can't b saving ur money cuz u r still living wit ur parents n have a good job U r in a better position than many people in Nigeria who r jobless . Find a hobby in place of masturbation . U r 35, u shud start look for a woman to get to know n marry . Once u r married ur masturbation should decrease [/quote]

Am so grateful. Thanks

MsLady39:
Hi Dre19,
I can't. really add to what some posters have already said. Only God can deliver you. Like one poster said...you need to fast and pray. Some things only come through prayer & fasting.
You can overcome through Christ Jesus only.
Now one thing I'm learning as I contiue to "mature" is that you can't use other people as your time stick or measuring stick. If people would truly be honest, there is some sin(s) that they are struggling with. First be honest to admit it..which you did & begin the steps that you can to avoid situations that may trigger the need. I know you probably have societal pressure on you..but marrying for the sake of people will surely destroy you if you're nit ready....which you don't seem to be right now. Take this to God...be determined by His grace and strength to overcome!

You need prayers

Dre19:
Am so grateful. Thanks

No problem...sorry didn't even address the financial part. You probably need to deal with the sexual sin first. Believe it or not, that could be affecting the financial challenges that you are having. Will keep you in my prayers..

aflyingbird:


Stop spending ur money anyhow , plan ur spending n start saving ur money n move out . Dere's no reason y u can't b saving ur money cuz u r still living wit ur parents n have a good job U r in a better position than many people in Nigeria who r jobless . Find a hobby in place of masturbation . U r 35, u shud start look for a woman to get to know n marry . Once u r married ur masturbation should decrease

Hi,
Marriage may not solve his problem if he has a
addiction. His wife can't satisfy his every desire whenever he gets the urge. People tend to take into marriage already developed addictions or
develop new addictions which can worsen the marriage. If he gets victory through Christ
beforehand, he can go into a marriage fresh.

MsLady39:




Hi,
Marriage may not solve his problem if he has a
addiction. His wife can't satisfy his every desire whenever he gets the urge. People tend to take into marriage already developed addictions or
develop new addictions which can worsen the marriage. If he gets victory through Christ
beforehand, he can go into a marriage fresh.

I disagree, he just need this at home

eph12:
Plan your finances and stop looking for some spiritual cause of your present predicament. Rent an accommodation.

Excellent advise.

Dre19:
I have been prayerful of late

Prayer alone won't take you anywhere.
start saving up for a decent accommodation.
You will stop being wasteful if you start paying your own bills and stop relying on your parents.
As per settling down, don't rush into it.
When you have gained control of your finances, your mind will naturally focus on seeking out your missingrib.

go get a wife bro

MsLady39:


Hi,
Marriage may not solve his problem if he has a
addiction. His wife can't satisfy his every desire whenever he gets the urge. People tend to take into marriage already developed addictions or
develop new addictions which can worsen the marriage. If he gets victory through Christ
beforehand, he can go into a marriage fresh.

Yeah , u r right

No one needs to pet you. you need tough love and it's your parents fault. Psychologically, you're still a teenager - that's why you spend on irrelevant things you can't account for, you have no savings, you still live with your parents, you still masturbate, you don't even pay any bills.

You stopped growing when you were 18.

Your parents need to kick you out of the house because yes, they have failed ( like seriously, are they not ashamed to have a 35 year old son living with them) and you on the other hand refused to train yourself.


silly boy!

please, forget marriage for now, there is nothing you can offer a woman on the guise of marriage, you'll only turn her to your maid.

MsLady39:



No problem...sorry didn't even address the financial part. You probably need to deal with the sexual sin first. Believe it or not, that could be affecting the financial challenges that you are having. Will keep you in my prayers..

if maturation was affecting his financial status trust me there would be alot of broke men. I just think he needs to curtail his spending and also invest more.

BiafranBushBoy:
98% of guys masturbate. I will soon be the next Vaseline crew president.

Your problems doesn't come from masturbation, it is as a result of reckless spending!!

Be disciplined,

Be focused

Be determined.

Well, if you can't get a babe, continue masturbating than contacting HIV from all these Lagos girls...

Peace #

Masturbation has a serious side effect which is essential to mention which is one Porn Induced erectile dysfunction when you can only get it up for porn and number two the worst one. Delayed ejaculation you can be having sex for hours and you won't come it's really annoying. Which is why I would advise people Masturbation aggressively or with porn material. You don't want to be having sex for hours

LOCATE THE LORDS CHOSEN

Thank you so much

uboma:




Prayer alone won't take you anywhere.
start saving up for a decent accommodation.
You will stop being wasteful if you start paying your own bills and stop relying on your parents.
As per settling down, don't rush into it.
When you have gained control of your finances, your mind will naturally focus on seeking out your missingrib.