Most theories of relationships focus on how intimate partners feel about each other, but according to John Gottman’s behavioral approach, you need to focus on outward signs to test the health of yours. This approach follows from the assumption that observable actions provide, in many cases, harder evidence about what’s going on inside a person than the inferences we make from what he or she says.


I’ve taken the liberty of translating Gottman’s theory, along with information from other supporting psychological research, into 11 clues you can use in your own daily life to gauge the depth of your lover's feelings:

1. They want to spend time with you. Wanting to invest time into your relationship is a key indicator of successful long-term intimacy, according to one recent theory. Although both of you may be tied up with work, family, and other commitments, someone who truly cares about you will use whatever time is left over to have some alone time together.

2. Asks about your day. During that time you spend together, does your partner ask about, and show interest in, the high and low points of your work day? Couples build their love for each other not necessarily on the ethereal, but on the practical supports that keep communication routes open.

3. Trusts you. Partners who truly care about you will give you the benefit of the doubt. Research shows that in successful long-term relationships, partners want to have a sense of knowing where their mates are at any given time. However, they don't have this wish because of worry that their partners might be up to something nefarious. A partner who doesn’t question where you are if you come home late or doesn’t snoop through your cell phone bills is showing the kind of trust that shows true caring.

4. Helps you when you need it. As busy as we all get, adding extra chores or duties to your day may be the last thing you feel like doing. However, if your partner is a technophobe, and you’re techno-savvy, you’ll help out when something goes wrong with your home Wi-Fi network. Similarly, if you absolutely need something from the drug store and are too sick to go there yourself, a partner who cares about you will run a rescue mission and get you that cold medicine.

5. Shows respect for your views. If recent research on complementarity in relationships is true, it’s possible for you and your partner to be on completely opposite poles of the political spectrum and still remain happy together for years. The key feature is not what your beliefs are, though, but how open you can be to accepting your partner’s perspective as valid. Let’s say you’re an ardent feminist and your partner holds pre-1970s views about women. If he truly cares about you, he’ll at least listen to you when you express concern about women’s status in the workplace.

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No point reading, ain't got lover

Aniker:
No point reading, ain't got lover

All liars shall

freesinzu:

All liars shall

don't get ya?

Aniker:
No point reading, ain't got lover

hw u go get wen u be shareful giver

Aniker:
don't get ya?

You told a lie

ojun50:

hw u go get wen u be shareful giver

what does that mean?

freesinzu:

You told a lie

Nah am dead serious

I'll always fault that number "3" anyday, anytime...Trust is earned!!!...if you want me to trust you, then you don't always give me reasons to always doubt you...imagine a lady who has more than 20 guys she claims to be "friends" with, she receives calls like a customer care agent and yet you want me to trust her 100%? which kain mumu trust be that?

Aniker:
what does that mean?

wen u get home show some1 d comment