TrapQueen77:




May I ask... Is palm wine an alcoholic drink?

Laveda:
Insecured men everywhere. why ask her to swearr when she has a conscience that will judge her when she eventually cheats?

That was just unnecessary.

klax:


Sorry in your culture creating is acceptable or a celebrating thing

Why did she went that far of arranging wedding when is not fully satisfy with flirting That is an act of coward. Last time bride ran out of her wedding venue for sighting a bloody runaway ghost called her fiancee. If you know in your heart you are not ready for marriage don't even talk about it talk less of planning it, executed it and on the final seal you turned it down doing such no man should take you serious ever it simply an act of coward.

tellwisdom:
Nigerian women abi??

BrutusOj:
When you don't know something, ask questions to be informed. it is not like the lady was asked to take an oath. just like the Christian wedding in the church normally have the part where both couple pledge fidelity to each other, some ethnic groups in Nigeria like Idoma(ogbadibos) in Benue, the esan in Edo... always ask the bride to take a kola nut and pledge her fidelity to her husband alone.Once the lady eat the kola, she is bound to her husband alone, if she go off her way and play any away match and the hubby isn't aware, she will face the consequences of the god of her hubby's people. And if the hubby is aware and doesn't act fast, OYO is his case, he is to face the wrath of the god of his people. Don't ask me why it is only the wife that is to remain faithful, cos we are talking about African tradition here which allows a man to have more than one wife, hence he own no one apology for going for another kpekus

bbmpin:
There are so many things that you need to take into consideration before judging her action!

How true is the story?(Nigerian bloggers create and inflate stories to drag traffic)

Is she "in"love with him?
Did she really want to marry him? (maybe she needed an excuse to walk away)

Then you also have to look at things "religiously"

Its very possible that she is a "devoted christian" and didn't want to commit herself to such fetish crap (very plausible)

Women are usually faithful in marriage naturally, doesn't make any sense at all for her to create doubts about her commitment to her fiance.

BiggyB242:

Is not insecurity, so many things are happening in this world today no one trust anybody 100%, shine you eye before you say " I thy know". Is to put her on check, guess she had plans of cheating. Girls now marry A because he is financially secured and still string B along cos he is fun to be with.

purple3091:
POINT 1:as one poster rightfully said this is simply about men being insecure [that just as he approaches other women his woman can be approached same] and jealousy[that a woman can easily get more intimacy partners than men]...therefore men created all sorts of myths about what would happen if she cheats among other terrible things created/done by men....POINT 2:i am idoma,did the kola tradition thing,do cheat on my husband and have for years,so nothing happens ,has happenned or will happen to me because like many african myths&traditions created by men,its a lie created to induce fear in woman!!!POINT 3: on the african tradition thing,if you are one of those believing in african traditions then please follow african tradition and discard all things un-african(like phones,modern clothes,internet,electricity,cars,books etc) or else you are a hypocrite and contradicting!do you agree?...the point about point 3 is if you claim to follow african tradition(s) then follow it all,dont pick & choose which parts to follow and which not to follow...

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ObiOmaMu:


.they gave the lady palm wine and told her to swear that she'll sleep with no other man but her husband.. babe no gree talk
And wedding was called off...
like a WEDDING..
and this did not happen in a movie.


Would you say this bride did the right thing?

http://www.lailasblog.com/2016/12/nigerian-wedding-bride-refused-swear-sleep-no-other-man.html

angelTI:
Why such swearing? What would be her fate if the guy dies or they divorce after the yeye swearing

angelTI:
Why such swearing? What would be her fate if the guy dies or they divorce after the yeye swearing

purple3091:
POINT 1:as one poster rightfully said this is simply about men being insecure [that just as he approaches other women his woman can be approached same] and jealousy[that a woman can easily get more intimacy partners than men]...therefore men created all sorts of myths about what would happen if she cheats among other terrible things created/done by men....POINT 2:i am idoma,did the kola tradition thing,do cheat on my husband and have for years,so nothing happens ,has happenned or will happen to me because like many african myths&traditions created by men,its a lie created to induce fear in woman!!!POINT 3: on the african tradition thing,if you are one of those believing in african traditions then please follow african tradition and discard all things un-african(like phones,modern clothes,internet,electricity,cars,books etc) or else you are a hypocrite and contradicting!do you agree?...the point about point 3 is if you claim to follow african tradition(s) then follow it all,dont pick & choose which parts to follow and which not to follow...

LoveDecay:


I need IPOB goat .....

checkengine:


The family and elders of that kindred know what to do if the man dies. If it's in the case of divorce, the bride price is returned, once that is done she is free to go her way.

In this part of the world, there is a notion that a man acquires a woman due to our method of contracting marriages where the groom is meant to bring several items, make certain payments, make merriment for all to come and witness and celebrate his new acquisition. It is ingrained in our culture. In that regards, the bride is expected to be loyal to the husband who just acquired and showed her off for all to see.

Hope I'm communication "In my teachers voice back in the days"

bbmpin:
There are so many things that you need to take into consideration before judging her action!

How true is the story?(Nigerian bloggers create and inflate stories to drag traffic)

Is she "in"love with him?
Did she really want to marry him? (maybe she needed an excuse to walk away)

Then you also have to look at things "religiously"

Its very possible that she is a "devoted christian" and didn't want to commit herself to such fetish crap (very plausible)

Women are usually faithful in marriage naturally, doesn't make any sense at all for her to create doubts about her commitment to her fiance.

meetmonde:
fear of the unknown, what if the hubby dies

TrapQueen77:



May I ask... Is palm wine an alcoholic drink?

1metre:
I totally disagree with u, I assume that her promiscuous life will be at stake if she takes the oath. To clear her conscience and protect herself and his man from embarrassment, she could hv suggest taking the said oath with her bible. Well I commend her action by walking away, other desperate ladies will take the oath, do the wedding, after a month...Bleep every available man