Stricker321:


You have not made any sense or addressed the issue being discussed. For crying out loud there are lots of married people on nairaland and reasonabe ones too.

bbmpin:
You are way too nice to her(for her to boldly present those terms), she will never have respect for you

You care way too much about what she thinks and she takes advantage of that; too late to fix any of that.

Men like you are responsible for emergence of "feminism"

You are supposed to be the head of your house-hold

You are the leader in your house, supposed to guide your wife!

Then there is also the possibility that she hates having sex with you (very plausible)

Take a deep breath and start living for yourself, I would not say to leave your wife or your family.

But give yourself time to think about about your opinions

Right now from your description, You are not enjoying your marriage ,You are bogged down.

It's very common, You are not alone.

fromnigeria:
Your wife.... and you run to nairaland for advice.
plsss go

fromnigeria:
Your wife.... and you run to nairaland for advice.
plsss go

bbmpin:
You are way too nice to her(for her to boldly present those terms), she will never have respect for you

You care way too much about what she thinks and she takes advantage of that; too late to fix any of that.

Men like you are responsible for emergence of "feminism"

You are supposed to be the head of your house-hold

You are the leader in your house, supposed to guide your wife!

Then there is also the possibility that she hates having sex with you (very plausible)

Take a deep breath and start living for yourself, I would not say to leave your wife or your family.

But give yourself time to think about about your opinions

Right now from your description, You are not enjoying your marriage ,You are bogged down.

It's very common, You are not alone.

Pidgin2:


This is very bad advice, OP you will be surprised that it is a secondary school student giving you advice. Nairaland is not the best place to seek counsel

Do you do anything in the house besides eat, sleep, watch TV and have endless sex? Your wife may be overburdened with house chores and she might be too tired to meet up to your demands.

Help her with domestic work or get someone to help her. Try and exercise self control, what if you have to travel away for a month, wouldn't you be able to hold yourself, is sex food, or does it sustain your breathing?

Stricker321:
I am so confused right now. My wife cannot cope with my demands in the bedroom.

She has asked me to select only two days in a week when we can have sex. I am so confused and worried right now because I don't want to go after other women.


I have tried all I can to ask her to take a second look at this decision because it does not work well for me at all but she has refused.


Anytime I try to approach her outside those two days she does not allow and I end up going to work frustrated the next day.


God help me.

cococandy:
[b]maybe he should stop being nice to her. That will turn her on faster and ensure she makes love to him every day. Or better still he should rape her. That way he wil establish himself as the alpha male of the house who gets whatever he wants when ever he wants it.
Reread your comment. Ode.


SmH

Stricker321:

You have said it all my brother. I am beginning to think she hates having sex with me like you said. If not for my Christian faith I tell you I would have married another woman now.
Christian men are really suffering because our wives know we cannot go outside and at the same time cannot divorce them.

Stricker321:


Even Jesus said that the guests shuld not mourn when the bridegroom is with them so when she travels should be another matter, then I will know she is not around and 'mourn' but when she is around, she should not starve me of sex.

I got someone living with us who does a whole lot of the domestic chores and I also help in doing the chores in whatever way I can. What else can I do??

Pidgin2:


There is always two sides to a story, you've said your part but we've not heard from her so how can we judge this matter fairly?

Two days a week is not too bad, make the most of it by making her want more. I don't see anything wrong with this, some men like you allow their wives to study elsewhere or to travel for months and some still remain faithful. What do you spend your spare time doing? Get busy, engage in positive hobbies, it seems your mind is always on sex, do you have a job?

Pidgin2:


This is very bad advice, OP you will be surprised that it is a secondary school student giving you advice. Nairaland is not the best place to seek counsel

Do you do anything in the house besides eat, sleep, watch TV and have endless sex? Your wife may be overburdened with house chores and she might be too tired to meet up to your demands.

Help her with domestic work or get someone to help her. Try and exercise self control, what if you have to travel away for a month, wouldn't you be able to hold yourself, is sex food, or does it sustain your breathing?

hernandson:
Dude aint doing it right. All u want to do is satisfy ur desire. Make her c¤m everytime and u wil c her looking 4 u upanddown

Stricker321:


You have said it all my brother. I am beginning to think she hates having sex with me like you said. If not for my Christian faith I tell you I would have married another woman now.

Christian men are really suffering because our wives know we cannot go outside and at the same time cannot divorce them.

cococandy:
She gives you twice a week. It's more than many married people get. Count your blessings and love on.

DarkRebel101:


So because the sex lives of some couples are below the threshold, he should be grateful because he's getting a beggarly morsel? That rings like settling for less.

You are asking him to forgo his rights to unlimited sexual relations to his wife and accept her demands simply because she cannot match his libido and is apathetic to his sexual unfulfillment? Sounds a lot to me like the woman is blackmailing him and allowing room for infidelity.

Which makes me wonder: would you remain unwavering in your stance had it been in inverse and were it the woman griping against the marginal sex she gets from her hubby?

cococandy:

Yes if he was giving her up to two times a week, I'd definitely discourage her from trying to get with another man.

Unfortunately that's not the case here. We are seeing blatant suggestions for him to commit adultery and y'all acting like it's cool.

When the typical advice for those women who their husbands haven't touched in years is

'pray, talk to him, red panties and black bra, talk to someone he listens to, loose weight blah blah bla'.

If she wasn't giving at all, then my post will be different. Different responses for different situations.

cococandy:
She gives you twice a week. It's more than many married people get. Count your blessings and love on. The only problem I have is with the rigidity of the plan. Sex should be spontaneous and fun.

If you like listen to fools telling you to discard her or marry another wife. YOUR LOSS. It's that simple.

All I see are hormonal boys advising you to ruin your marriage because of sex. not that your wife is a bad person or is abusive. You can go ahead and listen to them.

hammerT:
so far all the men here have not represented manhood well.

women that love sex more than men, tells u she only want sex on certain days and u think all is well in that marriage.

the young man either has no game or is a one minute guy that does not satisfy her in bed and outside the bed.

u need classes on how to hammer and get her addicted.

haba! if i dont hammer in one week, na "u are cheating on me dem go dey take sing song" until i hammer.

Damn right am cheating on u, "a booty came calling i had to put the hammer down."

young man, ur wife is not a sex object, u cannot just open her up and dump and then start sleeping. that is the message she is sending to u here.


Spend time with her, seduce her, take her out, charm her, play with her, buy her things, make her feel like a woman and make sure u hammer.

No woman will give me dates and walk away that day and minute without the violation of those terms of contract straight away.

i must to hammer.

OILSOUP:

WAT IF SHE WEARS THIS?

Stricker321:


I have talked to her many times but nothing has changed. I can only have her when I approach her on those two days in a week. Anything outside that only ends in frustration for me.