Every day, stories of husbands beating up their
wives mercilessly abound. They posit it's done to
put some real senses into their stubborn heads.
These shameless men also believed there can
never be two equal masters in the same house.
Sadly, these women had to endure these abusive
relationships, putting up with different forms of
domestic and physical abuses. Perhaps, these
women are in it because of their children, maybe
because they love the man or because they're
certain that someday, he'll change. Yet, nothing
improves; nothing changes.
There is this notions and misconceptions; this
backward and forward debates between the male
versus the female superiority complex: the gender
debate to put it more succinctly. There's also this
archaic belief that the male is supposed to be the
head of the home while the female is supposed to
be the neck.
Some shameless men had begun to abuse this
notions and misconceptions. They see it as an
opportunity to maltreat these poor and vulnerable
women. Unfortunately, a lot of them have ended up
in untimely graves.

Now, how do you spot a wife beater?
1. They've anger issues
When a man is always prone to outburst without
any justifiable cause, know that he'll raise his hand
(s) someday to hit you. Men are less emotional
beings than women so the only way they can
express themselves is through shouting or
throwing tantrums. Probably, these men have
issues that have piled up for months or years.
These issues could have forced its way to the
forefront when the nervous system couldn't tolerate
it any longer. It's like a balloon bursting to shred
when it has gotten to its limit. What should be
done? The men should be subjected to counseling
either from their Pastor Imams, or an experienced
psychiatrist.
2. They've inferiority complex
Any man who raises his hand to hit his wife is a
coward. He has an inferiority complex. No matter
what a woman does to you, you shouldn't make
her your punching bag. When a man can't take
advise from his wife, then something is amiss
somewhere. Some men always want to dominate.
3. When they avoid you like a plague
When a man is always avoiding you, know that all
isn't well. If you're the talking type who like to
bother him, please stop it. He might be going
through some emotional issues. Instead, inquire
from him why he's in such foul mood. Pamper him
like a baby, massage him gently and dig deeper
into the many reason(s) he's isolating himself.
Men are compassionate too. But if you go the
wrong way, you might provoke him to hit you.
Most of the issues bothering him might be from
the office environment, from traffic gridlocks, or
from crazy drivers.
4. He might be considering a divorce
The first sign you notice from him, apart from
isolating you is that a divorce matter could be
beclouding his sense of reasoning. Sometimes, he
doesn't eat the food you cook. He comes home
late at night and he's always on the phone 24/7
chatting with his girlfriends. Because he doesn't
know how to pass his issues across, the best he
could do is to either punch, slap or worse,
manhandle you.
5. You're not good in bed
Ladies, you see, we men love to explore. If you
don't give him what he wants, he'll avoid you and
look for somebody else who can satisfy him real
good. Some young girls who're adventurous will
give him what he wants. These little devils are
super-pro. Then he starts keeping late nights. He
starts spending the money meant for home on
these girls. Your children's school fees will remain
pending. Meanwhile, he's spending all the money
meant for house keep on his concubines
6. He's always intoxicated
When he starts getting drunk, something he
doesn't do before, please know that there's an
issue bothering him. He gets home, his shirt is
rumpled and stinking like a sewage tank. Eyes as
crimson as zobo drink. He has foul mouth odor.
Then you question him where he's coming from.
He gets provoked; slaps and abuses you. Perhaps,
something deep inside has been bothering him
which you fail to notice.
7. He's psychologically imbalance
Stress might be one of the reason he's hitting you.
The stress would've degenerated into something
beyond his control. He needs help ASAP. Let him
see a doctor (psychiatrist) who'll evaluate him
thoroughly and recommends the right therapy.
Although his ego wouldn't allow him to admit his
psychological challenges, you need to persuade
him. If he refuses, get the assistance of an elderly
person, probably his parents, uncle or aunt.
Anybody he respects a lot.
8. They don't admit their faults
Abusive men don't always admit their faults. They
feel they're always right. Therefore, they'll beat up
you when you try to correct their mistakes. Men
who're egoistic are very hard to bend and plead.
They don't respect women. They don't value their
wives warnings and advice. They see women as
trash who should be disposed as at when due.
Men who beat women to a pulp are in that
category. They're good men outside but terrible
husbands at home. Such men can do and undo.
9. They've friends just like them
Birds of the same feather flock together. This
expression might sound cliche, but that's the
perfect words I can use to describe men like that.
They congregate at a particular spot and discuss
anything under the skirts. These men are
womanizers. They've different sets, shades and
sizes of girlfriends.
10. They're ungodly
Men who beat their wives are ungodly. They don't
go to church on Sundays. They don't pray with
their families and they don't want to have anything
that has to do with the preaching of the gospel.
Anytime a man of God comes to share the words
of God, they've one form of excuses or the other to
give. These men don't have the fear of God in
them. It only takes the grace of God to pull such
men from the dark pit to His presence. They don't
respect women especially their wives. What women
with such husbands should do is continue to put
them in prayers. Commit them to His hands. Pray
and fast. With God all thing are possible.

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