HUSBAND SCARCITY
"Husband Scarcity" has
become one of the challenges faced by many
young girls today. If you go to prayer houses,
majority of the intentions are prayer for a life
partner. And this calls for concern. Casting our
minds back to the time of our mothers and
grandmothers, was there really much of a
"Husband Scarcity" problem? Or, maybe there were
more men than women then, or there was an
adequate corresponding numbers of both genders.
I don't think so. Maybe then, the women had
values and were prepared to build a home and not
park into a built home. Then, once a young man
comes of age and can at least feed himself and his
wife, he goes out in search of a wife and the
woman really appreciates him and helps him to
build a future. What am I really trying to say? We
created what we now see as "Husband Scarcity"
for ourselves. Today, the reverse is the case. Ask
an average girl to define her dream husband; you
get things like "he has to be tall, handsome, fair,
and rich, own a house at least, and be
presentable" and then she adds "God fearing" in
order not to sound so worldly. Then, check the
number of girls around you and the number of men
that meet that standard, and you will see the
problem. You hear girls say, "I cannot suffer in my
father's house and then go and start suffering with
a man." What a wonderful dream! What if from the
beginning, you have everything you want and there
is no suffering, and later in the marriage, the table
turns around, then comes suffering? Will you run
away? No one prays for suffering, but it is good to
start small and end big, than start big and end
small. The problem is that the description majority
of girls give of their ideal man is virtually the
same. When 50 girls want the same kind of man
and the man that fits what they want is just 1 man,
and the man can only pick one. Then, what
becomes of 49 others? They simply start
lamenting of "Husband Scarcity". Another irony of
our time is that it is hard, due to the face of our
economy to find a man who is of marriage age
who possesses all those things these ladies want,
legally (except those involved in Internet fraud);
even the number of those in Internet fraud is not
enough to match all those searching for already
made husbands. If you look around, majority of the
ladies of substance, of good value and virtue, who
are ready to build a home with a man who has
prospects, are married and not complaining of
husband scarcity. The easiest way to find a
husband now, is to change your view of who a
husband is. A husband is that man God made and
then saw that it may be hard for him to really
actualize his purpose for making him, without a
help mate and then made the woman and gave to
him, and he felt complete and fulfilled. MARRIAGE IS NOT A POVERTY ALLEVIATION PROGRAM*. it is a
mission of building the family of God here on
earth. For those who see marriage as a way out of
poverty, it is a way into bondage. Women are
HOME BUILDERS not HOME WARMERS... DON'T
CONFUSE A MAN'S PATH WITH HIS DESTINY.
Where he is today, may only be a route to where
God has destined him to be tomorrow. Another
truth is that YOU MAY BE THE ONLY FAST MEANS
TO THAT HIS DESTINATION. Join in alleviating
"husband scarcity". PICK UP THE RIGHT VALUES. I
am not saying that you should pick anyone that
comes your way and talks of marriage, not all men
are husband materials. What I am saying is that
you should stop setting your standard on material
acquisitions or physical appearances. Look beyond
the physical.
WHAT MAKES A MAN WHO HE IS, IS
NOT WHAT HE OWNS OR HOW HE LOOKS, IT IS
WHAT HE IS MADE UP OF. And that which he is
made of is, most times, not seen with the physical
eyes, only its effects can be seen. Marriage is a
permanent thing.

@Op how do you come about your findings of husband scarcity? And what made you think that real men(husbands) are scarce? The rate in which young eligible ladies are looking for husbands is the same rate applicable to the men folks.. So i would love if you get your assertions right.