I love sex, but if I had to choose between touching myself and letting my husband do it for me, more often than not, I'm going solo. After nearly 20 years of marriage, I have no reservations about owning what I want and how I want it in the bedroom, and doing it on my own when necessary. But owning this fact about myself was no easy feat.


My husband and I met when we were 16 and married two years later — so in the early days of our marriage, when we were both young and uninitiated in the ways of good sex, I masturbated in secret. It wasn't that our missionary-romance was bad; it just wasn't enough to get me there. I didn't want to hurt my husband's pride by telling him I never came during our sex sessions, and previous attempts to show him how to touch me left me with a bruised clitoris and him with a bruised ego, so I kept a lid on my sexual frustration. As soon as my husband would jump out of bed to clean himself in the bathroom, I would quickly and silently bring myself to orgasm.

A year into my covert masturbation operation, my husband surprised me by walking out of the bathroom too early, catching me pleasuring myself.

"What are you doing?" he asked.

On the brink of an orgasm, I tried to cover my tracks, but he knew. Through stilted breaths, I salvaged the moment by claiming I was simply still in the mood. He seemed puzzled but accepted my explanation. That Christmas, he gave me my first Love Machine. I accepted his gift with elation and the understanding that sexual satisfaction was my own responsibility.

Although we never spoke of it, I was convinced my husband knew I was unfulfilled. When I reached for the intimacy gadget as soon as he climaxed, he didn't protest. Instead, he tenderly kissed my breasts and allowed me to finish myself off, establishing what would become our sexual norm.

But our sex lives were on a loop, the same moves getting replayed over and over — and in autumn of the fifth year of our marriage, my husband and I separated. By then, we'd had two children in quick succession, and spent the majority of our time either fighting or too exhausted to touch one another. Sensing our demise was near, I foolishly reached for religion in the hopes it would fix us. It was kismet, then, when two Mormon missionaries knocked on our door with a message of salvation and eternal family bliss.

I gave everything I had to my spiritual conversion. Determined to follow a path that promised a happily ever after for my marriage, I threw my beloved Love Machine in the garbage the day of my baptism. Casting orgasms and Satan aside, I waited for God to make my relationship feel like heaven on earth. Not surprisingly, that moment never arrived. A few months later, we filed for legal separation and I moved a state away with the kids for a fresh start.

In my new apartment, I flipped God the middle finger by masturbating my heart out once the kids were asleep. Those orgasms were some of the best I'd ever had. I formally ended my relationship with religion not long after, preferring the sweet release of sexual fulfillment, even if it meant eternal damnation. Continue http://datingelationship..com.ng/2017/01/why-women-prefer-masturbating-over.html

Lovers of pleasure, u clearly said u chose Orgasm over Eternal Damnation...Just Negodu

Because alot of men cannot be bothered to learn how to please their wives in the bedroom.

tracyfemmmm:
Because alot of men cannot be bothered to learn how to please their wives in the bedroom.

because a lot of women pretend and are not even bold to admit what they want in d bedroom.....

Sister fear God oh. Imagine fulfilling your sexuality fantasies while battling with pu**y cancer or raising ur Middle finger while suffering from a terminal stroke. Pls pray to God for forgiveness.

Don't take offense, but sometimes we know what to do and when to do it cause we can feel the reactions to our bodies while we're doing it. Everytime can be a different sensitivity.. so we have to be harder or softer.. whatever it is.. we just feel it inside.

Your marriage shouldn't be in trouble because he doesn't give you the attention you need. It is in trouble because you haven't told him what you need. Talk to him. Everyone has different sexual needs.

You can't make him perform because you need. When you get the urge, make him want it too. Be coy, be sexy, drive him crazy in a good way. Wear sexy things, make hints and once you've done that ask him if you could get a little lovin'. Very important that you talk to him about your feelings, though, . And men need to understand that bringing a woman to climax is highly important to keep it afloat.

lekebanks:
Sister fear God oh. Imagine fulfilling your sexuality fantasies while battling with pu**y cancer or raising ur Middle finger while suffering from a terminal stroke. Pls pray to God for forgiveness.

Who is this one now

So because she masturbates, shes open to pussy cancer...

Dem dey do you from village o.....i swear

To say the truth, communication would have stopped most sexual frustrations and divorces.
U hv unmatched sex drive with ur man, what u would hv done z to talk to him, teach him how to please u. I simply don't know why most women prefer to die in silent, u say u don't hold any reservations when it comes to pleasing urself sexually, but it seems that u lacked the courage to explain to him, probably Bc u don't want to put his ego down or fear of being labeled a pervert, bc our African society hv made it to appear as if women re asexual beings, and if any woman tries to express her sexual orientation verbally or by actions, she will be called names like LovePeddler, slut, hoe etc.
Talking it out would have saved ur marriage.
To be frank, the act of love making z never taught in schools or any religious institutions. And most people battle with the acts on their own, and that's why most men hv watched porn in their lives to learn one or two things on how to satisfy a woman. Some people thought that the act of love making z penetrating d p$$$y until u ejaculates, but unfortunately that may bring a man to orgasm but not a woman, women's Anatomy and physiology re more complicated than that of a man, and need much manipulations and stimulations to enable them reach an orgasm.
But thank God for the existence of internet, it hv taught us much.
And even if u resort to using toys to satisfy urself, u can't compare it with the feelings and satisfactions u will get from a loving partner, never!, bc after using the toy u end up feeling empty, with no one to kiss and cuddle.
U surely can't masturbate to orgasm without fantasising on real life partner, absolutely impossible!

fool...atheistic basttardd

OPabeg which film be this? Abi na novel?
So much for orgasm

every body likes self masturbation

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shegxi:
because a lot of women pretend and are not even bold to admit what they want in d bedroom.....

Because men and society have given them reason to believe that acknowledging their sexuality is bad.

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Did I ask you to give a Bleep? If you did not you could have easily moved past my comment.

Maybe the Husband is not the pussy sucking type.
Eat pussy and see ur woman's body quake with ectasy.
Try it!!!

tracyfemmmm:

Because men and society have given them reason to believe that acknowledging their sexuality is bad.

this is not an excuse......women have brains and can make their own decision I believe.

someone help with the summarised version of the catchy subject. read too much sh*t yesterday.

Who promotes this lie mastrbation is a sin?

It is only sin to lust for sex not to enjoy it.

These dirty damn Christians who engage in sodomy, pedophilia, adultery and sleeping with anybody are the ones preaching morals. Mastrbation is not a sin. And another lie is that all sins are equal. Mastrbation is not equal to sodomy, rape and murder in terms of self and societal consequences. This woman could have kept mastrbating and her marriage would have been saved instead she followed the ways of evil Christians. Christians do not live the life they preach. They do not abstain from sex just normal sex. Christianity will destroy the morals and values of any society with their Jesus forgives all hypocrisy.

Ase

Love Sango

Whoever you are that wrote this. Hear me, you must be mad. You flipped your small God the middle finger, certainly not our God

Whoever you are that wrote this. Hear me, you must be mad. You flipped your small god the middle finger, certainly not our God

Whoever you are that wrote this. Hear me, you must be mad. You flipped your small god the middle finger, certainly not our God