mylove4him:

Most people of such personality as the wife will never try marriage counseling cos they feel at peace with what they do. If the hubby had always been the one doing everything to keep the marriage she wouldn't want to leave the comfort of that space.

I have repeated severally some people don't have businesses getting married. If you have so much pride and ego. Stay out of marriages. Those two have ruin marriages more than infidelity itself.

BiafranBushBoy:
Op.. are you married?

I guess No... and you are giving advice to married people. .. As if marriage is a course we learn at school or a skill.

E no get wetin person no go use eyes see



#BUSH

NairalandDSS:
Most people get married in the hope of finding a partner with whom they can share anything and everything. Many hope to find their best friends in their life partners. Many get married thinking that they will never be lonely again, especially if you marry late in life.But, it is an unfortunate truth that many people do not find what they seek in their marriage. Many are left unsatisfied and lonely as their partner fails to understand them. This usually happens if you have a workaholic partner or if they were forced into marriage with you. Other times, your partner may not be aware that you are feeling lonely in the relationship.

Whatever be the case, it is not wise to simply throw in the towel and call it quits before trying to deal with the problem. In fact, loneliness in relationships can have devastating effects on you. You might tend to perceive others as less caring and affectionate than they really are. Here are some ways to deal with loneliness in marriage.

Ways to deal with loneliness in marriage are:

1.Take the initiative: In order to know how to cope with loneliness in marriage, you need to take the initiative and take down the walls you have built around yourself. Encourage your partner to do so as well.

2.Shared experience: The key to how to cope with loneliness in a marriage is to have shared experiences. This can be something mundane like taking the dog for a walk or going to the supermarket for a shopping.

3.Stand in their shoes: When the situation comes and you feel that your partner is neglecting you, try to understand their behaviour from his/her point of view. It may not be about you at all, he might simply be frustrated from work.

4.Do not blame yourself: In order to know how to cope with loneliness in a marriage, you need to stop blaming yourself. It is also a good idea to refrain from blaming your partner. Instead, work on constructive ideas to solve the issue.

5.Go on a date: A return to the times of your courtship is a good idea when you want to know how to deal with feeling lonely in a marriage. Go on a date at least once in every month and reconnect with your partner.

6.Be communicative: Open and honest communication is key in learning how to deal with feeling lonely in a marriage. When you start talking with each other, even trivial things, you pave the way to getting rid of loneliness.

7.A good listener: What is more important when talking to your partner is listening to him. While you learn how to deal with feeling lonely in a marriage, you realise that not everything is about you. Be an attentive listener to your spouse.

8.A time for each other: In order to know how to deal with feeling lonely in a marriage, set aside at least an hour each day to spend with your spouse. Leave the worries and responsibilities of your life aside and devote this time only for your spouse.

These are the ways to deal with loneliness in marriage.

http://www.jeloser.info/2017/01/how-to-deal-with-loneliness-in-marriage.html


mynd44 lalasticlala

hotspec:
OP, what u copied only work in theory, which @|$0 made me conclude dt ure still single. In practice, nothing u wrote works. Once d marriage starts falling apart, little could be done..Moreso, there are things that happened that.leads to u isolating ur spouse, most of which u cant help.

E.g, My friend's wife is too heady and bossy and because she can cater for herself, finds it impossible to say sorry for any wrong she does. Rather she hibernates and stop giving him attention.for as long as she wants to punish my friend. Now, after sevral attempts to save d situation continuously hit d rock, my friend is.moving on with his life, though they still live together but nothing conjugal btw them again.

davidif:


and who said you must be married to give good advice?

NairalandDSS:
Most people get married in the hope of finding a partner with whom they can share anything and everything. Many hope to find their best friends in their life partners. Many get married thinking that they will never be lonely again, especially if you marry late in life.But, it is an unfortunate truth that many people do not find what they seek in their marriage. Many are left unsatisfied and lonely as their partner fails to understand them. This usually happens if you have a workaholic partner or if they were forced into marriage with you. Other times, your partner may not be aware that you are feeling lonely in the relationship.

Whatever be the case, it is not wise to simply throw in the towel and call it quits before trying to deal with the problem. In fact, loneliness in relationships can have devastating effects on you. You might tend to perceive others as less caring and affectionate than they really are. Here are some ways to deal with loneliness in marriage.

Ways to deal with loneliness in marriage are:

1.Take the initiative: In order to know how to cope with loneliness in marriage, you need to take the initiative and take down the walls you have built around yourself. Encourage your partner to do so as well.

2.Shared experience: The key to how to cope with loneliness in a marriage is to have shared experiences. This can be something mundane like taking the dog for a walk or going to the supermarket for a shopping.

3.Stand in their shoes: When the situation comes and you feel that your partner is neglecting you, try to understand their behaviour from his/her point of view. It may not be about you at all, he might simply be frustrated from work.

4.Do not blame yourself: In order to know how to cope with loneliness in a marriage, you need to stop blaming yourself. It is also a good idea to refrain from blaming your partner. Instead, work on constructive ideas to solve the issue.

5.Go on a date: A return to the times of your courtship is a good idea when you want to know how to deal with feeling lonely in a marriage. Go on a date at least once in every month and reconnect with your partner.

6.Be communicative: Open and honest communication is key in learning how to deal with feeling lonely in a marriage. When you start talking with each other, even trivial things, you pave the way to getting rid of loneliness.

7.A good listener: What is more important when talking to your partner is listening to him. While you learn how to deal with feeling lonely in a marriage, you realise that not everything is about you. Be an attentive listener to your spouse.

8.A time for each other: In order to know how to deal with feeling lonely in a marriage, set aside at least an hour each day to spend with your spouse. Leave the worries and responsibilities of your life aside and devote this time only for your spouse.

These are the ways to deal with loneliness in marriage.

http://www.jeloser.info/2017/01/how-to-deal-with-loneliness-in-marriage.html


mynd44 lalasticlala

Dominiquez:
I married my best friend and i am not feeling lonely.

Dominiquez:
I married my best friend and i am not feeling lonely.

Mayflowa:



This is a very wise comment. True, some partners in marriage deliberately set out to frustrate their spouse. They won't seek divorce yet they don't wanna mend fences with their better half.

This selfish and devilish. Like you said, such people don't have business marrying!

extwoo:
So people get lonely in marriage

Mayflowa:


Does the wife wanted the marriage saved but doesn't know how. The couple should see a marriage counselor. People are surprisingly oblivious of their role as a spouse in marriages. Counselor helps to bare out anger, douse tension and direct a feasible path for the couple.

hotspec:
Ure still speaking from theory. No two events in marriages are d same. Even marriage counselors are also learning on d job as most of them also have problems with their marriage that cannot be managed. Besides, how many MC do we have in 9ja and ao many visits them?

vitalisdiho:
Good beginnings make good endings

Mayflowa:



This is a very wise comment. True, some partners in marriage deliberately set out to frustrate their spouse. They won't seek divorce yet they don't wanna mend fences with their better half.

This selfish and devilish. Like you said, such people don't have business marrying!

Chiebunigom:


Very nice comment you got there. Some spouses are intentionally out to frustrate their partners, they neither want to work on their marriage nor seek for divorce as you said.
When I opened the post I thought I would be reading on suggestions on how to cope with the loneliness when those two you mentioned above (mending fences or divorce) become farfetched, but unfortunately was disappointed!
The OP should remember that a person's best friend could turn out to become his/her worst enemy someday, so marrying your friend like some people usually suggest, is not a guarantee to a happily ever after married life.
Let us know what do to curb this loneliness in marriage not on how to turn around the situation in the event that the options I mentioned earlier are out of it.

Can someone please? Anyone?

FlirtyKaren:


i loooove your name Chiebunigom

NairalandDSS:



hmmm