People will see a man washing his clothes and instead of minding their business, they'll say "Ahh Oga Ejike, go and marry so you'll stop washing".

They'll see a man cooking and be like "Bro Ade, you need to get married so you can stop cooking".

A mother will look at his 35years old son who cannot wash his own boxers, boil water for tea or even make his own bed, a 35years old that cannot take his plates to the kitchen after eating and tell him "James, you need to settle down, get a woman to take care of you". SERIOUSLY??

In different ways, the society subconsciously tell men that they don't marry women for any reason other than cleaning, cooking and childbearing. I begin to wonder, does the average man need a wife or a glorified maid?

Many women look 3times their age all because of stress and exhaustion. You sit down in front of the TV with your phone and watch your wife work until she's about to pass out. REALLY??

Men, who told you that it is wrong to wash your own plates?

Who told you that it is wrong to wash your own clothes?

Who told you that it is wrong to dress your bed when you wake up?

What will it take to help your partner with chores in the house?

If a man wanted to be adopted as a child to be pet, pampered, fed and nursed. Then, he need not to seek marriage, he should rather offer himself up for an adoption at a motherless home to be picked up.

BUT If you want a wife, who you would love, cherish, do different things with, assist in some chores, and love her for the rest of your life, then get married.

AND if you are getting married because you feel you're becoming too old to do your own chores then get a maid.

Women are to be cherished, pampered and loved, not USED. Likewise men too

MTCHEEWWWW!

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Iffa touch u eh

Like this is something new?

i sometimes wonder y some women are desperate to get married self

Here

Everybody wants to b marriage counsellor

[b] I see!

There is something called "Traditional Gender Roles" go and read about it

Any system that isn't done with proper management will fail hence the need for people to work/assist in relationships "based" on their strengths

Its sad that "Gender Role" are abused but your carriage is "Largely" to blame not the person who subjects you to such abuse

If you have made it clear (subtle manner) that you won't accept such treatment men will desist from it but African women prefer to maintain "Mental Reservations" on issues like this than to air out their thoughts

Role of a man(marriage/relationship) is to provide, protect and guide
Role of a woman(marriage/relationship) is to support, counsel and comfort

Traditionally certain things are reserved for certain genders but since the birth of feminism Women have tried to question everything which am sure led to this post of yours

If you don't like the duties that are designated to you in your relationship (love and family), Make your stance known but..... expect "obvious" Bite Backs. [/b]

As far as am consigned this issue is very simple. If you want your man to be washing his clothes and doing everything u listed be ready to share the financial burden of the family 50/50 with him. If not then kindly your house duties as well

tiny23. I agree with you. Marriage is very much twisted. Marriage is meant to be about COMPANIONSHIP powered by COMPASSION.

Thats the programming the society gets. Tiny23.

Sherry Agrov in her best seller, WHY MEN MARRY BITCHES, wrote:

" When I polled men, they said CONFIDENT WOMEN are in short supply. And that a confident woman is what they find sexiest. Is it any wonder that CONFIDENT WOMEN are hard to come by? LOOK AROUND YOU. "



SO, WHAT IS TRENDY?

(She continues) "The average fashion magazine tells women to act like a servant, as if dating were a labor-intensive, blue collar job application: 'Can you serve a cold beer in TRASHY LINGERIE? .....Do you wear CELLOPHANE for him? Are you gardening in STILETTOS? ARE YOU GIVING IT UP DOGGIE-STYLE? If so, he'll drop to one knee and propose...WHAT WOMEN ARE LEARNING FROM ALL OF THIS IS HOW TO BEHAVE DESPERATELY. When her attitude is "PICK ME, PICK ME!". She hits the kill switch on his desire. It's human nature. You'd be just turned off by a guy who brought two dozen roses on the first coffee date and told you he felt like the luckiest SOB on the planet in the first five minutes".

"HERE TAKE MY BODY. And I made you a cake. Please be nice. Please marry me. I WILL EVEN JACK MY BUTT UP NICE AND HIGH LIKE THEY DO IN YOGA. Its comfortable being upside down. Really, I JUST LOVE IT".

"JUST BECAUSE A MAN SLEEPS WITH YOU DOESN'T MEAN HE'S THINKING ABOUT THE FUTURE. FOR HIM TO THINK FOREVER, THERE MUST BE SOMETHING HE RESPECTS WITHIN YOU. LIKE A STRONG WIT....AND A STRONG MIND". Says Sherry Agrov.



This may interest you to read: www.nairaland.com/3778784/dont-blame-men-treat-kind

dingbang:
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Iffa touch u eh

If you weren't so busy being indignant, you would have noticed that the OP said men should be pampered, loved, and cherished too. Mumu.

OP, I agree with you. Marriage is a partnership where both people need to invest and sacrifice for that union. But both men and women are too focused on what they can get out of it without putting too much in. Unfortunately, because Nigeria is a patriarchal society, women suffer the most inequality and men benefit the most so of course their resistant to the change.

Tiny23:
People will see a man washing his clothes and instead of minding their business, they'll say "Ahh Oga Ejike, go and marry so you'll stop washing".

They'll see a man cooking and be like "Bro Ade, you need to get married so you can stop cooking".

A mother will look at his 35years old son who cannot wash his own boxers, boil water for tea or even make his own bed, a 35years old that cannot take his plates to the kitchen after eating and tell him "James, you need to settle down, get a woman to take care of you". SERIOUSLY??

In different ways, the society subconsciously tell men that they don't marry women for any reason other than cleaning, cooking and childbearing. I begin to wonder, does the average man need a wife or a glorified maid?

Many women look 3times their age all because of stress and exhaustion. You sit down in front of the TV with your phone and watch your wife work until she's about to pass out. REALLY??

Men, who told you that it is wrong to wash your own plates?

Who told you that it is wrong to wash your own clothes?

Who told you that it is wrong to dress your bed when you wake up?

What will it take to help your partner with chores in the house?

If a man wanted to be adopted as a child to be pet, pampered, fed and nursed. Then, he need not to seek marriage, he should rather offer himself up for an adoption at a motherless home to be picked up.

BUT If you want a wife, who you would love, cherish, do different things with, assist in some chores, and love her for the rest of your life, then get married.

AND if you are getting married because you feel you're becoming too old to do your own chores then get a maid.

Women are to be cherished, pampered and loved, not USED. Likewise men too

Man, it's all about parenting. How you raise your kids especially the male child matters a lot.

Great post by the way.

dingbang:
Well done op.. Well done...marriage is now all about women... Welldon


Why don't u ladies help us in washing our cars


Why don't u ladies help us in changing the flat tyre



Why don't u ladies help us in fixing house hold mechanical / electrical issues



Iffa touch u eh

As if a lot of Nigerian men can do all what you said.