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Re: My Man Thinks That The Money He Earns Is His And Not Ours by cococandy(f): 8:05pm On Jan 22, 2017 |
People still take this 'men are providers' BS literally? Not really. It's only on the internet. In real life it's only a matter of time before you're required to bring home the bacon too. 4 Likes |
Re: My Man Thinks That The Money He Earns Is His And Not Ours by Nobody: 8:13pm On Jan 22, 2017 |
pcguru1:More threads need you.. |
Re: My Man Thinks That The Money He Earns Is His And Not Ours by Nobody: 8:27pm On Jan 22, 2017 |
TrapQueen77:WOMEN you are a blessing. |
Re: My Man Thinks That The Money He Earns Is His And Not Ours by Nobody: 8:57pm On Jan 22, 2017 |
ahnie: ahnie:[quote author=ahnie post=53026642] Womanhood is a blessing. |
Re: My Man Thinks That The Money He Earns Is His And Not Ours by pocohantas(f): 9:42pm On Jan 22, 2017 |
Lalasticlala what do you have to say? |
Re: My Man Thinks That The Money He Earns Is His And Not Ours by freecocoa(f): 10:00pm On Jan 22, 2017 |
airminem:That's gotta hurt but OP, he may not have meant it the way you think, trust me. You should get a job, not even because of what he said but because it's the wise thing to do. There's a sense of security that comes with "your own money". The fact that two become one in marriage, doesn't mean you are no longer two individuals. He can get mad and say something, you don't expect, doesn't have to mean the end of the world. I also get the feeling that, you can't help but point out how staying at home has been a huge deal, cos you are caring for the family, if that's the case, then I can understand why the man may be a tad bit irritated. Well, my sister, it's not easy being a mum/keeping a home but, it is what you signed up for, doing it should be wholehearted, with no expectations of being praised, just like no one's watching. Ofcourse we all like to be appreciated, but that's not something you demand, especially not for doing what you ought to do. Your husband is just cranky, more so, given the present economy, just bear with him. Instead of getting angry or staying hurt, try and have a heart to heart with him, remind him you aren't lazy and why he chose to be married to you in the first place, don't just stay whinning, people with 3 months old kids work, get a nanny or enroll the kid in a creche, it's something you can do, a woman can have it all. 5 Likes |
Re: My Man Thinks That The Money He Earns Is His And Not Ours by airminem(f): 10:46pm On Jan 22, 2017 |
I Appreciate Okay |
Re: My Man Thinks That The Money He Earns Is His And Not Ours by Nobody: 7:36am On Jan 23, 2017 |
Rock01: |
Re: My Man Thinks That The Money He Earns Is His And Not Ours by HIGHESTPOPORI(m): 10:15am On Jan 23, 2017 |
cococandy:Atleast u didn't blame d man dis time around 1 Like |
Re: My Man Thinks That The Money He Earns Is His And Not Ours by HIGHESTPOPORI(m): 10:16am On Jan 23, 2017 |
freecocoa:Cocoa don dey change o,can't beleive u didn't blame d man 1 Like |
Re: My Man Thinks That The Money He Earns Is His And Not Ours by freecocoa(f): 10:52am On Jan 23, 2017 |
HIGHESTPOPORI:Meaning wetin? I've always tried to be rational. Take your time o. |
Re: My Man Thinks That The Money He Earns Is His And Not Ours by airminem(f): 12:23am On Jan 24, 2017 |
freecocoa: easy pls |
Re: My Man Thinks That The Money He Earns Is His And Not Ours by Nobody: 10:36pm On Jan 28, 2017 |
Re: My Man Thinks That The Money He Earns Is His And Not Ours by Enemyofpeace: 10:38pm On Jan 28, 2017 |
Truth hurts |
Re: My Man Thinks That The Money He Earns Is His And Not Ours by Nobody: 10:39pm On Jan 28, 2017 |
I think you deserve some sort of allowance monthly regardless. 1 Like |
Re: My Man Thinks That The Money He Earns Is His And Not Ours by columbus007(m): 10:41pm On Jan 28, 2017 |
Women and money |
Re: My Man Thinks That The Money He Earns Is His And Not Ours by soberdrunk(m): 10:42pm On Jan 28, 2017 |
If not that i dont like spoiling peoples homes, i will have said it seems a side-chic has entered the picture..... 1 Like |
Re: My Man Thinks That The Money He Earns Is His And Not Ours by africandollar: 10:42pm On Jan 28, 2017 |
Ma'am you should have a heart-to-heart talk with your man over this matter instead of asking for advice on Nairaland- a forum where majority are not even married talk less of having kids. Most troubles that break up marriages are financial in nature and the best way to overcome such is through communication. If your man really loves you then he would be willing to listen to your own side of the argument rather than remain obstinate. Have you let him know how you feel when he makes such statements? Have you sat down to actually review how much you guys are spending from your budget? If you can't talk about such issues with your man then I wonder why you are both together in the first place? 5 Likes |
Re: My Man Thinks That The Money He Earns Is His And Not Ours by Akinaukwa: 10:44pm On Jan 28, 2017 |
Dont mind him, na unu get the money together jare! But try get a job. |
Re: My Man Thinks That The Money He Earns Is His And Not Ours by Phi001(m): 10:44pm On Jan 28, 2017 |
cne010:The question is do the family monthly expenses give room for such luxury? That English is doing me somehow... |
Re: My Man Thinks That The Money He Earns Is His And Not Ours by Nobody: 10:45pm On Jan 28, 2017 |
Hmmmm |
Re: My Man Thinks That The Money He Earns Is His And Not Ours by idupaul: 10:46pm On Jan 28, 2017 |
Too much suffering inside most marriages i tell u |
Re: My Man Thinks That The Money He Earns Is His And Not Ours by claremont(m): 10:48pm On Jan 28, 2017 |
@OP: This depends on the country you live in. If you live in Nigeria, I understand the frustration of your husband who believes you are simply a child-bearing scrounger with no value to add besides raising kids. If you live in the UK, the government pays a child benefit stipend which you can use to take care of your basic expenses, your husband wouldn't feel the pressure as much. The money he earns is for the family, but I understand his frustration in being the sole breadwinner. |
Re: My Man Thinks That The Money He Earns Is His And Not Ours by blkmum700: 10:53pm On Jan 28, 2017 |
PaperLace: Wait wait wait,do you sell food at airport hotel in Ikeja, the pic on your profile look like that of airport hotel,I go like eat that fish Ooo. |
Re: My Man Thinks That The Money He Earns Is His And Not Ours by soath(m): 10:55pm On Jan 28, 2017 |
airminem:Don't blame your man. While you wait there are things you can venture into that won't take your time. Good night. |
Re: My Man Thinks That The Money He Earns Is His And Not Ours by tillaman(m): 10:55pm On Jan 28, 2017 |
Then weneva he comes crawling to u at night tryna remove ur wrapper to log in. Tell him it's ur kpekus not ours 5 Likes |
Re: My Man Thinks That The Money He Earns Is His And Not Ours by claremont(m): 10:56pm On Jan 28, 2017 |
PaperLace: Where in Nigeria is the restaurant on your profile please?! |
Re: My Man Thinks That The Money He Earns Is His And Not Ours by Olufemiolaolu(m): 11:03pm On Jan 28, 2017 |
airminem:u just need 2 get a job 2 add value 2 ur family. Sitting @ home ll make u rusty. Bothering him 4 money 4 ur personal things isn't OK. |
Re: My Man Thinks That The Money He Earns Is His And Not Ours by Izen: 11:03pm On Jan 28, 2017 |
Joavid: That's the most insensitive thing I've heard anyone say. "No body begged you to be a husband, no body begged you to be a father so stop complaining about money!" now how does that sound? 4 Likes |
Re: My Man Thinks That The Money He Earns Is His And Not Ours by Ezedon(m): 11:04pm On Jan 28, 2017 |
You can also make your own money even at home |
Re: My Man Thinks That The Money He Earns Is His And Not Ours by EAZY2422(m): 11:05pm On Jan 28, 2017 |
ma'am,u've been given enough advice nd creative ways u could earn extra cash to support your hubby already.pls u don't have to start thinking other wise about reasons why your husband started acting d way he does.cos i know hw d female mind works.d economy is nt smilling on anyone at d moment not even d rich.they're even trying to curtail thier mode of spending this dayz.so jst choose a more reasonable path through which u can assist ur husband,cos its rilly not funny anymore.and for me i feel u shuld take d option of organizing a post school lesson for d pupils around ur environs,it will balance up ur home chores ur son nd consequently give u time to rest aswell....jst try to understand d rationale behind ur husbands recent act.no man is happy when he's working nd not seeing d achievements he thinks he shuld hav gotten at a particular time frame.God bless ur home ma'am. 1 Like |
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