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Re: I Feel My Father -in -law Is Trying To Control Me by vislabraye(m): 4:56am On Mar 25, 2017 |
realmey: How was his tone when he asked you to visit ? Did he sound bossy or domineering ? Your conclusion might be wrong. |
Re: I Feel My Father -in -law Is Trying To Control Me by mannycrown: 5:22am On Mar 25, 2017 |
@realmey what your father inlaw said is not out of place when there's a cordial father inlaw son inlaw relationship. All i see is an old man who loves you and the way you're marrying his daughter! Mine travels a lot but whenever he calls, always for a neccessary reason, he always complains about same thing -that i dont call / visit but each time i always assure him its always on my mind but procrastination, cos i neither call nor visit except when necessary. So be yourself bro, do as you fit do and don't take his wishes personal, he's not trying to control you. He just loves you! |
Re: I Feel My Father -in -law Is Trying To Control Me by talisman35(m): 5:40am On Mar 25, 2017 |
You father in law is your family,why do have believe he want to control you,asking for money or what ,he is more or less your father no matter what happen you better erase that thought in your mind,be close to him,i don't know this your in-law but you will gain alot .You need him more than he needs you. |
Re: I Feel My Father -in -law Is Trying To Control Me by TellMeTheTruth(m): 6:31am On Mar 25, 2017 |
Ioannes: Are you for real? |
Re: I Feel My Father -in -law Is Trying To Control Me by adecares(f): 7:11am On Mar 25, 2017 |
Your father-in-law is not as rich as Dangote that's why you don't want to be close to him. |
Re: I Feel My Father -in -law Is Trying To Control Me by Snowpikin: 7:11am On Mar 25, 2017 |
Na wa oo Thats why i hate african marriages.. Oyibo inlaws no get time for all that rubbish.. Infact an oyibo mother or father inlaw would like to call u before they visit u. They dnt give orders as to how ur home should be run. They give u space to enjoy ur marriage. They dnt pressure u into doing anythin for them. But once u marry a black person u don marry d whole family wahala |
Re: I Feel My Father -in -law Is Trying To Control Me by Nweike1: 7:28am On Mar 25, 2017 |
You are 100% right. He is trying to control you. Do you visit your own father every week? |
Re: I Feel My Father -in -law Is Trying To Control Me by KardinalZik(m): 7:29am On Mar 25, 2017 |
I will comment when you make the question clearer. I still wanna know the "certain conversation" you had with him. Opinions must not be totally far away from that certain conversation |
Re: I Feel My Father -in -law Is Trying To Control Me by Tonero231: 7:29am On Mar 25, 2017 |
[quote author=realmey post=54388633]Hello NL I visited my father-in-law sometime in January this year We had certain conversation that included him asking me to visit him either on a weekly or monthly basis Hmmmm,it didn't go down well with me,though i said nothing so it does not look as if i'm disrespectful. I made up my mind it was not going to be possible as ordinarily i felt he was trying to control me;i didn't bother visiting in February as i already decided to visit at my convenience. I really don't know if i am wrong,pls ur sincere advice I think he only wants to be close to you |
Re: I Feel My Father -in -law Is Trying To Control Me by Nweike1: 7:43am On Mar 25, 2017 |
Richy4:How often does he visit his own mother? |
Re: I Feel My Father -in -law Is Trying To Control Me by femi4: 7:48am On Mar 25, 2017 |
realmey:You are correct..... Visit him monthly for what? Abeg don't be too close to your in laws else you ll loose your dignity and respect. You are a man, he should allow you to be responsible for your decision 1 Like |
Re: I Feel My Father -in -law Is Trying To Control Me by mjbaba: 7:50am On Mar 25, 2017 |
Let me just tell u something. When u marry someone's child, a typical african parent sees U as if u have also become his/her own child. Demanding to see u, even giving u a monthly option is very fair to me. He probably likes, enjoys conversing with u and wants to see more of u for that reason, not that he wants to control u or somethin |
Re: I Feel My Father -in -law Is Trying To Control Me by delishpot: 8:06am On Mar 25, 2017 |
Eddygourdo: If your mom is that attatched to your wife, would you think her a lesbian? |
Re: I Feel My Father -in -law Is Trying To Control Me by Eddygourdo(m): 8:08am On Mar 25, 2017 |
delishpot:@ "attached" meaning its mutual. Thus how andd why should I think she lesbian. there is no "mutual" in this case and men aren't the "attached" thingy. We don't do that nor expect such. Do u get now ? |
Re: I Feel My Father -in -law Is Trying To Control Me by delishpot: 8:12am On Mar 25, 2017 |
Eddygourdo: I dont get now. I will ask again, I did not say your wife and mom get attatched to each other, I said if your mom gets attatched to your wife who doesnt feel the same way, will you consider your mom a lesbian for wanting your wife to visit her more just like the rest of your sibbling? |
Re: I Feel My Father -in -law Is Trying To Control Me by abbeyty(m): 8:37am On Mar 25, 2017 |
realmey: this is serious |
Re: I Feel My Father -in -law Is Trying To Control Me by Eddygourdo(m): 8:38am On Mar 25, 2017 |
delishpot:women are emotional beings nd are known to naturally express feelings to each other without lesbian things being a factor. Of course tht won't go through my mind becaause there could be many things that might demand such closeness eg helping out with things etc but same cnt be said of a father in law and son inlaw. Haba what could he possibly help him with nor discuss weekly that should warrant such friendship. We men aren't emotional like that nor do we expect it. Eg if a man hugs me for too long I get uncomfortable and withdraw not cos I feel he is gay but men don't do that. But for women its no biggie |
Re: I Feel My Father -in -law Is Trying To Control Me by TLAX: 8:39am On Mar 25, 2017 |
UltraLeslie1: Epic. Apt. |
Re: I Feel My Father -in -law Is Trying To Control Me by COURVOISier(m): 8:53am On Mar 25, 2017 |
He loves your presence bro, but you can go at your convenience. Pls, remove that thought that he's trying to control you. |
Re: I Feel My Father -in -law Is Trying To Control Me by delishpot: 8:55am On Mar 25, 2017 |
Eddygourdo: no be small. Its all good. Papa is 70 too old for such in my opinion. The man may be lacking emotional contact. He just needs someone. I know an old man who also liked me like that. I was also avoiding him. Then he died and now I understand he just needed someone to just listen and cheer him up. Now I regret my action. Wish I was there for him. |
Re: I Feel My Father -in -law Is Trying To Control Me by Eddygourdo(m): 9:12am On Mar 25, 2017 |
delishpot:you can't tell if he wanted to tap ur booty since u never explored the option. In ur case I will assume ur a female. That is even undderstandable. But for man to man, when the man has sons and people his own age plus his wife is still alive. My dear one must fear being traumatized by a gay hitting on him no matter the age. Well don't regret too much we all shall meet again, maybe then u aask tht man what his intentions were, hopeful if we both in same heaven, I can now say, "see ya life, I was right" |
Re: I Feel My Father -in -law Is Trying To Control Me by AmenJoan(f): 9:17am On Mar 25, 2017 |
realmey: |
Re: I Feel My Father -in -law Is Trying To Control Me by gabbytabby: 9:36am On Mar 25, 2017 |
Dont read too much into it. It might just be his way of saying he wants you to feel comfortable around him as he considers you like one of his own. You do not have to feel obligated to go every time. You might find even his own children dont do it religiously. g o realmey: |
Re: I Feel My Father -in -law Is Trying To Control Me by Nobody: 10:43am On Mar 25, 2017 |
Lexusgs430:Almost daily |
Re: I Feel My Father -in -law Is Trying To Control Me by Richy4(m): 10:43am On Mar 25, 2017 |
Eddygourdo: I Don't mean to quote you but you clearly got a lot to learn in life....The bold statement shows you have not even started 1 Like |
Re: I Feel My Father -in -law Is Trying To Control Me by Nobody: 10:45am On Mar 25, 2017 |
hilseger: Bros u wan use laugh faint meoooooo |
Re: I Feel My Father -in -law Is Trying To Control Me by Nobody: 10:49am On Mar 25, 2017 |
UltraLeslie1: Sir why do you sound so harsh?you can at least tell me what you think without a sledge hammer |
Re: I Feel My Father -in -law Is Trying To Control Me by Nobody: 10:52am On Mar 25, 2017 |
4dor: Thanks |
Re: I Feel My Father -in -law Is Trying To Control Me by Amopeekun(f): 10:54am On Mar 25, 2017 |
There isn't anything to it. He only takes u as a son and doesn't want u to feel like a stranger in his house by visiting 'once in a while'. So feel free to visit and gist with the old man. Your wife could also be his favorite child and has transferred that love to u. He could just like u for who u are. My dad is like that with my husband! |
Re: I Feel My Father -in -law Is Trying To Control Me by Nobody: 10:56am On Mar 25, 2017 |
IYANGBALI: Blessed with kids already |
Re: I Feel My Father -in -law Is Trying To Control Me by Nobody: 10:59am On Mar 25, 2017 |
adecares: Even if he was as rich as bill gate,there are certain lines that can't be crossed. |
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