realmey:
Hello NL

I visited my father-in-law sometime in January this year
We had certain conversation that included him asking me to visit him either on a weekly or monthly basis

Hmmmm,it didn't go down well with me,though i said nothing so it does not look as if i'm disrespectful.

I made up my mind it was not going to be possible as ordinarily i felt he was trying to control me;i didn't bother visiting in February as i already decided to visit at my convenience.

I really don't know if i am wrong,pls ur sincere advice

Y are you soo harsh, there is nothing to suggest he wants to control you. May be d old dude likes ur company dts all, looks like he has no son or has a useless one n looking at making u a son.

Richy4:


I Don't mean to quote you but you clearly got a lot to learn in life....The bold statement shows you have not even started

I believe myself to be well educated enough to marvel you , but let's assume what you blabbed hs any water. Please tell me mr life teacher some of those knowledge you hold that other blind people like me can't see

YOUR FATHER IN-LAW IS NOT TRYING TO CONTROL YOU.ITS A CORRUPT LANGUAGE HE THREW AT YOU: SIMPLY MEANING GIVE ME CASH WEEKLY OR MONTHY.

realmey:


Almost daily

Do you leave close - by?

Unless there have been other instances your father in law has tried to control you, his request that you visit more often doesn't translate to him trying to control you. I'm afraid you are being a little theatrical here.

You either oblige or you dont. You alone can decide what kind of relationship you want to have with him. Even if you cannot make it as often as he likes, make him feel loved and appreciated as well. Being in laws shoudnt be about power tussle. All the best.

realmey:


Its me boss not his daughter

His daughter see him almost daily and i don't object to that.

There was i time i visited regularly like almost monthly,the next thing i heard was i wasn't visiting enough.

Bros check am now,oneday the man fit tell me make i pack come stay him house or even make i visit am daily

How old are u? A trivial topic as this should be coming from a woman not a man...
It was really immature of u to bring such a topic to NL...i think too many kids are entering into marriage these days....

If he starts avoiding u now..you will also come here to complain...

How much did he "gift" you for your wedding?

How many kids does he have? Are they all girls? Are they nearby?.

He could be looking to you as a son.

We neglect our old, but cry buckets when they die. Small gist can bring so much joy to them.

PS- hmmmmmmm. If this was a lady they will advice her to go every other day

Your father inlaw just want to maintain a close contact with you like most elderly people do and that is what you now see as trying to control you

Simply explain to him that you'll visit only when your tight schedule permits.