Sexual Consent: Do you know what it means?


The World Health Organisation (WHO) has defined sexual violence as using coercion in any setting for any of the following:
•A sexual act
•Attempt to attain a sexual act
•Unwanted sexual comments or advances
•Acts of human trafficking

In order to avoid committing any act that is considered as sexual violence, consent is required.

What is consent?

Consent means both partners want and freely choose to have sexual contact. When someone says no, there is no sexual consent and because of this, no sexual activity should occur.

The only way to be sure about consent with a fellow sober adult is to ask them first. This applies to both men and women.

When a person makes comments in the affirmative such as “yes” or “I want to try this” then they are giving consent.

Consent is not a once-off. A person can agree to sexual activity and go ahead to participate but that does not mean consent has been given for future sexual activity whether it is increased or recurrent.

There are many misconceptions about consent and sometimes people make the following incorrect assumptions about consent for sexual activity but for clarification, these are NOT forms of consent:
•Flirting
•Kissing
•Wearing revealing clothes
•Going to the person’s bedroom or inviting them to your bedroom
•Agreeing under threats or intimidation
•Past consent

Can an intoxicated person give consent?

When a person is drunk or intoxicated, they are not in a state to give consent for any sexual activity. Engaging in a sexual act without the other person’s consent is considered sexual assault or rape.

The legal age for consent in Nigeria is 18 therefore, any adult seeking to participate in sexual activity with a young person, anyone under 18 cannot give consent even if they want to do so.

A person can decide to change her/his mind or withdraw their consent if they feel uncomfortable even after the sexual activity begins.

Do you think most people your age understand what sexual consent means? Drop your comment!

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We understand buh we don't give a Bleep, u have to try, try n try again, on d third occasion u will be given d consent

alright sweets. it is educative. gentlemen and ladies learn to seek consent. a guy as well as a lady could get sued for harassment or rape

In Nigeria for example, if a wife says NO to her husband, the rest will be history depending on the kind of husband as well as family background. Saying NO has destroyed so many marriages/relationship.
Consent is key, but the way some people Agree and Disagree to bleep is also an important factor to consider. Some women can reject bleep like kilode, when they already knows the man has reached the zenith of Kilimanjaro, even when they wanted the bleep more.
My advice is that the way and manner people give consent to bleep is very important, saying it calmly with affection, respect, with low tone and with convincing reasons is very important to some men/women.
The men should respect the womens decision and body.
When a lady gives you her full consent to bleep her, my brother the feeling is more than that of Ant seeing a Dangote refined sugar.

A lot of peeps consider it stupid to ask for for verbal consent after flirting or kissing a lady.

some ladies will say you are spoiling the mood.