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The Most Difficult Age For Most Nigerian Men by alaricsaltzman: 3:17pm On Mar 27, 2017
Found this interesting piece on facebook and i decided to share...enjoy

The most difficult age for any man born in Nigeria should be between 24 and 29 years, the pressure to be something, to be someone is so immense. When you look around you everyone seems to be doing something for themselves, people seem to be living a life you only dream of. You have applied for jobs and the results have been more disappointing than Yakubu Aiyegbeni goal miss at the world cup.

Sadly this is the age when most guys lose it, the age when if not careful one is consumed by alcohol or drugs, because the disappointments become too much and you find alternative ways to face reality. Worse is when a few people you studied with have been lucky enough to land
jobs, soon your circle of friends gets thinner – mostly they don’t even cut you out but you will be real with yourself and cut yourself off. I mean what will you do when you are in a WhatsApp group of friends and they are discussing about last week’s trip in Dubai and planning another trip to South Africa while you are not sure of what your next meal would be?

Most times you follow the conversation silently, all alone like a cross on the grave. Soon you realize this is no longer your kind of crowd because the more you keep around the more the pressure to be something, takes a toll on you. You know when stories about house parties
come up and you act deaf because you don’t know where an extra 5 guys would fit in your house. Have you ever sat in a group of people discussing the new iPhone on the market or how British Airways offers poo services and you can feel your heart whisper to you "boss this is chest pain hour, can we just go and find a group that talks about GMAT, SHL, Dragnet, jobberman or job vacancies sites".

But you sit there as these people are lost in their lifestyle conversations, you are like a secretary taking minutes in meeting. You are totally forgotten like one of a woman’s breasts during pre-intimacy. Once in a while one of the friends will turn and ask if you need another drink and you wonder if you should just say No and head home, but head home to do what? So you grudgingly drop in the comment “I will have just one last one“...Lie!!!

But after a few years of job hunting, you are now ready to take anything even if is to smell a rich man’s farts as long as it pays, so you end up as an office messenger in one blue chip company in town. To imagine that 4-5 years of studying and getting a degree is now reduced to picking and dropping off letters and if you are not doing that, you are being sent for cheap lunch by the employees when they are broke and they can’t order with fast food. This is when conversations about where people schooled start, you go silent for it’s no longer of any use to say you also reached University, it doesn’t matter – you have resorted to surviving.

Once in while you will bump into your now well to do classmates, they would offer you lunch, but not even eating the meals at Eko Hotel or Sheraton will make you feel better about yourself, because in your mind you wish instead they would give you the 30k and you sort your meals for the next 5 weeks. As it is the norm you will have photos taken, and uploaded on Facebook, but always it’s your face that would look the odd one out – not even the best filters can hide a face which has suffered the city's dust and sun but survives on boiled beans.

The worst mistake you can do during this period is to try and date – there is nothing that a person going through such times can offer in terms of love. How are you going to do evening romantic walks when you are tired from walking delivering letters in offices around town? What are you going to tell your lady when she says she wants to go for relaxation at the bar, pool or love garden sites that are in town? That your financial religion doesn’t allow it or what? This is the age when you sit back and watch as the ladies you would want to date are dating or getting married to guys 10 years older than you. And you can’t blame them – it’s only that your life seems to be progressing slower than their goals in life. Most of the ladies you meet during this period, if you are lucky will be patient with you till you hit 28, and if by then your life is still in disarray like Leicester city's performance in the EPL then my friend be prepared for a walk out.

But then this is the age when you learn a lot of about life, if you can hack through this stage of life the only hard moment in your life would be when you lose your parents - that’s if you are still lucky enough to have them. This stage teaches you a lot about perseverance, about appreciating the small wins you have each day, it teaches you something about friendship, love, career growth and personal responsibility. This is always your rise or fall moment depending on the choices you make.

How you live your life in the 30’s is determined by how you handled your life in this phase. Do not Give up. Do not Be Depressed. remain focused and create a Strategy. Be consistent, you must Surely Win. Peace cool cool


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Re: The Most Difficult Age For Most Nigerian Men by yomi007k(m): 3:24pm On Mar 27, 2017
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Chai....op u don expose us finish ooo.


Nice write up boss.

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Re: The Most Difficult Age For Most Nigerian Men by Nobody: 3:25pm On Mar 27, 2017
Facts, everything written. 27 I am, and I'm pulling out of this unhurt. I've learned lessons about fake love, disloyalty and gold-digging. When I rise, I'll pick better associations.

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Re: The Most Difficult Age For Most Nigerian Men by Adamsdelrio(m): 3:30pm On Mar 27, 2017
Wow.... I'm currently in this phase. May God help us all that are currently battling in this unpleasant phase. Amen

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Re: The Most Difficult Age For Most Nigerian Men by PRISTINEMUSCLES: 4:27pm On Mar 27, 2017
Hmmm. Really the major and dreaded phase in a man's life. This is infact a man 's productive years, where energy,youthfulness, strength and the likes are in peak mode. If not channelled in a positive and productive direction, you might get hurt. You are spot-on.

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Re: The Most Difficult Age For Most Nigerian Men by LordIsaac(m): 5:38pm On Mar 27, 2017
You almost begin to wish you were a child again!

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Re: The Most Difficult Age For Most Nigerian Men by Lunagirl(f): 5:44pm On Mar 27, 2017
True.

To all the men out there struggling to create an identity, know that we, the women in your life appreciate you.

We see you, we know the pressure on you. Most importantly, we have your back all the way.

Especially to my father, brothers and my future husband, I see you and I will be true all the way there.

#hustlersmindset

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Re: The Most Difficult Age For Most Nigerian Men by fernandoc(m): 5:48pm On Mar 27, 2017
I'm 27. Still in this phase. God help us.

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Re: The Most Difficult Age For Most Nigerian Men by Emmysteve(m): 6:10pm On Mar 27, 2017
Worth reading 100% fact

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Re: The Most Difficult Age For Most Nigerian Men by alaricsaltzman: 6:25pm On Mar 27, 2017
Lunagirl:
True.

To all the men out there struggling to create an identity, know that we, the women in your life appreciate you.

We see you, we know the pressure on you. Most importantly, we have your back all the way.

Especially to my father, brothers and my future husband, I see you and I will be true all the way there.

#hustlersmindset

Thanks dear!! Wish all ladies can be like you... Not this our pepper dem gang and slay generation we are having now

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Re: The Most Difficult Age For Most Nigerian Men by Lunagirl(f): 6:27pm On Mar 27, 2017
alaricsaltzman:


Thanks dear!! Wish all ladies can be like you... Not this our pepper dem gang and slay generation we are having now

Don't get me wrong. I slay when I want to and do pepperdem when I feel like. It still doesn't take anything from my brain. Except 1 full hour of makeup and 30 minutes selecting the right pepperdem outfit wink

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Re: The Most Difficult Age For Most Nigerian Men by MidasTouche01(m): 6:29pm On Mar 27, 2017
Facts.... nowadays it's no longer about going to school, it's about going to study good courses, course that you can start something on your own when u finish school..

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Re: The Most Difficult Age For Most Nigerian Men by frugal(m): 6:48pm On Mar 27, 2017
It's also the stage you find true love.

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Re: The Most Difficult Age For Most Nigerian Men by elmisti(m): 7:03pm On Mar 27, 2017
mehn......................dis shi^^t is skin deep embarassed embarassed embarassed embarassed embarassed

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Re: The Most Difficult Age For Most Nigerian Men by elmisti(m): 7:05pm On Mar 27, 2017
MidasTouche01:
Facts.... nowadays it's no longer about going to school, it's about going to study good courses, course that you can start something on your own when u finish school..


i tell you, its the stage of where a 200k bet9ja shop employs a masters holder cry

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Re: The Most Difficult Age For Most Nigerian Men by MidasTouche01(m): 7:07pm On Mar 27, 2017
elmisti:



i tell you, its the stage of where a 200k bet9ja shop employs a masters holder cry

Yea, sad

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Re: The Most Difficult Age For Most Nigerian Men by abumeinben(m): 7:36pm On Mar 27, 2017
Scanning.....


....Scan complete.

Result.txt: Write-up is virus free cool

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Re: The Most Difficult Age For Most Nigerian Men by DrTims(m): 7:43pm On Mar 27, 2017
Gosh, this is the true nature of what am passing tru. Smh. Never give up! We must make it in Jesus name, amen. Keep hustling

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Re: The Most Difficult Age For Most Nigerian Men by judey1992(m): 7:46pm On Mar 27, 2017
OP must be a carpenter cos he nailed it. i am undergoing this phase and its not an easy one. i term this stage the "rate limiting stage" . hoping God will make a way.

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Re: The Most Difficult Age For Most Nigerian Men by obinoral1179(m): 7:48pm On Mar 27, 2017
Op you are so on point... May God bless our hustle.....

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Re: The Most Difficult Age For Most Nigerian Men by Alocia(f): 7:53pm On Mar 27, 2017
Right on Point!

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Re: The Most Difficult Age For Most Nigerian Men by bgunrtk(m): 7:55pm On Mar 27, 2017
Op!can I copy? 'Cos I no wan hear copy copy#plagiarism...lol
Nice one there op#onlo

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Re: The Most Difficult Age For Most Nigerian Men by KealDrogo: 8:01pm On Mar 27, 2017
Video games helps a lot during this stage of life. grin
Having numerous connections is the key nowadays

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Re: The Most Difficult Age For Most Nigerian Men by amprat: 8:10pm On Mar 27, 2017
STRATEGY will determine if Toulouse ever get out of this phase better than you went in or worse.
1.You might need to Change location

2. get street certifications or trainings formal/informal,
3.work on your appearance/packaging

4. Rearrange your priorities

5. Reactivate old relationships /connections
whatever you do make sure you make decisions that will make you happy now and in the future also that your goals are
SMART... . Specific ....measurable...Achievable...Realistic .... Time bound.
Never give up
See you at the top
With my best wishes.

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Re: The Most Difficult Age For Most Nigerian Men by oforij(m): 8:32pm On Mar 27, 2017
elmisti:



i tell you, its the stage of where a 200k bet9ja shop employs a masters holder cry

After years of serious study, you end as an employee to a ssce holder and start pressing computer every day
Uwadiegu

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Re: The Most Difficult Age For Most Nigerian Men by Perfecttouch(m): 9:06pm On Mar 27, 2017
At this age,if you are not careful in this recession,you might commit suicide walahi.

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Re: The Most Difficult Age For Most Nigerian Men by majour(m): 9:25pm On Mar 27, 2017
This is awesome, definitely a time to define how your future will be, with or without money, when you lack, that when creativity is born, I MIT not be doing well as I hope for now but am very positive for a better tomorrow, as usual, many like me wishes we have women who can understand us and help us attain our goal, two is better than one isn't it

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Re: The Most Difficult Age For Most Nigerian Men by alaricsaltzman: 10:13pm On Mar 27, 2017
Lunagirl:


Don't get me wrong. I slay when I want to and do pepperdem when I feel like. It still doesn't take anything from my brain. Except 1 full hour of makeup and 30 minutes selecting the right pepperdem outfit wink
I got you right dear... Lol

What I meant is even you find time to slay and pepper dem, you still got our back... Some ladies prefer to slay and wait for the already made man to come

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Re: The Most Difficult Age For Most Nigerian Men by Kylekent59: 10:14pm On Mar 27, 2017
17 years old boy wins 43 million in bet9ja.
This one na person salary for 50years combined ooooo. grin grin grin
Let's calculate
70,000 * 12(1 yr)=840,000*50(50 yrs)
=42,000,000
E strong ooo

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Re: The Most Difficult Age For Most Nigerian Men by Tazdroid(m): 10:40pm On Mar 27, 2017
Taaah, the most difficult age is still football age because you have to keep ensuring that your lies match up unless your own don be. grin grin grin

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Re: The Most Difficult Age For Most Nigerian Men by Judasjudas(m): 11:09pm On Mar 27, 2017
hmm 0ga 0p this is very true ..
I used to have a line in ma head .. #they say life is in stages ..stage 20s too hard ...

"Created by me tho .. wink

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