Lunagirl:
True.

To all the men out there struggling to create an identity, know that we, the women in your life appreciate you.

We see you, we know the pressure on you. Most importantly, we have your back all the way.

Especially to my father, brothers and my future husband, I see you and I will be true all the way there.

#hustlersmindset

Akan:
I agree with everything the op said apart from where he likened the isolation as comparable to preintimacy where one of the woman's bre@st is left out. Not when I have two hands.

bakynes:

Less pressure on Ladies because the society believes women will get married and get taken care of by their husbands and society doesn't put pressure on a poor woman but puts pressure on a poor Man.

Olubee22:
Exactly , the post is really on point . The pressure isn't on guys only ,there are still some of us who aren't just concerned about slaying or adding pepper o. Am still there and getting out of it soon .

Olubee22:
Exactly , the post is really on point . The pressure isn't on guys only ,there are still some of us who aren't just concerned about slaying or adding pepper o. Am still there and getting out of it soon .

Willie2015:
Most of us are not equipped to handle life after graduation, we are geared towards looking for white collar jobs.

Students should armed themselves with enough skills before graduating. These skills will put food on the table before securing a formal job and if your employer ever kick you out, you can fall back on it. For example,

Learn and perfect your trading skills to trade stocks
Learn and perfect trading skills on forex trading
Learn basic vocational skills like Carpentry, Plumbing, etc etc
If you are able to raise enough capital ,get a Nigeria used golf car and do part time transportation business;

Hustling is just not about distributing CVs, those things I listed above dont disturb your search for jobs but they put food down on the table on spot.

Lunagirl:
True.

To all the men out there struggling to create an identity, know that we, the women in your life appreciate you.

We see you, we know the pressure on you. Most importantly, we have your back all the way.

Especially to my father, brothers and my future husband, I see you and I will be true all the way there.

#hustlersmindset

Beamborla:

Last time I checked, every guy out there wants someone who is independent(financially)
Someone who can meet him halfway.

Moreover, there is a feeling of fulfilment and satisfaction that comes with being on top of your game...you'd be surprised to know thousands of ladies out there crave that feeling.

bjhaid:
@your profile pic, you looking good.

Azil:


You will, girl. You will.

3 years ago, I had NOTHING. I'm not totally there yet but I am grateful for where I am.

You'll get there.

excel001:

That's all you can say about this wonderful writeup, am not surprise at your comment sha, from your name you must come from Akwaibom or calabar

martineverest:
even when ur pics says u are in early thirties?

Lunagirl:
True.

To all the men out there struggling to create an identity, know that we, the women in your life appreciate you.

We see you, we know the pressure on you. Most importantly, we have your back all the way.

Especially to my father, brothers and my future husband, I see you and I will be true all the way there.

#hustlersmindset

fernandoc:

Don't Let d pics fool you bro. I'm not even 27 yet, will be by April 13. Nice Pix by the way.

martineverest:
thanks bro...but try reduce the fat sha...lol

Benz4pimp:
Sorry,I disagree with the age bracket linked to the post!!!It all depends on how fast you learn about life,some experienced that phase in their 23-28,some did in their 30's,some are still struggling with it in there 40's.......write same epistle with another age group,peeps will still comment and tell u they r going through same......went through within 4-2 years ago and I am not in that age bracket!!!

PoisonedOne:
I think you're right.
You graduate around 24yrs, waits a year for nysc call up letter (unless you're lucky to be called up immediately), you finish NYSC at 26yrs. You job-hunt for few months (years) before getting a 50k job , meanwhile you're now 28 or 29years old . You're not thinking of marriage yet and no serious relationship 'cause no reasonable girl will take your 'serious' relationship seriously with that type of financial backup. Sometimes education and the question for certification delay us from achieving a lot. Let me share my own .

When I was in school I do visit my eldest brother who runs businesses and has many apprentices (boi boi). These boys respect me and envy for having a rich brother that sent me to the university. They felt as if they're beneath me and envy my student's swag, poise and gait. I always dress better and behave better and present myself better than them. Then I noticed that as I got to 400level most of these apprentices have become manager, before I proceed for my NYSC 3 of them have been "settled" and have become their own boss.

I finished my NYSC,came to Lag and found out that these guys are not doing bad,they have there own business and are taking charge of their lives, one of them has even registered for part time studies in unilag . Then, my job-hunting began,I couldn't secure a job within the next 5 - 6 months. They no longer envy me ,rather, they wished me well ( still believing in their minds that my brothers would help me if I need anything).

Moreover, I stopped searching for jobs, learnt a business and I'm so happy for that decision. You can't always get a good job ,but you can always start something good on your own.

Kaeyzo:
I'm 24 but I thank God for the blessing. I own a lots of things which average of Nigerians dont own. I pray God to Give you too

Lunagirl:




You write right? You sound like a good writer.

I am sending you a million hugs and good wishes too

Beamborla:
A great piece but I strongly disagree that this is peculiar to guys alone.

Olubee22:
I feel like hugging you right now(sisterly hug ni o) . I seriously don't like the part where they keep saying "you will get married someday and your husband will be the one to bear the burden" . kilode ,must I be a liability ? It is a must o, I must get there !

Olubee22:
I feel like hugging you right now(sisterly hug ni o) . I seriously don't like the part where they keep saying "you will get married someday and your husband will be the one to bear the burden" . kilode ,must I be a liability ? It is a must o, I must get there !

kayo80:


No it isn't. But guys feel it the most. A broke guy can't even have a girlfriend in this country. He can't even have love. Imagine that for a second. At least a struggling girl can still experience love.