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Re: The Most Difficult Age For Most Nigerian Men by Lunagirl(f): 2:46pm On Mar 28, 2017 |
speezyWears: Ring please 1 Like |
Re: The Most Difficult Age For Most Nigerian Men by TonyeBarcanista(m): 2:49pm On Mar 28, 2017 |
Lunagirl:
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Re: The Most Difficult Age For Most Nigerian Men by ADAMUdaCOWBOY: 2:50pm On Mar 28, 2017 |
Lunagirl:Many babes dumped me in that state, hmm! Many male friends useless me, laugh me join, my hommies o! I come back from UK after MSc. dey hustle from hand to mouth like pesin wey never ever hustle. But I always give thanks to God that my wife married me in that state and never disrespected me on grounds of lack. Today things are so much better. I beg God to help me be a great man for her. She is human and wrongs me sometimes and I get angry, I always try to control my anger for her sacrifice and even when I say or do something wrong to her, in no long time, I rush back and beg her. Thank you for the nice post, just like other Nairaland guys, I love it Lunagirl. 6 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: The Most Difficult Age For Most Nigerian Men by unilagfreshest(m): 2:51pm On Mar 28, 2017 |
I saw myself in that post.... Op on point, New day, new challenge.... Am 26 going on 27. 2 Likes |
Re: The Most Difficult Age For Most Nigerian Men by Lunagirl(f): 3:04pm On Mar 28, 2017 |
ADAMUdaCOWBOY: I am happy that you have the decency to acknowledge someone that has hustled with you. A lot of guys don't. The minute they see break light, they begin to find another girl that will suit their "status" 2 Likes |
Re: The Most Difficult Age For Most Nigerian Men by speezyWears: 3:05pm On Mar 28, 2017 |
Re: The Most Difficult Age For Most Nigerian Men by Jclement(m): 3:06pm On Mar 28, 2017 |
Lunagirl:Thank you |
Re: The Most Difficult Age For Most Nigerian Men by Lunagirl(f): 3:06pm On Mar 28, 2017 |
Jclement: You are welcome |
Re: The Most Difficult Age For Most Nigerian Men by EmmyDJourno: 3:07pm On Mar 28, 2017 |
God bless the writer of such a piece. I was soaked in depression in that stage, and didn't believe when I got out. I couldn't buy soap or even barb my hair. Girlfriend? if I hear, friends thought I was wierd cause I dropped off from their company so as not to feel envious of their jobs, fun and flirtatious escapades I won't deny the help MaryJane was to me in those trying times, she was my escape from reality But like the Israelites left Babylon so did I. Hold on to your God(not easy but do), your liberation would come Through it all I learnt faith in God and how to appreciate every single alert I've been getting ever since, plus now my Family and Friends who saw me in my lows now respect me cause I'm now balling hard Again: YOUR TIME TOO WOULD COME 6 Likes |
Re: The Most Difficult Age For Most Nigerian Men by Teawhy2011: 3:10pm On Mar 28, 2017 |
Hummm! I'm 29 nw,still living wt parents after nysc,depending on them b4 I cn gt a two-squaare meal daily. Sober mood....! |
Re: The Most Difficult Age For Most Nigerian Men by oyetpel(m): 3:18pm On Mar 28, 2017 |
Teawhy2011:my God.... you made me weep |
Re: The Most Difficult Age For Most Nigerian Men by Juchii(m): 3:25pm On Mar 28, 2017 |
Kaeyzo:Good day sir, i thank God on your life, pls abeg help a brother? Or can u teach me how to fish instead. 09074565287 my number. Judech4life@yahoo.com 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: The Most Difficult Age For Most Nigerian Men by Nobody: 4:06pm On Mar 28, 2017 |
alaricsaltzman:You should have said 24 and above till you finally succeed. It doesn't doesn't stop at 29 cos many guys still struggle into their 40s. 2 Likes |
Re: The Most Difficult Age For Most Nigerian Men by Nobody: 4:16pm On Mar 28, 2017 |
Lunagirl: I can marry you because of this comment. 2 Likes |
Re: The Most Difficult Age For Most Nigerian Men by Nobody: 4:22pm On Mar 28, 2017 |
This is just it. I'm in this stage right now though I've got a job (luckyme). One thing I've learnt is walking away from relationships. Killing it before it even starts. This is not the stage of love, it's a stage where you either become a man you love or a man you love to hate. Make or break it 6 Likes 1 Share |
Re: The Most Difficult Age For Most Nigerian Men by Reuben2012(m): 4:35pm On Mar 28, 2017 |
Am also in this phase of life. My heart always long for success. Doing it in my own way but been held down by 7:30am to 8:00pm job. even though i fail, i still keep my head high and keep on dreaming. God bless my huzzle and God bless my lady for loving me for who i am. 4 Likes |
Re: The Most Difficult Age For Most Nigerian Men by Timblaze(m): 4:37pm On Mar 28, 2017 |
hmmm. am currently in this stage/phase of life. OP u hv said it all... is well |
Re: The Most Difficult Age For Most Nigerian Men by Olubee22(f): 4:42pm On Mar 28, 2017 |
Teawhy2011:so far you don't give up, keep trying and that is going to be history soon . Sha don't complain and just keep hustling .O ma make sense very soon 5 Likes 1 Share |
Re: The Most Difficult Age For Most Nigerian Men by Nobody: 4:42pm On Mar 28, 2017 |
Beamborla:I don't think you can practice what you just preached. Easier said indeed. Seeking the companion of the opposite gender is one those natural urges. It's frustrating living a life against nature. I don't blame you for saying the above cos you are a lady. Like the guy earlier said: ladies enjoy relationships even when they are broke. 1 Like |
Re: The Most Difficult Age For Most Nigerian Men by IBreakRules: 4:59pm On Mar 28, 2017 |
kayo80:haaa bros... looks like your own case was very thick o. Thank God for life anyways . 2 Likes |
Re: The Most Difficult Age For Most Nigerian Men by bamurum87(m): 5:22pm On Mar 28, 2017 |
see as I just dey luk myself,chai op ur on point |
Re: The Most Difficult Age For Most Nigerian Men by ebby9z(m): 5:24pm On Mar 28, 2017 |
Lunagirl:God bless you. Few girls understand this |
Re: The Most Difficult Age For Most Nigerian Men by ebby9z(m): 5:31pm On Mar 28, 2017 |
I'm within this age bracket and i totally agree with op. The irony is that the society that never gave you anything to establish yourself will start demanding a lot from you at this age. Your family members, siblings, cousins, friends-especially the female folks. If you cant give at that time, people assume you are stingy or just an unfortunate human being. In fact they wont respect you, small boys will just talk to you anyhow. Then if you are someone like me that loves his independence, setting out on your own can be very herculean espeically in this Lagos where a decent accommodation is costly. May God just pull us through in this repressive economy 2 Likes |
Re: The Most Difficult Age For Most Nigerian Men by cooldood(m): 5:45pm On Mar 28, 2017 |
For me, I think basically that phase (24-29) is the period of self-discovery; where you should try to attempt different tasks, activities, adventures, businesses and what have you. You practically have little to nothing to lose at that period and should pick a lot of learning from what eventually pan out for you as a growing man. By age 30, you should have understood what love means to every female folk out there (whether from rich or humble background), you should understand rudiments of business in 9ja (being streetwise), you should understand who your true friends are and the ones that are just 'using you' to advance in life. By age 22, I was privileged to have finished uni at one of the great unis in 9ja, served my beloved country and by 23, was working in a big and well structured commercial bank in V.I, Lagos. At 24, I got my first ride, got involved with different babes and by 25, I started crafting out all sorts of business ideas flying in my brains. Guess what, it wasn't easy at all, 'cos I moved out of family house at age 24 and was practically becoming a man of my own. Meanwhile, before starting out my first business (a mid-size restaurant with capacity for 50) through my hard-earned savings of two years and a friend's support, I had left the commercial bank to join a top Management Consulting Firm in V.I and started developing business acumen. Outcome of my relationship: Discovered love from ALL BABES is simply based on a man's present value (PV); whether it is discounted future value or your actual present value, the common language there is value. Pray you meet a lady that can see through her lense of wisdom, to be able to see your future value and therefore willing to wait (this is really scarce nowadays though) till your flowers begin to blossom (I don't blame the female folks though, that is how they are wired, they just have different tolerance levels). Outcome of my first business: I discovered theories, book models, analysis, and all those Porter's 5 forces, BCG matrix, McKinsey's MECE methodology, etc will bow down when they get to the streets of 9ja. Business in 9ja is like war. If you want to start, be prepared! I wont' say more than that on my business adventures. My first business failed after barely 2 years. But fast forward today, I have now crossed that phase, moved on to bigger things, live in Lekki Phase 1, planning to get my third car (Audi A8 2014 model) and working within the investment banking space. Life is beautiful! And at 31, am planning to buy my first home in Phase 1 within 2017, after life looked doom n gloom few years ago. Like the op said, never give up on your dreams, never stop believing and never be afraid to try out new things. 17 Likes 4 Shares |
Re: The Most Difficult Age For Most Nigerian Men by Nobody: 6:19pm On Mar 28, 2017 |
Im 20 but Im starting to feel it. Op thanks for highlighting our struggle. |
Re: The Most Difficult Age For Most Nigerian Men by SmartyPants(m): 6:56pm On Mar 28, 2017 |
Lunagirl: How you dae... |
Re: The Most Difficult Age For Most Nigerian Men by tk4rd: 7:31pm On Mar 28, 2017 |
Lunagirl:Thanks. That's some words of hope and encouragement |
Re: The Most Difficult Age For Most Nigerian Men by hazard1759(m): 8:02pm On Mar 28, 2017 |
I'll be 26 Come April 24th and I'm going through this Difficult phase. Coupled with the fact that I'm the only child, Ive been under pressure to get married but who will do that when u've not found your footing in life? Lost a relationship I've nurtured that dates back to my university days in February but i consoled myself with the fact that its her loss not mine. Its been a bumpy ride but I thank God for everything. I believe at the end of the day, We go dey alright! 1 Like |
Re: The Most Difficult Age For Most Nigerian Men by Withambition(m): 9:14pm On Mar 28, 2017 |
Lunagirl:Like seriously? OMG! Lunagirl just made my night...this is also sweet. I love you But ermmm...I just hope this is coming from your heart? |
Re: The Most Difficult Age For Most Nigerian Men by haykes(m): 9:22pm On Mar 28, 2017 |
I Swear this is most sensible thread i ever read on nairaland i called this straight bullet op u make sense die OP OF THE MONTH lol 1 Like 1 Share |
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