My girlfriend and i are mutually in love, she is still a virgin at the age of 20 and she intends to keep it till we are married. I dont want to have sex outside and at the same time i need to have sex. So am thinking since am d one thats still gonna deflower her, why dont she let me now, cos am sure to marry her cos i so much love her. Pls folks, help with ur advice, what do i do, do i wait till God knows when, or make her see reasons?

Yes wait untill u marry her, if u really love and care for her then respect her wish and wait.

She probably know that u are not going to marry her after eating the cherry.
If u are serious abt the marriage then do it cos u have a gr8 reward.

wait for her but cheat like hell while you wait (kidding)

Wait for her if you care that much and if you actually think she is someone you can spend your life with. if not bounce and find someone who is willing

I am sure she does want to keep this virginity for you. She is obviously a very disciplined person.
I would say she loves you, the most special gift this girl can give is, on her wedding night
she gives herself entirely to her man. Something that can only happen once. She deserves
so much respect for this, give all due value to what her choice means.

pls if u realy love her,do wait since ure so sure ure gonna marrry her,u know it wont be fair if u deflower her and den dump her,one can never trust guys,u might do it now and later leave her not saying dts what ure gonna do,but if she insists she not doin yet,den kindly wait,u sound like a disciplined person n im sure u can take ur eyes off sex and wait til lur wedding night.all the best.

If you really love her then wait, dont make her be another statistic by pressurizing her. If you cant hold yourself then leave her be for someone who will love and respect her wishes. That is all

Why don't you just marry her now and get it over with.

zip up

@ All, Thank u very much for ur piercing pieces of advice. I really appreciate. Merry Christmas and happy new year in advance.

I will assure you one thing, YOU SURE WOULDN'T DIE.

So you wouldn't wait unless she was a virgin?? So her virginity is like some sort of prize - typical.

If you are basing your ability to wait on such a trivial thing, then don't you think you might be weaker to temptation along the way, I mean you waiting for her is not solidified on deep mutual love - like you claim - but instead on her hymen being in tact.

Secondly, you could end up ripping up her hymen when you're 'checking'.

Thirdly, if she wasn't a virgin, would your love not be able to extend to abstinence, in favour of her conditions for the relationship.
How would you be able to guarantee that after marriage, you won't want to stray once you've acquired the 'prize'?

my own piece of advice is

1. if u really love her and u intend marring her, get her committed either by doing the introduction now or taking an oath with her cos now that she is young she will still believe you but the moment she moves out or the big boys spy on her mean, you are in for it cos your investment on her might end up being a waste.

2. always ensure u check her each time you are around her (because most ladies terms to claim virgin to prove decency) by using either your finger or dick but if she is too tight for you confirm likewise that she is not using alum.


let me share my own little experience with you. i met this lady at nineteen and i was twenty-two and she was a virgin, i confirmed i.e "de be confirm" and it was real. i tried to respect her despite all temptations, i loved her and all i do when i am on is to either masturbate or romance her to make myself free of sexual arouse although sex is my hobby but i avoided tasting other ladies. she was bossy and have all the qualities a man can imagine getting from a lady. she is worth marring as a wife. lo and behold after dating for three years she started receiving calls from different guys, some sending a love message and she will also reply them by telling them that she is also in love with them even when i ask her she often deny until i scroll through her phone to show her. she will start apologizing. the truth is that she got carried away by the enormous toasters that comes her way, now we have stopped dating but she is yet to find a serious date cos each time i call her to ask her hand in marriage she is willing but i know she is not faithful because of her lies so i cant marry her anymore. the relationship is now seven years old. three years faithful relationship and four years unfaithful relationship.

anyway guy i wish you can make a decision from here

sexyLeamon:

I will assure you one thing, YOU SURE WOULDN'T DIE.

tee hee

@poster, the girl love you. please do not stress her let her keep her virginity

sweetpie23:

tee hee

@poster, the girl love you. please do not stress her let her keep her virginity

True talk.

@poster go ahead and marry her and enjoy the benefits why do you want to enjoy what you dont own,

It would be advisable you try before you buy.She's 20 so she's probably thinking from an idealist point of view and thinks virginity is some fairy tale religious prize. Get real and get her laid lest some other sweet talker claims this so-called prize before you and you become a cuckolded f00l.

tai2:

It would be advisable you try before you buy.She's 20 so she's probably thinking from an idealist point of view and thinks virginity is some fairy tale religious prize. Get real and get her laid lest some other sweet talker claims this so-called prize before you and you become a cuckolded f00l.

U na wa oooooooooooooooooooooo.

tai2:

It would be advisable you try before you buy.She's 20 so she's probably thinking from an idealist point of view and thinks virginity is some fairy tale religious prize. Get real and get her laid lest some other sweet talker claims this so-called prize before you and you become a cuckolded f00l.

hissssssssss

sweetpie23:

hissssssssss

Make add my own hissssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssss

I assume all the women offering advice and hissing at my two cents here are virgins or at least were virgins before they married.If not you are all a bunch of hypocrites misleading a young man from doing what you all have already enjoyed.

tai2:




I assume all the women offering advice and hissing at my two cents here are virgins or at least were virgins before they married.If not you are all a bunch of hypocrites misleading a young man from doing what you all have already enjoyed.

U bi big maga80000 and a big fool for calling me a bunch

tai2:




I assume all the women offering advice and hissing at my two cents here are virgins or at least were virgins before they married.If not you are all a bunch of hypocrites misleading a young man from doing what you all have already enjoyed.

you are not viewing if from our point of view. been a virgin is the greatest gift you can take to your husband. Nothing can compare and
nothing will get you more trust and respect. It is called ( celibacy )

sweetpie23:

you are not viewing if from our point of view. been a virgin is the greatest gift you can take to your husband. Nothing can compare and
nothing will get you more trust and respect. It is called ( celibacy )

Sweet dont mind him.

Go and check your dictionary for the meaning of celibacy and FYI virginity is overvalued and I'm telling you that from a male point of view.

tai2:

Go and check your dictionary for the meaning of celibacy and FYI virginity is overvalued and I'm telling you that from a male point of view.

Abeg go sleep jor.

tai2:

Go and check your dictionary for the meaning of celibacy and FYI virginity is overvalued and I'm telling you that from a male point of view.

whatever keep your beliefs to yourself let me keep mine

jenibayo:

Sweet dont mind him.

i don leave am

Lol, women

tai2:

Lol, women

Wetin women do?

jenibayo:

Wetin women do?

isn't him weird?

sweetpie23:

isn't him weird?

I think so.

So because your a Guy you can't control yourself or  are you just with her to get into her pants?  

If you know you can't respect her decision to keep her virginity till marriage. . .then please leave her alone for someone who'll be more willing to stand by her decision!

@poster u sounded as if abstainance is an outright death sentence to guys!