Kilonso:

Saying that marriage is overrated is just like saying that life is overrated as well. So since there is an Umar Farooq Abdullah, just as there are a numberless of individuals who live their lives with utmost reckless abandon, would not give the room for an utterance such as saying that life is overrated. And I needn't remind anyone here that the life most of us got is as a result of the (so-called overrated) marriages which took places at some points in some time. So an institution such as marriage can never be overrated. Other institutions such as your churches, your schools, your banks and you as individuals could be overrated but not marriage. A number of marriages might have failed, but out of a good number of those failed marriages, inspiring individuals who did a number on us have emerged.
Once other institutions fail. nothing good, and I mean nothing good come out of them from that moment, because they were overrated. 

becomrich;:

Here is it. I am not a church goer, I not a church worker , I am born again. because church goer and church worker does not mean you are born again. Been born again is been transform in your mind.  The real issue is greed and foolishness. 
And when one partner is proud and arrogant. It kills a marriage.
You cant only have a good marriage if you have two humble and honest people. If the other people is a liar and a cheat, you cant have a good marriage.
If a person is arrogant and proud. How can they have good marriage.

If your marriage depend on your pastor or church or parent. You would never have a good marriage. Look I have an aunty whose whole life was destroyed by a pastor. I am telling you the truth. if i am telling a lie her cousin use to be with the NTA, you know her. The pastor was a 419 pastor. He was a pastor because he was collecting thier money and telling them lies.  That why you find me, critic pastor alot. Till this moment I am talking this aunty of mine, never had a baby. She should be about 60 years now. Her married got destroyed because she assume that all pastors are men of God. That not truth. If a pastors is looking for the down fall of your marriage. How can that man be a pastors.

You see let me put it this way have you seen Pastor Adeboye wife going to Bishop Oyedepo church every sunday?  No. If Pastor Adeboye start going to Bishop Oyedepo church , Do you think Bishop Oyedepo would question it. If he is a man of God? But if he does not question it. He is a false pastor. It means , he is more interested in the tithe and offering you offer him than your life.

What Am I saying is that God has a principle. I dont care if you are in North america. There is a principle God as laid in the bible if one person in a relationship does not follow it. The marriage is over.

Take your external family out of your marriage. If your sister, mother , father , pastor and brother are now the people, who determine your life  is finished. Look your brother only care for his children, so is your sister. When they say kill one person. They would shoot your child and let thier only child live. This is wisdom. It is like a story of a witch, they say bring your husband let us eat today, why dont you ask them, why they have not brought thier own husband, so that you can eat him first.??

Look, if you give pastor adeboye a gun and in a boat one person need to live. Your child or pastor adeboye child. 1 second history is made. Why, the yorubas says ti eni te ni, te to te to.  Well I dont  know how to explain this in english. But its means what is your is your and what is others is others.


If you give an igboman the chance to kill an igboman or kill a yorubaman to save one. The igbo man would shoot down the yoruba man several times. Why? They igbos would call it "Nkem". That how life and marriage is. If you take your partner like your, it would work. If your put other thing above your partner like mother, sister, brother, pastor , church and others. Your marriage would never work.

I say it again. The igbos call it   " Nkem"

quote by tallgal:« #128 on: Yesterday at 05:52:00 AM » 

The problem is people don't know how to separate romance form marriage. Marriag eis what happens whenyou see the real person. I personally think if you can live with all the bad habits you see after the romance has faded, then marriage is for you. If you are realistically expecting the romance to last forever, then no, marriage is not for you. 

Marriage takes DEDICATION and PATIENCE. The more of both you develop, the more successful it will be. I've been married for 15 years and I am still learning.

quote by godseyi:
« #130 on: Yesterday at 10:20:29 AM » 

Marriage is Overrated, but it is a necessary evil

darosha:

d word marriage is vry complex,but 2 my own opinion i bliv d major cause of broken marriages is as a result of lack of respect on d part of d ladies.most of our mothers got married at a tender age and are still happily married. if ladies cld swalow dier pride i bliv marriages wl strt workin of fine.

darosha:

d word marriage is vry complex,but 2 my own opinion i bliv d major cause of broken marriages is as a result of lack of respect on d part of d ladies.most of our mothers got married at a tender age and are still happily married. if ladies cld swalow dier pride i bliv marriages wl strt workin of fine.

darosha:

d word marriage is vry complex,but 2 my own opinion i bliv d major cause of broken marriages is as a result of lack of respect on d part of d ladies.most of our mothers got married at a tender age and are still happily married. if ladies cld swalow dier pride i bliv marriages wl strt workin of fine.

darosha:

d word marriage is vry complex,but 2 my own opinion i bliv d major cause of broken marriages is as a result of lack of respect on d part of d ladies.most of our mothers got married at a tender age and are still happily married. if ladies cld swalow dier pride i bliv marriages wl strt workin of fine.

tallgal:

The best advice my mum gave me is this:
You married someone that was 70, 80 or 90% perfect., The 30,20 and 10% are their faults. Don't turn the 20,30 or 10 into 70,80 and 90. You are not perfect yourself.

otukpo:

i have enjoyed reading this thread.

i think some pple go into marriage for the wrong reasons.

peachyfunk:

, in my own opinion i think marriage has been overrated cos people on this side of the world  don't marry becos dey actually want to but cos d society pushes dem to cos dey keep counting your age(u r ova 25 and not marred),how many potential husbands u've missed , dey make it sound like its d peak of your achievement blah,blah,blah and so people eventually get married and start having problems, basically we need to know dat wedding and marriage are different.