Pls i will like to know the roles of parent in seeing their child (ren) gettting marry. Even after marriage wht are their roles?

I have a guy , that is in love with a girl and the girl love him too, but the girl's parent (mother- a widow) is against it base on religion differences. while the lady in question has already changed to her guy religion. Her relationship with the guy's family is perfect but it is only her family standing as obstacle,

so wht are the roles of parents in marriage?

* Are they to determine spouse for their child?

To guide them, but not to chose for them.
But if they have mumu as a child, then, no wahala.
But only Mumu begat mumu sha

They should be their role models.

coolier:

They should be their role models.

That will be good, if the parents are the good ones

To make good moeny available to them,send them to good schools
in any part of the world and afford costly accommodations for them.

Kx:

To make good moeny available to them,send them to good schools
in any part of the world and afford costly accommodations for them.

Why shd they send you to school and all that, after you are already old enuf to marry?

Fhemmmy:

That will be good, if the parents are the good ones

I am only saying parents should lead by example.

coolier:


I am only saying parents should lead by example.

I know what you mean, but how can they lead by example, when some of the Fathers are terror within the home, some are cheaters, and some mothers will yab the man when him no get money.

provide the money for the wedding give advice and do not force your views because we all have to make our own mistakes

omega25red:

provide the money for the wedding give advice and do not force your views because we all have to make our own mistakes

If you want them to provide u the money to get married, then, it means you are still a boy and they have the right to tell you what to do.

sometimes many young couples are so much "in-love" with each that they fail to look in their rear view mirror and i believe its the job and responsibility of parents to advice them, guide them and direct them especially when it comes to marriage. marriage, i believe is a journey, and in that journey one will encounter many storms and waves, the parents are there direct/advice them, tell them what marriage is and not. every marriage needs support to grow and last

even after marriage, i believe they still have a role to play as an outside advisors, however, there should be boundaries as how far they can come. . .  . meaning not everything that happens between a couple should they be aware of. inasmuch, they should be there, couples should learn to manage their conflicts and martial issues without a phone call to mommy or daddy.

To guide and give them advice in their marriage.

~Sissy~:

sometimes many young couples are so much "in-love" with each that they fail to look in their rear view mirror and i believe its the job and responsibility of parents to advice them, guide them and direct them especially when it comes to marriage. marriage, i believe is a journey, and in that journey one will encounter many storms and waves, the parents are there direct them, tell them what marriage is and not.

even after marriage, i believe they still have a role to play as an outside advisors, however, there should be boundaries as how far they can come. . . . meaning not everything that happens between a couple should they be aware of. inasmuch, they should be there, couples should learn to manage their conflicts and martial issues without a phone call to mommy or daddy.

Beautiful, thus my question, how do a woman know that she is ready for marriage . . . . men are just one bigger beast with too much wahala, and woman needs to learn how to deal with them without breaking the fragile kid in them as well.

Fhemmmy:

Beautiful, thus my question, how do  a woman know that she is ready for marriage . . . . men are just one bigger beast with too much wahala, and woman needs to learn how to deal with them without breaking the fragile kid in them as well.

ahhh, Fhemmmy thats a good and serious question oo, because the age of maturity varies greatly among individuals especially in women. there is no measure of such especially when it comes to a lifetime commitment like marriage. a woman might be ready at 18, and another at 30, it all depends on individual growth, awareness and choice

however, in this day and time, one may claim that a woman should have her degree and be financially independent before marriage, but then not everyone would be able to achieve such and it doesnt mean they arent mature/ready for marriage.

personally for me, i think she is ready when she knows the kind of journey marriage entails. when shes emotionally and spiritually ready to make that commitment and ready to face responsibility. when she is ready to sacrifice, communicate, know to resolve most conflicts amicably,learn,listen,respect, and grow and when you have similar goals and aspirations with your spouse etc.  not neglecting other important aspects too.

~Sissy~:

sometimes many young couples are so much "in-love" with each that they fail to look in their rear view mirror and i believe its the job and responsibility of parents to advice them, guide them and direct them especially when it comes to marriage. marriage, i believe is a journey, and in that journey one will encounter many storms and waves, the parents are there direct them, tell them what marriage is and not.

even after marriage, i believe they still have a role to play as an outside advisors, however, there should be boundaries as how far they can come. . . . meaning not everything that happens between a couple should they be aware of. inasmuch, they should be there, couples should learn to manage their conflicts and martial issues without a phone call to mommy or daddy.

nice points.